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Would you send this to another mner?

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SendOrNot · 27/01/2007 23:07

Dear xxxxx

I'm still waiting for a cheque from you to cover the p&p on the xxxx I sent in good faith before Christmas. I know ?x isn't much money and tbh, I'm sure I can afford to live without it, but I don't like the thought that another Mum might deliberately put me out of pocket. If you truly can't afford it, then please eamil me and let me know. I know the other mner who was interested would not have let me down and I assumed it would have been the same from yourself as you are a regular poster and if I remember correctly, I've sent you clothes for your dc before.

Please restore my faith in you by either sending the cheque or PO, or being honest and letting me know if you can't. I feel sad about this tbh and find it hard to believe that two cheques have got lost in the post. Please don't take this the wrong way - I don't wish to accuse you of anything, but I've had no cheque, no explaination and no reply to my last email.............I'll leave it up to you and if I don't hear from you, well, I can only draw my own conclusion from that and I won't worry any more about it. If you've simply forgotten about it, then please accept my apologies and I'll expect a cheque in the post soon.

Regards

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PinkTulips · 27/01/2007 23:32

MN is no differant than real life though... most people are lovely but there are always a few assholes

sorry you got done over though

PinkTulips · 27/01/2007 23:33

lol.... it'll be a long lunch i'd say the amount of chatting we need to do

Fireflyfairy2 · 27/01/2007 23:34

SendorNot, the issue here is that you feel you have lost faith in someone, I'm betting it's not even about the money, more that principle. Like me & the nappy & postage. It got to be in the end it wasn't even about the postage anymore, it was that trust had been broken by someone I had had faith in.

Send something else, maybe a short note, so as you know you tried again (although you'd think they would have let you know one way or another)

Oh, it wasn't me was it? I have only bought one thing off an Mn'er & she sent an email to say she had got payment

DimpledThighs · 27/01/2007 23:34

you could 'out' her as a non-payer

Fireflyfairy2 · 27/01/2007 23:35

Ok... brunch, dinner...supper.....

What time do they kick you outta pubs down there

handlemecarefully · 27/01/2007 23:38

Send it!

PinkTulips · 27/01/2007 23:38

being kicked out of a pub never stopped me... that's what offies are for

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SendOrNot · 27/01/2007 23:43

Lol PT.

Best get off to bed I guess. Thanks all for your input, Decision made - will not send any further reminders and will put it down to experience.

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tortoise · 27/01/2007 23:44

Is the MNer around or have they maybe gone on hols or something so can't reply to latest email?
I think sending would of been better than putting it on here.
(I thought it was me at 1st,I owe postage to a MNer but have email her last week to explain situation!)

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SendOrNot · 27/01/2007 23:48

Xposts fff2 - exactly - it's not about the money, but about broken trust. I won't send anything more though, as I've already politely reminded at least twice - perhaps three times. I won't 'out' anyone either (but you can all relax - it wasn't you, lol). I might feel the need to warn others though via CAT of my experience.

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handlemecarefully · 27/01/2007 23:51

I do know where you are coming from Sendornot - the broken trust thing is actually quite hurtful isn't it...

tortoise · 27/01/2007 23:54

I think if you haven't had payment it needs to be on that thread that has feedback about buyers and sellers so others can be warned.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 27/01/2007 23:55

I'd send it.

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SendOrNot · 27/01/2007 23:56

Yup hmc - it sure is, but hey-ho.... I'll be more careful in future.

Tortiose - normally, I'm a benefit of the doubt kind of gal, but sometimes, there's just a gut feeling, you know......

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tigermoth · 27/01/2007 23:59

If this person is a regular poster, can you say a polite 'oi' the next time you see them on a thread. ie just say 'hi' and ask if they have received your two emails. It may be that her email is not working or she is not checking it for some reason. If no reply to you on the thread and the person keeps posting, ask again. And again. Always being polite and baffled that you have no reply. You don't need to mention money, it's the non replying to your email communication that's the issue.

I am surprised that a regular poster would do this, tbh. .

jampot · 27/01/2007 23:59

ive sent stuff for postage only before - books and videos etc and not received the postage

VeniVidiVickiQV · 28/01/2007 00:01

LOL, yes SendOrNot, i just accused jampots of being you, so, you arent the only one who has been "had", if it makes you feel better

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SendOrNot · 28/01/2007 00:04

Lol QV - am not jp.

Yes, it kind of makes me feel better, but sadder too in a way.

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SendOrNot · 28/01/2007 00:10

Right - am away to bed - you lot have all helped me feel better.

Yes, it's annoying, but it's a life experience and it could have been worse. I won't ever hesitate to send anything to any of you lot either because of this - guess I'm happy to trust people in general and there'll always be one or two who might dampen that trust now and again, but for now, I'll just carry on as I am (if being just a tiny bit more cautious).

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Freckle · 28/01/2007 08:01

I sent something to a regular poster in the Christmas thing that Soapy organised. I didn't identify myself, but it's never been acknowledged even as a general "Oh I received this and it was great/crap/weird". Sort of takes the shine off trying to help someone.

Miaou · 28/01/2007 08:40

This has happened to me too - emails back and forth regarding the items, which I then sent in good faith, but no money. I was particularly annoyed as I was trying to raise some money to help with the costs of moving house. Again, it wasn't much, and after a couple of polite emails I left it. I haven't noticed the mner in question posting since (though she may have changed her name I suppose) - or I would have posted on here asking if she had had her email.

Freckle - that was a big worry of mine over Christmas! I got a few parcels who I really couldn't identify who they were from (either RL or MN name) - I put a thank you on the thank you thread and looked out for a reply, each time - but some weren't acknowledged and I was left wondering if the sender hadn't seen the thankyou (after all there were so many!).

Freckle · 28/01/2007 08:44

I checked against the name of the recipient and, to my knowledge, she has never acknowledged receiving the gift. I understand she was also contacted by email (although not by me) and this didn't seem to prompt any acknowledgement either. Oh and it's not you, btw!

Miaou · 28/01/2007 08:47

lol! What a shame if she didn't even respond to an email. I am paranoid about things like that (paying up and saying thankyou), to the point of being OTT about it. What goes around comes around, after all.

TeeCee · 28/01/2007 08:58

I sent someone something once, I went out and bought it for them esp, cost about 6 - 8quid or something and the postage on top of that. I presumed she'd then ask me where to send the cheque to but she never did and I was too embaressed to ask then.

misdee · 28/01/2007 09:00

i'm papranoid, but i know i left messages of thanks on the xmas threadzs and havent had anything else from mnetters laterly.