F**king childs mother!!!!!!

[woodpops]

Sorry about the strong language but I feel very strongly about this one. I posted a thread yesterday about my ds being a little gem and not retaliating when a brat at nursery bit him. That flamining brats mother has today told me my ds hit her ds yesterday and that her ds has a big bump on his head. When I spoke to nursery about it they said that this womans ds had a go at my ds and when they told her ds off he threw hismself on the floor and banged his head in temper. She said this very loudly in fornt of other parents and then mentioned about the time my ds biting hers. I was then stopped by a parent in the car park about my son biting. He did it once and he only did it because her ds had bitten my dd. Bless him he was sticking up for his sister but he did get punished because biting is one thing I really can't tollerate. I've phoned the nursery manager this morning and had a word with her but other than that what can I do?? For some reason her brat is singleing my ds out. Most days my ds is telling me this kid has hit him, pushed him etc. What else can I do????

I suppose the only thing you can do is rise above the other woman. Be calm, but do make the point, if she has a go again, that she should be sure about her facts, and that all your son has ever done is retaliate to what her son has done and that in fact you are PROUD of your son, as he deos NOT normally retaliate as HE understands that it is wrong to bite or push - something it would appear that her son has not yet learnt.

The nursery may well feel that they have done all they can - they have dealth with the incident with the child at the time. They can't be responsible for what he tells his mother.

Having said that, if their version is correct, then they should have given the mother an incident report as to WHY he had a bump on his head. Ask them if they did, and if not, why not.

don't worry, the nursery understand your concerns and it will be old news by then

Think you need to talk to the nursery again. It is most definitely their problem. when my son was pinching a lot they only put the incidents in the book when he had left a scratch mark- UNLESS the other child was the sort to go home and tell his/her mother a rather elaborate story. In which case it went in the incident book and they explained the situation to the mother when she picked her child up.

if it's happening in nursery it is up to them to sort out.

this thread seems ot be taking on a life of its own

agree with JJ just leave it to the,
keep out of it

woodpops, sorry to hear you are in this predicament.

My DS1 was at nursery with his best friend who has always been a biter and a shover and a hitter completely without warning or build up when things didn't go his way ever since they were tinies together. My DS1 loves this kids and never retalliates.

We thought perhaps a nursery environment woud alleviate this dull trend and that the boys' relationship would develop in a different way away from watchful parents, but it didn't. The kid still bit and hit DS1 across the eys with swords etc. We spoke to nursery and they were very professional and said it was neither possible or preferable to police a child all the time, so we took DS1 out of nursery and he doesn't see the other kid anymore.We just couldn't take the risk that this kid would really do some damage one day.

Sadly his mother thinks we are over-reacting, and we are no longer friends, but I would rather have that than the worry I used to feel before every nursery session that this kid would strike again.

I'm afraid it is just a choice you have to make. And while I agree that your nursery staff are not being very sensitive or professional and this other mother is clearly in denial, you have to think about your kid's safety.

Feeling alot happier now. Not only have I calmed down a little but had a very long conversation on the phone with nursery this afternoon and got alot of things sorted. We'll just have to wait and see what next week brings. Oh yeah, nearly fogot .......... b'day party plans are well under way he,he,he