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Would you send this to another mner?

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SendOrNot · 27/01/2007 23:07

Dear xxxxx

I'm still waiting for a cheque from you to cover the p&p on the xxxx I sent in good faith before Christmas. I know ?x isn't much money and tbh, I'm sure I can afford to live without it, but I don't like the thought that another Mum might deliberately put me out of pocket. If you truly can't afford it, then please eamil me and let me know. I know the other mner who was interested would not have let me down and I assumed it would have been the same from yourself as you are a regular poster and if I remember correctly, I've sent you clothes for your dc before.

Please restore my faith in you by either sending the cheque or PO, or being honest and letting me know if you can't. I feel sad about this tbh and find it hard to believe that two cheques have got lost in the post. Please don't take this the wrong way - I don't wish to accuse you of anything, but I've had no cheque, no explaination and no reply to my last email.............I'll leave it up to you and if I don't hear from you, well, I can only draw my own conclusion from that and I won't worry any more about it. If you've simply forgotten about it, then please accept my apologies and I'll expect a cheque in the post soon.

Regards

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Fireflyfairy2 · 27/01/2007 23:09

Well, whoever you sent it to now is going to feel shite.

PinkTulips · 27/01/2007 23:10

lol... how paranoid am i... i immediatly had to think and make sure i didn't owe anyone money

tbh it sounds pretty tense and hostile but then i'd imagine thats how you feel about the situation at this point

Dinosaur · 27/01/2007 23:12

Looks okay to me. If the arrangement you make with someone is that they pay p&p, what is wrong with reminding them?

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SendOrNot · 27/01/2007 23:12

I haven't sent it fff2. I don't know if I should tbh.

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SendOrNot · 27/01/2007 23:13

I have reminded in a much more friendly manner, more than once.

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DimpledThighs · 27/01/2007 23:13

That is very polite (any luck she will se it on here!)

why not:

Dear xxxxx

I still have not had to cheque for xxxx that I sent you before christmas.

Send it asap or let me know if you are unable to.

wotzsaname · 27/01/2007 23:14

"Please don't take this the wrong way - I don't wish to accuse you of anything"

how else would you word it? I wouldnt take this as hostile if it was a simple error and had been overlooked, i'd just think OMG yea, need to do do something.

DimpledThighs · 27/01/2007 23:14

I would hate to jepodise my mnetting by not sending a cheque I had agreed to send!

PinkTulips · 27/01/2007 23:15

lol at us always being on here late at night!

Nemo2007 · 27/01/2007 23:15

god thought this was me then..but remembered I dont have a cheque book

Fireflyfairy2 · 27/01/2007 23:16

I remember on another forum (FLame you will remember too!!) I posted someone a cloth nappy (in good faith) & some other items. The nappy was £8 but the other items were just for postage. That was about 2 yrs ago. First of all she said she never got the parcel, I contacted RM, she had got the parcel. I got really upset & annoyed about this... she said twice she sent the cheque, she bloody well didn't.

So I can understand why you want your P&P, definitely... I just meant that perhaps you could just have sent it to whoever it was & not put it here for scrutinization. ((But please feel free to ignore me, most people do ))

Califrau · 27/01/2007 23:16

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SendOrNot · 27/01/2007 23:16

DT - that's pretty much what I've sent before - very gentle, but now I don't know what to think!

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TravellingontheClaphamOmnibus · 27/01/2007 23:17

send it!

Fireflyfairy2 · 27/01/2007 23:17

Heya PT

Late at night with matchsticks propped to open the eyelids......

blossomhill · 27/01/2007 23:17

I think that's fine, send it.

PinkTulips · 27/01/2007 23:19

am trying to outlast ds so he won't be straight into bed with me am propped up against the wall i'm so shattered!

NappiesGalore · 27/01/2007 23:20

i think that if you dont really want or need the money, then you should leave it alone and put it down to experience. not send anything else to that person if you feel the way you do about it... she may well be swamped and overwhelmed and not coping generally, hence not sorting you out, and if thats the case, that letter will be far from helpful..

course, she could just be inconsiderate and/or taking you for a ride, in which case, live and learn.

if it was more money, id chase it... but since its only P&P...

just my opinion of course

Dinosaur · 27/01/2007 23:20

PT, I so remember that feeling...

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SendOrNot · 27/01/2007 23:20

No I'm not sure Califrau, but my last emails have had no reply.

I see what you mean fff2 - and tbh, I'll probably not bother, but I can't help feeling saddened and a bit 'had'.

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PinkTulips · 27/01/2007 23:22

tbh if she's taking you for a ride she probably won't bother sending the money anyway but if she's screwed for money and is really stuck she might just be avoiding you until she has it out of embarressment

Fireflyfairy2 · 27/01/2007 23:26

About September last yr I got a paypal from a 3rd party who knew all about this woman not paying me & took it upon herself to reimburse me (WTF?) I refused payment. Well, I do have my principles

(In other words, cut off my nose to spite my face)

PinkTulips · 27/01/2007 23:28

i'm not sure whether i'd have been pleased or insulted by that firefly! nice gesture but...

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SendOrNot · 27/01/2007 23:31

Think I'll probably leave it and take it as a lesson learned as NG says and send nothing more. But I must say, it leaves me with a sour taste in my mouth as this is the first time I've ever experienced an issue with an mner regarding payment for anything.

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Fireflyfairy2 · 27/01/2007 23:31

Um, it wasn't really. I didn't talk to the 3rd party...she was just getting involved to be nosey Long story... will tell you all about it one day over a pub lunch in Galway