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Disgusting Habits (not mine, DH)

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Revolted · 02/08/2004 19:37

Sorry to raise this, but I've put up with it for long enough - dh cannot seem to realise that towels are for drying oneself on and bottoms need wiping with toilet paper - how do i deal with this without sounding petty and embarrassing dh?! (and tell me Im not the only one with a disgusting husbznd!)

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sponge · 02/08/2004 19:43

Are you saying that he wipes himself with a towel, or simply that he doesn't wipe very effectively so the towels are getting dirty?

Piffleoffagus · 02/08/2004 19:50

oh god. I would be really blunt and call him a dirty sod and give him the really manky towels that you use for washing the car/dog/windows with...

lou33 · 02/08/2004 19:58

Make him wash the towels himself. Next time you see his best mate or is in the company of a lady, ask them what he thinks. If he gets embarrassed then tell him to stop doing it and you will stop mentioning it.

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Revolted · 02/08/2004 20:47

Sponge, yes he is just lazy I think, and doesn't wipe properly (he does his own washing so Im spared the sight and smell of his undies!)

Think I will be blunt! Thanks ladies.

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dinny · 02/08/2004 21:04

He wipes his bum with a towel after going for a poo?! Is he normal in other ways? That is so digusting I can't believe it!!

gloworm · 02/08/2004 21:09

uuuuugh!!! why is he wiping with towel? do you mean after bath, surely he would be clean then?
or do you mean wiping after toilet, uuuuugh!!

prettycandles · 03/08/2004 14:47

Are you absolutely sure that the marks are what you think they are? I had the same situation wiht my dh, finally managed to talk to him about it, and it turned out that the 'stains' were actually blood from when he cuts himself shaving!

sponge · 03/08/2004 15:32

Could you bring it up in a roundabout way. Say you think one of the kids has been using the towels to wipe themselves and isn't it disgusting (do you have kids of an age where this would work?) then he'll get the idea without you having to totally embarrass him.

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Revolted · 03/08/2004 16:02

Ohhh yesss, they are definitely what I think they are! Didn't say anything yesterday, but am going to change the towels today (I don't use his!!!) and will make my point (I'm too embarrassed to use my 'real' name on here!)

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Fio2 · 03/08/2004 16:05

i would tell all his family and embarass him

Blu · 03/08/2004 16:07

So, basically, he is failing to wipe properly, and then failing to wash properly before drying himself? He's not actually wiping with a towel first, is he???? Put the towels out of reach from the toilet - and be blunt! Show him the towels and ask him how you are supposed to get intimate with someone who washes so ineffectively.

Blu · 03/08/2004 16:08

And don't feel implicated, Revolted! My own dp has some pretty revolting habits himself - like sniffing his undrpants to see if he can wear them for another day.

hercules · 03/08/2004 16:14

So does mine Blu - so gross!!!!!!!

Gingerbear · 03/08/2004 16:15

leave a note on the toilet lid saying

"My darling husband, please stop wiping your shitty arse on the towels

kiss kiss xx"

or "Here is a pack of wet wipes and sudacrem, please call me if would you like me to do your bum for you"

Nimme · 03/08/2004 16:16

How about saying that you find it a bit nasty, off putting - perhaps adding you find hygiene a real turn on. And suggest using wet wipes. All our toilets have a box of Kandoo (or whatever they're called) and I for one love them.

Gingerbear · 03/08/2004 16:22

In Asia there is no loo roll. usually a bucket with a small plastic scoop and you wash with the left hand.

posher places have a little shower hose next to the loo

Never managed to clean up without leaving with a wet bum. How the Malays managed it in business suits I have no idea......

Gingerbear · 03/08/2004 16:24

Oh, and didn't Graham Norton once have on a high tech Japanese loo where a little tube came out automatically afterwards to squirt water????

(I am becoming obsessed...............)

almost40 · 03/08/2004 16:40

And I thought DH's leaving his toe clippings around the house was bad! If it is really visible, Revolted, it sounds to me as though he's not completely finishing the job on the loo. Yuck!!!! You must say something.

tex111 · 03/08/2004 17:26

Gingerbear, we lived in Japan for a while and some of the loos had the water you described (with different jets for front and back plus temperature and pressure controls) and a blower to make sure you didn't leave with a wet bum. I even used one in a very posh hotel that sprayed perfume on my bottom at the end.

highlander · 03/08/2004 18:56

Dear revolted,

How long have I longed for this thread

With my DH, being brought up on a farm where his parents were too busy to supervise him doesn't help. So I've gone back to basics with him on a few issues:

He had gingivitis and horrible teeth cos he didn't realise you have to scrub X2 daily. Oh, the excuses I got - there's no fluoride in Ulster, I have soft teeth etc....

Tooth brushes need rinsing. That gunk that's clogging half way up the bristles is teeming with germs (and last months dinners).

A man's sweaty armpits is horrible. No, it's not only homosexual people who wear deodorant

When the laudry basket is full, the whole needs washing, not just a few choice items from the top.

At the dinner table, when making a point during a discussion, pointing with your fork can appear threatening.

etc etc etc

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Revolted · 03/08/2004 19:48

Oh deary me, Gingerbear and Highlander, I am sitting here PMSL and ROFLMAO and dh is wondering what the feck I'm laughing at (if only he knew!) Oooh, shall I do the note...tempted!!!

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Blu · 03/08/2004 20:11

Yeah, but Hercules: does yours ever ask for a second opinion???

hercules · 03/08/2004 20:20

Didnt want to put that but seeing as you mentioned it yes!

I have NEVER EVER agreed to do this though!

Well, except sometimes when I'm trying to work out if the pair on the floor is unworn or needs a wash

strangerthanfiction · 03/08/2004 21:40

Yuck, yuck, yuck, Revolted. But I still can't work out how he's getting it on the towel. So, he does a poo, wipes his bum with paper (badly) then wipes again on the towel?

Paula71 · 03/08/2004 21:53

But revolted does your DH insist on telling you the shape, size and colour of his poo. Like I don't see enough with ds twins.

Last week he told me it was "as big as a baby's arm." Oh what, do I need to know that!