bloss - I don't have a particularly comfortable veiw of Christianity, and I am most certainly not godly. I'm just not kept awake at night by the thought of gay people having sex or the fact that I don't obey my husband (which I don't think would be fair to either of us, although it might make my life a lot simpler.) The stuff that does? Material wealth - the fact that I have far more than I need. Having to forgive my enemies - the drunk drivers, the drug dealers, the paedophiles, the rapists, who make me fearful for my daughter's future. Turning the other cheek (as you can probably tell!) And not only forgiving my enemies, but loving them. And the biggest thing of all - that I don't trust in God as I should, otherwise I wouldn't find myself praying to God to look after my little one so often when I know that God loves her far more than I can imagine and has her in his care always.
I don't believe in the infallibility of the Bible. To do so only leads to arguments about creationism and the like which may be interesting but ultimately detract from the real issues at the centre of our faith. I do obey God; I try to love him and love my neighbour. But I feel uncomfortable with pointing the finger at people if their lifestyles don't fit in with our ideas. The only thing which I would be moved to speak out on is cruelty, such as a man physically or mentally abusing his family; or behaviour likely to cause pain, such as an adulterous affair. I understand your point about it being okay to judge providing you admit your own sin but to know your sins you have to be incredibly self-aware. I know that I sin every day and that I actually notice only a tiny percentage of it.
It may seem like universalism is a comfy idea, with the whole of creation living in a Disney-style heaven and Hitler et al suddenly turned into cuddly bunny-huggers. Actually, it isn't like that for me. Firstly, it means that I have to accept that my reward will ultimately be the same as Hitler and all his ilk. Secondly, because I also believe in a just God, it means that I also believe in a process of judgement and cleansing that I don't think is going to be all that pleasant.
I do object to the idea that if you believe as I do then you are not a 'proper' Christian. I am fully committed to the God that I love and to his Son who gave his life for me. I don't see gentle Jesus, meek and mild (although he was undoubtedly capable of great gentleness); I see a revolutionary figure calling me and challenging me to take my life out of its safeness and into places that frighten the hell out of me, and with people that I don't know how to deal with.
At the end of the day, Christians have always disagreed. Paul argued with Peter. A thousand years' ago they argued about how many angels you could get on a pinhead. Disagreement about transubstansiation and teh worship of saints tore Christianity apart. More recently Anglicanism nearly split because of the ordination of women; it may yet do so if homosexuals are ordained. If I had voiced my veiws a few hundred years'ago I would have been burned at the stake as a heretic!