Nikcolas Thread

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A thread for you to do what you do

no he dint get them im so excited about collage but im really nervous too

I think there's a thread for people starting college / studying again this Autumn - I guess everyone does feel nervous - all the other people who will be starting on your course, too.

Will you be able to get a student railcard? Do those still enable you to use trains really cheaply? You could go for a nice day trip somewhere.

loads of great free stuff for you and DD to do in central london if you are OK for the train/bus fare in and a travel card.

well i dont no what to say thank you so much for the book tokens,
i was so suprised this morning it was lovely and i was having a really crap morning aswell i am really touched that you thought of me thank you so much you are all truly truly lovely people xxxxxxxxxxxx excuse me because im blubing , mumanet has really changed my life and every person on here is amazing i love you all to bits thank you xxxxxxxxxxx

Everyone's nervous. The thing is, you're doing it! Brilliant!

Oooh, just seen that...enjoy!

(And we won't tell anyone if you buy a book or two for yourself too )

thank you mi xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx xx

All thanks are due to Blu!

thank you blu xxxxxxxxx

dd said "fank you" xxxxxxxxxxx

No, all thanks to the other lovely people who sent book tokens - some more in the pipeline too - and anyone else who would like to make a contribution to 'Nickola's College Book Fund' is welcome to contact me and I'll sort it out for you. XXXX Blu.

Nikola do not let Shireen go round to his family without you - these are the people that said they would harm you and DD if you even tried to get money off of your DP.

If I were you I would insist that I went to or they came to me when DP was present but they have to realise that you and Shireen are a package and they can't just decide to be in her life but not yours.

As for your DP - its nice being wanted and I am at my best when I am making DP happy (not in the conjugal sense (well at the moent anyway!!)) but a relationship os about that other person getting pleasure out of making you happy - DP buying me a book or a pair of maternity jeans or telling me to sit down and he will do the ironing or him just listening to the shit I have to put up with from X2b - and other little things that show mw how much he loves me, a little cuddle or stroke or just holding my hand - that is a proper realitionship is about it is not one way traffic - all well and good your DP running back to you when things go wrong but remember this is the coward who has not stood up for you and his daughter and has let you be so so sad for so long.

Sort you and Shireen out - get to college and then decide when you are a stronger more resiliant more well rounded person whether you need him in your life.

ANd whatever you do don;t put your dreams on hold for him.

Good Luck Honey. XXX

thank you twinkie xxx

i just wanted to say again that you are all wonderfull xxxxxxxxx im having a soppy moment xx

collage is so very close now, dd is really excited about nursery but im really worried about her she drives me mad but ill miss her so much

It's good she's excited. She'll still send most her her time with you - driving you mad

im just scareed about leaving her after seeing that nursery programm on tv a few weeks ago

You know what? TV companies have teams of researchers working for ages to find material like that! 100's of MN-ers and their kids are happy and secure with the nurseries thay have chosen. just make sure you make space each day for Shireen to tell you about how she has been and what happened - and you'd soon get a clue if anything was amiss, now she's old enough to talk to you.

i no but im soo woriied about leaving her i keep thinking of things that "could" happen

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Er Nickola - I really don't mean this as horribly as it sounds, but I feel much happier with the thought of your DD playing happily in the safety of a state nursery (remember all the ones in that programme were private), than in the clutches of your DP's violent and irratinal family!

You're naturally anxious - every Mum is - look at all the threads under 'going back to work' and you'll find yourself in good company! But you also know that she will thrive on the company, the new stimulation and activity - not to mention the excited and confident new Mum she will have, doing well at college!

I know, it is hard, though! Don't think anyone will tell you it isn't.

They didn't show the nice nurseries they visited on that programme only the bad ones. My dd has gone to a nursery since she was 3 months - I pick her up at various times in the day and I had never seen anything I am unhappy with. Think of all the skills she will learn while she goes to nursery, all the friends she will make and all the activites she will do at nursery that you couldn't do at home. If you are still worried talk to them - ask them how they will get your daughter to settle, what they will do if she misbehaves, how they ensure she is being taught all the early learning goals etc.

i no deep down that she will be ok i think she will love it shes had no contact with either of our familes till now and she has never had children to play with thats why shes such a handfull, but i will miss he and no doubt on the first day i will cry and she wont even notice ive gone but id prefere that then her being clingy,

Nik, I really have been thinking about the nursery and about how much she's going to GAIN from it - other children, lots of things to do, other adults in her life too, painting and singing and playing games...really lovely. It is hard, but it's also so nice seeing how much they get from it, really it is.

i no it will do her the world of good and i no she will love it im just been a over protective mother i suppose, its just she has never been away from me for that long before,

ive got my induction tomorow at collage