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Would you be annoyed if ....

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hunkeydorey · 20/02/2007 17:10

a group of Yr2 boys were surrounding your YrR dd in the playground and making her say nasty things about you? (as in nasty things about you, the mum).

Taking dd to brownies now but would be interested to know what you think.

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FioFio · 20/02/2007 17:11

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hunkeydorey · 20/02/2007 17:13

Yes. She had to say that she didn't love me and that i was a poo poo head etc etc. She said she had to say it because they wouldn't let her out.

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coppertop · 20/02/2007 17:14

Annoyed? I'd be furious.

airy · 20/02/2007 17:14

I'd be livid she must have been scared, poor love.

I'd definitely be talking to someone about it, it's bullying plain and simple.

colditz · 20/02/2007 17:14

Yes I would, because that is bullying. I'd report it. Hunkeydory

danceswithnewboots · 20/02/2007 17:16

Definitely report it. That's awful. and

skiwear · 20/02/2007 17:17

yeah would be livid if I caught anyone doing this with dd. Hope they leave her alone tomorrow

Mellowma · 20/02/2007 17:22

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Hulababy · 20/02/2007 17:31

I'd be fuming. Your poor DD. It is bullying plain and simple. You must report it to the school

jhyesmum · 20/02/2007 17:38

absolutley. I would be fuming. Speak to your DD's teacher.

Good luck

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hunkeydorey · 20/02/2007 18:01

I have a parent's evening tomorrow. It is more complicated than it sounds though. This group of boys, were the ones that have been bullying ds. I tried to deal with that with the school and after a complete nightmare situation, it seemed that things had been sorted out.

However, now I discover that as they can't get away with bullying ds anymore, they've moved on to dd instead.

I will try and find my previous threads about ds, to try and give you the background.

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hunkeydorey · 20/02/2007 18:14

Old thread here

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deaconblue · 20/02/2007 19:08

How bizarre, are you their teacher or something? Even then I'd still be furious

GooseyLoosey · 20/02/2007 19:18

Very annoyed. Would want to stop them leaving playground until I had got them to say they were poo poo heads, not to mention thoughtless thugs (deleted original adjectives on the grounds of their age).

Would also alert the school in the spirit of allowing them to stop the problem in its tracks before it develops into something more serious as it seems it has the potential to do.

Chandra · 20/02/2007 19:26

DS started saying "I don't like your mummy" quite a lot when playing with his toys.. and I went a bit... paranoid???

So, yes, I would be livid.

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hunkeydorey · 20/02/2007 22:17

No, I'm not their teacher.

I don't know what to do. I don't know who to speak to, so that something happens. As it is dd that is now having a hard time, I guess I should speak to her teacher. I also have a meeting with ds's teacher as well. I imagine she will tell me how everything has been sorted out now and how marvellous they have been. Not sure what she will say when I tell her the problem has just moved on.

Ds's teacher already thinks I'm hysterical and over emotional, I really need to be clear about this before I go in and see her. If I get upset, then I know she won't take me seriously.

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deaconblue · 21/02/2007 08:20

How frustrating for you. Seems like the school wants to brush stuff under the carpet and that's no good, it only comes back worse. I've worked at schools which like to claim there's no bullying but I would much rather a school was honest and discussed what it does about the bullying that exists everywhere. I would write everything down, including any questions you have about their policy so that you can come across clearly and not worry about seeming emotional.

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hunkeydorey · 21/02/2007 10:14

SB thanks for your comments. Who would you concentrate on dd's teacher or ds's?

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Bucketsofdynomite · 21/02/2007 10:34

Speak to both teachers so they can keep an eye out. How frightening for a 4 or 5yr old.

serenity · 21/02/2007 10:38

I'd talk to DDs as DSs teacher hasn't exactly been jumping to support you before. If you can identify the bullys then DDs teacher can deal with them and their teacher herself. Do you get on better with her? AS you're seeing the other teacher anyway I'd still mention it to her.

This is really sucky HD, I wish there was something I could do to help (really want to go down and yell at them on your behalf)

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hunkeydorey · 21/02/2007 10:46

The whole thing is really winding me up. I know as far as bullying goes, this is fairly low key at the moment, but I want it stopped, I don't want this to carry on through school.

Ds's teacher really thinks I'm hysterical, she kept telling me to get myself under control blah blah. She is definitely of the stiff upper lip variety. I've really got to pull myself together this time. I feel like just putting them in a different school now though. God someone give me a slap and make me tough for the afternoon.

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deaconblue · 21/02/2007 10:58

DS' teacher is being very rude, I wouldn't dream of speaking to a parent like that. To be honest I would make an appointment with the headteacher if you feel ds' teacher isn't taking you or the problem seriously. It's perfectly fine to take a friend or other relative with you to the meeting too, it shows them you mean business and helps you to remember what was said when you get back home.

SSShakeTheChi · 21/02/2007 11:00

I would take my dd out of that school.

Hassled · 21/02/2007 11:04

Where were the playground supervisors while this was happening? A group of older boys surrounding a 4 year old girl can't (or at least shouldn't have) gone unnoticed by an adult. If you get no joy with DD's teacher and don't want to go to the Head, you could try talking to a school governor.

serenity · 21/02/2007 11:09

Would it help to write a list of all the things you need to mention? You might be able to keep it together better if you've got something to concentrate on whilst you're discussing it with her. I have every sympathy, I started crying on the phone to my line manager yesterday when explaining that I'd have to take some unpaid leave (DH is in hospital) I think it's just because I've been a bit isolated. Actually that could be worth a try - is there a RL person you can sit down with beforehand, thrash it out with them, have a cry and a cup of tea and then go to see the teacher calm and freshly purged?