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Would you send this to another mner?

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SendOrNot · 27/01/2007 23:07

Dear xxxxx

I'm still waiting for a cheque from you to cover the p&p on the xxxx I sent in good faith before Christmas. I know ?x isn't much money and tbh, I'm sure I can afford to live without it, but I don't like the thought that another Mum might deliberately put me out of pocket. If you truly can't afford it, then please eamil me and let me know. I know the other mner who was interested would not have let me down and I assumed it would have been the same from yourself as you are a regular poster and if I remember correctly, I've sent you clothes for your dc before.

Please restore my faith in you by either sending the cheque or PO, or being honest and letting me know if you can't. I feel sad about this tbh and find it hard to believe that two cheques have got lost in the post. Please don't take this the wrong way - I don't wish to accuse you of anything, but I've had no cheque, no explaination and no reply to my last email.............I'll leave it up to you and if I don't hear from you, well, I can only draw my own conclusion from that and I won't worry any more about it. If you've simply forgotten about it, then please accept my apologies and I'll expect a cheque in the post soon.

Regards

OP posts:

DelGirl · 29/01/2007 16:14

that's so rude divamummy

Dinosaur · 29/01/2007 16:15

I'm not sure I understand the reluctance to "out" these non-payers?

mosschops30 · 29/01/2007 16:35

me too Dino. I would happily out someone who didnt pay me (in fact I did although i think it was a bit of a misunderstanding!).

And if I didnt pay for something that I had bought and someone had taken the time to post then I would expect them to name and shame me, its just total disrespect and very rude.

Also · 29/01/2007 16:35

SendOrNot i am sure this is same person i have sent clothes to they also said 2 cheques got lost this is also a regular mn i eventually got the cheque

mosschops30 · 29/01/2007 16:39

hmm who is this person also/sendornot ...come on out them

Also · 29/01/2007 16:45

mosschops honestly the person is a lovely reg i would never out them. but then i have learned my lesson also i have sent many items to mn in the past and they never thanked me or payed postage costs i suppose i am too caring sometimes, one mn even sent me a rude email after i asked for the £12 postage for clothes that i sent saying i should of waited for payment before sending them out but i thought they were genuine

Blu · 29/01/2007 16:51

But being - or being seen to be - a lovely regular is presumably a way to get people to send you stuff in good faith? And to make you reluctant to out them!!

Look at the whole 'fox/vixen' debacle...a lovely regular too!

Dinosaur · 29/01/2007 16:53

Well, I don't want to be inadvertently talking to "lovely regulars" who are in fact ripping off other mumsnetters!

If there really are such people out there, then it is your duty as a mumsnetter to out them. Because otherwise they can just carry on.

FatFikAndFugly · 29/01/2007 16:56

i think if you don't out people like this it's just allows them to do it to loads of you.

You could all be sending to the same 'lovely' MNer and not receiving postage yet your stuff could be put straight on ebay for all you know!

Also · 29/01/2007 17:01

i actually feel a fraud for not posting my reg name this is first time i have name changed. this particular person that i dealt with kept fobbing me off saying they had posted a cheque then nothing for weeks then i saw them posting on a thread so i popped on saying hi. then i got email saying cheque had not been cashed i said i never got the said cheque so they said they would send another still i waited 3months to be exact so i emailed saying i never received payment so they said that too must of got lost. i said i really needed payment and i was really good at trusting them and that i had been let down. next day i got a cheque

TeeCee · 29/01/2007 17:08

at this thread.

With regard to my non-payer and the person who posted saying they think it's them, the more I have thought about it today (and it's been on my mind a lot) the more I think it's so unlikey to be the person I'm thinking of. It was really quite a while ago and they have probably forgotten all about it. I feel so sad to think someone out there is all upset and embarressed over something I sent as a gift and really wish I'd never mentioned it now. I only said as I didn't think anyone could recognise themselves from what I'd posted. I can't wait to get to work to see who you are!

bubblerock · 29/01/2007 17:43

I don't see why you can't just create a thread 'calling mrsmumsnetter' I still haven't received payment for xyz and have been unable to contact you via email - please get in touch!
Straight to the point and saves all this speculation and people worrying that it is them.
I've seen threads like that before when people haven't received items and it seems to work eventually and even if it were a regular that shouldn't make any difference IMO - if it's a genuine mistake then they won't mind having a thread 'shouting' them and if it's someone ripping people off then better to warn others.

JARM · 29/01/2007 17:54

if its me let me know!!!

I dont think ive recieved anything that i havent paid for, without being told not to..... payday is wednesday so if anyone is expecting money from me (other than misdee) let me know

tigermoth · 29/01/2007 18:33

Do those of you who have had no payment ever report the said 'lovely regular' to mumsnet?

Ok, I suppose with mumsnet's limited resoureces, it might be unrealistic for Mumsnet HQ to step in over a single dispute (difficult to prove exactly what happenend)but if several people start reporting the 'lovely regular' there may be enough of a pattern emerging for mumsnet HQ to intervene.

I suppose the search facilty might be helpful, too. Perhaps there are ways of refining it to help with this.

If I saw someone posting who had not responded to my emails, I would definitely say something to her, just to bring it to her attention.

munz · 29/01/2007 19:06

I didn't tm - but for the sake of £1.50 or something silly like that I put it to experience, (althou it was 2 materity bra's i'd hardly used which were ffp so was a bit put out which is why i decided not to send to that person again)

Teeceesnonpayer · 29/01/2007 19:17

It was in December TeeCee- I was having a shitty time (that's a clue by the way). The reason I think it's me is because I know that you did go out and buy it especially for me. I am really sorry if it was me, and will make it up to you. If it wasn't me the offer in the second bit of my email still stands.

Dior · 29/01/2007 19:23

Message withdrawn

TeeCee · 29/01/2007 21:20

Aha, I think i know who you are now, and oh my GOD, no, no, NO, I so wasn't talking about you! I was referring to someone I didn't know that well and I mentioned I knew of a product and she asked me to get it for her so I did and I never really heard from her again. That was why I thought it was rude. Anyway I'll get your email tomorrow so I'll speak to you then.

Birthdaybeetroot · 29/01/2007 21:23

hey teecee - you made me pay double for something I sent you - you old meany

TeeCee · 29/01/2007 21:31

what????
You're getting me all worried now, you witch . Please tell me you're just being mad.
Paranoia is running rife man!

TeeCee · 29/01/2007 21:33

Hang on, birthdaybeetrootthewitch, in my panic I didn't stop to think, we've only ever sent each other urrrrve and clothes and rings. You really mad me worry for a minute you scary mary.

And hey how was the trip? Email me.

Birthdaybeetroot · 29/01/2007 21:37

haha was joshing you my darling - only love from me

TeeCee · 29/01/2007 21:39

You're such a cow
Anyway, email me, tell me about France. I'll reply tomorrow. Xxx

Original poster

SendOrNot · 29/01/2007 23:59

Wow - I can't believe this is still going! It's not any of you - honestly. Do not panic. If the poster concerned does post here, I'll email her personally then. I'm not one for confrontation (even annonymously online). Sad as lost trust it is, I can't bring myself to 'out' her (grudging benefit of doubt creeps in).

I guess if you're sending out something FFP, my advice is (sadly) just wait for the payment to arrive before posting unless you are very sure of who you're sending to. I just wish the other interested party had posted first in this case as I'm fairly sure she'd not have let me down.

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nappyaddict · 30/01/2007 00:14

why not send something more along the lines of this?

I am still waiting for the cheque to cover p&p on xxxx i sent before xmas. you are a regular poster and i have sent you some clothes for your dc before so i am hoping you have just forgotten. or if you really can't afford it let me know as it isn't much money tbh. i would hate to think someone would deliberately put me out of pocket, especially as you seem like a nice person, even though it does seem unlikely that 2 cheques would get lost.

regards

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