Babies names

[alex2]

I don?t think I?d choose the same name that a close friend had chosen, even if it was a personal favourite ? it just doesn?t seem very original. It?s not that I think it?s a particularly big deal just that I?d want my baby to have a special name at least amongst close friends. Also that friend?s baby would take on the name, I would imagine. Isn?t it amazing how children grow into even the most bizarre names? First time you here them, you think no! A few meetings later and you couldn?t imagine them called anything else. I guess I?d be quite flattered if a friend named their child the same as mine ? but I wouldn?t think them particularly imaginative.

Mollipops - Awful, but true I'm afraid - I'm not sure that any first name could go well with Commode though really!

In the Telegraph today there is a......wait for it......... Mimi Magenta Poodle!
How cruel can you get!

Inkpen - sorry to leave you hanging! I thought you were (rightly so) correcting me when I said "Hymphrey Bogart" because it was Cary Grant who had the oft quoted line "Judy, Judy, Judy", pronounced with his particular ennunciation
"juday, juday, juday"...

So when this women would call the office, I would have that darn line running through my head for the rest of the day!

As, as a matter of course, I do now...

As, as? Hmmm...more coffee, please!

Recently found out that dh's ex fiance (who is much hated in our house) has called her baby exactly the same as ours (ours born Sept, hers in March). Loads of people have asked if I'm outraged. Sort of am, but also thank god we were first to have ours just in case she'd always liked the name and then it'd have looked like we were copying her! Pathetic isn't it? BTW, when I was on teaching practice years ago, there was a poor lad in one of my classes called Quentin Drawbridge ( I swear) and also a girl called Bambi. Luckily she was very petite with huge eyes and it suited her. Good job she didn't grow up to be a right old heffalump...

Rara, that strikes me as a bit of a weird thing to do on your dh's ex's part...is it coincidence or definitely a deliberate thing? Maybe she honestly did always like the name/s and just decided to stay with it...one thing in her favour I guess it shows she has no animosity or bitterness or she wouldn't be able to handle the idea at all.

Personally, I had always liked the name Kathryn or similar for a girl, but it turned out my dh's ex's name was Katherine/Kathy and I couldn't deal with it - can't stand either name now, still brings back negative vibes to me. Both my nanna and mil's have the middle name Kathleen, so it was a point of contention, but I couldn't even begin to imagine using it for my dd's middle name.

What can I say except I can understand if you feel uncomfortable about it, but I guess all you can really do is accept that she doesn't! (Wouldn't it be worse if dh had wanted to call your baby his ex's name or vice versa!) Sorry if that's not much help! All the best

mollipops - i wouldn't be surprised at all if it was deliberate. She finished with dh, after making his life quite a misery (he was besotted, unfort.) Some time after he met me and we had a shaky start due to the fact he found it v hard to trust anyone, blahblahblah... and 4 weeks into our relationship, guess who heard about it and suddenly found dh very attractive again? She started hanging round him but eventually dh saw the light and told her where to get off. I think she finds it v hard to believe he could actually be happy with anyone but her (even tho he was actually desperately UNhappy with her!). Anyway, that was 3 yrs ago now, but we still hear about her from time to time, as dh still sees her mum sometimes (and is on gd terms with her). She (ex) still always asks after him, so I kind of think she has got a thing about him and maybe this "inspired" her choice of baby name?! Don't know really...
Funny tho, how experiences with people can put you off names. We very nearly didn't have our dd's name, even tho it was a firm fave, as the old lady whose house we moved into when i was preggers had the same name and was a right old nightmare and caused us untold hassle when we were moving. I'm glad we stuck with it in the end, tho, as it really suits dd

Rara - what is the name!!! I'm busting to know what it is now

Mmmn - old lady how about Daisy, Lily, Rose, Maud or Annie? Am I getting warm? R

Very warm! I Guess the "old lady's name" clue gave you a hand! It's Molly...

Excellent name!

It's totally off topic but...Rara, how do you feel about dh being on good terms with his ex's mum? I had this with my dh's ex who was, and is still, in touch with dh's mum and I felt very hostile and uncomfortable about it, though not to the same extent now, since she is now married with children too. But I felt as if my mil was keeping my dh up-to-date about his ex (we weren't yet married) since she felt she was the right girl for him rather than me. Very messy...dh couldn't see a problem with it - until I asked him how he would feel if my mum had kept in touch with one of my ex's and reported back to me constantly on how he was doing etc. Then he got my point! Is this a sore point with you or not? I know I'm being a right stickybeak here but I couldn't help asking!

Not at all, Mollipops; I'm as much interested in everyone else's business as the next person! Dh and his ex got together via her mum as dh and the mum worked together (and still do). Situation was a bit tricky until very recently as her mum still v fond of dh and occasionally would claim "ownership" of him in front of new people at work: "This is lovely P, who was very nearly my son in law..." etc. which used to annoy the wotsits off me when dh told me. However, I know she's not got anything against me and is very friendly (no, really!) when we see her. She thought me and dh had a prob with her daughter because of a falling out they had over the engagement ring and she had no idea what a bitch her dd had been. When she brought her daughter's baby photos into work and dh wasn't v interested, she then told the ex who was apparently "very hurt" (ah diddums) and so was her mum. Dh then saw fit to put the mum straight on some of the not so lovely behaviour of her dd during their relationship (after warning her she might not like what she heard) and she was very understanding. She also said she was aware her dd was no angel and hated the way she's been with dh, but she still loved her (as every mother should!) Since then it's been much better, dh has managed to coo over one or two pics as a supportive friend of the proud granny and no more has been said about the ex at work. Hurrah! and phew!