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Zombie's Cancer Journey: The Beginning of the End

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IamtheZombie · 24/11/2016 09:09

Previous thread is HERE

Five years on from my first treatment, the options have pretty much run out.

Please join us for the rest of the journey. Doom and gloom is absolutely banned. There are still laughs and love to share and celebrate.

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MsHooliesCardigan · 05/12/2016 08:43

Zombie I've just found this thread. Can I come to the wedding? Hope you're feeling ok. Very interested in the craft gin. My one attempt at home brewing did not end well.

Mummylin · 05/12/2016 10:08

My brain is trying to picture what sort of photo we are going to have ! The coloured tutu,s my beautiful dress, Fatty,s dressed up cat. It will be a photo like no other wedding snap ! Grin
Zombie hope the weekend has been good for you.

Allalonenow · 05/12/2016 10:08

There's an item on BBC site about Penarth's Advent windows ikl so you are right up there with the trend setters! Xmas Smile

That's one handsome cat!

It's too chilly in December to wear a tutu, though might look good with my pink Doc Martens.

Hope your day is going smoothly Zombie and you are snug in your kitchen with the AGA blasting away.

Susiesoap7 · 05/12/2016 18:19

We will need thermals with tutus, pink doc martens sound good! Oh I can't wait to see the pic, zombie will be so proud to show it to mr n mrs zombielad! 😻😻

PacificDogwod · 05/12/2016 19:08

OMG, it is cold here!

Zombie, I hope your Aga is as warm as your heart.

Tomorrow I shall be wearing my long duvet coat.

MrsWembley · 05/12/2016 19:19

Hello, Zombie! I don't get out much anymore and have only just spotted you all over here! Mwah!

Hang on, did I see something about a wedding?

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 05/12/2016 19:23

Quite chilly here too, no central heating and no internal doors downstairs doesn't help!

Are you in Scotland PD? Probably worse there than south coast.

Have stained a floor today, made tiny kitchen detail decisions and had a good meeting with a welder.

Good day

PacificDogwod · 05/12/2016 19:27

Wow, BBB, lots of impressive achievement!
You need a slanket. And warm water bottles. And Grin - whether artisan or otherwise Grin

Yep,I'm north of Hadrian's Wall.
We had our broken central heating last week when the temperatures were above freezing, so that is something to be grateful for. All fixed now. DSs enjoyed having no hot water for 48 hours a bit TOO much - the teenager ones became a bit overly ripe.... Hmm

Fiderer · 05/12/2016 19:32

Am not going anywhere near a tutu.

It's foggy here - freezing fog. Hate it. Rain = smells good, waters garden. Snow = pretty when inside looking at snow-covered rooftops.

Freezing fog = horrid. Freezes bones.

IamtheZombie · 05/12/2016 19:53

Evening. I have made a decision.

I believe all of you know that throughout the trials and tribulations of the past five years, I have always stressed that maintaining a quality of life that I find acceptable has been (and remains) my number one priority. Living without the opportunity of spending time with the people I care about or having the odd bit of fun is not, in my opinion, life. It is merely existence and a miserable one at that.

The trial I have been invited to join is promising and exciting. However it does not come with any reassurance that it will offer me any additional time. It's still a Stage 1 trial.

I am still recovering from my trip to the Royal Marsden last Friday. I received a phone call from them first thing this morning to ask me to come back on Wednesday for a fairly full day of scans and other tests. Entering the trial would involve going to London for 1 - 2 days every week for the next 2 1/2 - 3 months. Thereafter I would need to attend at least every 4 weeks; sometimes every 2 weeks. The common side effects of the 2 drugs include fatigue and various digestive problems. (I have more than enough of those as it is.) Essentially the trial would become my entire life. There would be no time for anything else.

That is not how I want to spend the precious time I do have left. I want to manage my pain as well as possible. I want to spend time with family and friends. I want to continue to love and laugh.

I am therefore going to decline the invitation to take part in the trial.

I discussed all of this at length with ZombieLad last night. He understands and supports me in this decision.

I realise that some of you may be upset that I'm not seizing an opportunity to possibly, just possibly, extend my life for a few more weeks or months. I regret that but hope you can understand why I have come to this decision.

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PurpleDaisies · 05/12/2016 19:56

It sounds like you've made absolutely the right decision zombie.

ExitPursuedBySantaSpartacus · 05/12/2016 19:57

I respect your decision and fully understand.

Sending love and warmth and happy times.

How's the Aga?

StealthPolarBear · 05/12/2016 19:58

Wow zombie what a hard decision. You've had too much to decide too young. X

PacificDogwod · 05/12/2016 19:59

Oh, Zombie Thanks

I am sure you have made a very considered and well-thought through decision.
And fwiw and IME, if it is the right decision for you, then it is the right decision.

Not for anybody else to say.

I know this is trite, but it is also so true (like many trite things): in my foyer of my kids' primary school it says over the antique clock that was the school's original clock when it opened in the late 1800s "Don't count the hours, make the hours count".
And that is what you are choosing to do.
A brave and very valid choice.

Hope your getting your strength back from your trip and your tummy is behaving itself xx

PacificDogwod · 05/12/2016 19:59

It's not 'my' foyer, it's the school's foyer Blush

PacificDogwod · 05/12/2016 20:00

Omg.
'you're'

And I call myself a pedant....

EverySongbirdSays · 05/12/2016 20:01

Zombie

You have to do what's right for you.

Flowers
dailymailarecunts · 05/12/2016 20:01

zombie you are incredible, it sounds like you have made the right decision for you and your family. Thinking of you with love Flowers

Goingtobeawesome · 05/12/2016 20:02

Zombie, I am a late comer to your thread but I have huge admiration for your strength. You know your own mind and confidently make your own decisions. No one has ever inspired me before. Now you have. Thank you.

MsHooliesCardigan · 05/12/2016 20:05

Zombie No decent person would even think of questioning your decision. FWIW, I had a friend in a very similar position who made the same choice. She was in her early 30's with 2 young children. She packed more into her last year than many people do in a lifetime- we're talking parachute jumps by someone scared of heights. I still miss her. I wish you all the best Flowers

Rowgtfc72 · 05/12/2016 20:05

Zombie,personally I think you are a very wise lady Flowers

Blossomdeary · 05/12/2016 20:06

A good decision Zombie - sometimes treatments can take over your life and leave no room/energy/well-being for what life is all about: sharing time and love and laughter with friends and family. You need some real life lived as you want to; rather than life as a patient. Good on you. Flowers

Somerville · 05/12/2016 20:08

The bloody broken heating on this thread is catching, chaps. Proper catching!
Came back from hearing our banns being read on Sunday morning, feeling all loved up, to a flooded living room. The most likely explanation is a leak in my underfloor heating.
So my floors come up in a few days and - joy of joys - the leak might not actually be in the living room. It might be elsewhere on the ground floor but the water just pooling there. Hmm
I'm generally pretty good at not panicking. Shit happens and all we can control is our response, and all that.
But... as if it's not a busy enough time of year with Christmas and a wedding not long after... but potentially all my floors up, too! Arrgh!

Zombie, I hope you've had a good day. Flowers

Somerville · 05/12/2016 20:09

Gosh, sorry, that was an unfortunately times x post. It teaches me to start typing, get called away, and carry on without refreshing. Will just catch up.

ExitPursuedBySantaSpartacus · 05/12/2016 20:10

Oh gosh. Now I'm crying.