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AuntieMaryHadACanary · 13/04/2016 19:30

I have had enough of trying to be thin. Or even a bit thinner. I'm not massive but I am bigger than I should be. Its just too hard to lose weight. And I'm getting older - 41. And DH doesn't give a damn (God love him) Who has accepted their bodies, embraced their chubster self and stuck two fingers up at the world of thin? Come on women give some support to my fatty selfSmileWink

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ILikeUranus · 14/04/2016 11:45

Can I join cake watchers please? I'm embracing being how I am, drinking wine and eating whatever. I'm not even 'fat', I'm just fatter than I was before. I've been being kind to myself since Christmas because of some super-shit stuff that happened so I haven't even tried to diet since then. Yesterday the ice-cream truck came past, both pairs of jeggings (that I've been practically living in) were in the wash, so I tried to pull on some trousers quickly - couldn't do the bloody things up, not even nearly. They're a size 8. Yesterday I thought 'shit, I need to start losing weight again'. Today I think 'I need to buy some new trousers. And some ice-cream'.

Thanks for the empowerment cake watchers!

GarlicShake · 14/04/2016 11:54

Bendy - But I totally want to look good in a bikini!

Try this :)

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GarlicShake · 14/04/2016 12:03

Sorry, Thefitfatty - Yes. What you said!

Thefitfatty · 14/04/2016 12:06

LordoftheTits My brother does say that the benefit of having a long torso and short legs is that he always gets to buy "short fat man pants" on sale!

MushroomMama · 14/04/2016 12:07

I'm 5 ft 3 and a size 14/16

Dieting made me miserable the constant stress food gave me was simply not worth it in my opinion!

I have made some huge changes I was a size 20 and 14 stone at one point. The doctors keep pushing me to drop another couple of stone but I'm not going to bother I'm happy and that's what matters to me now

DoctorBeat · 14/04/2016 12:08

Me.

I was having a "spa day" (gift) yesterday, and reading some of the ladies magazines I was thinking "what a load of fucking nonsense".

Every other page was a bloody stupid diet, and I just thought thank fuck I am a bit older and wiser and couldn't give a fuck anymore.

I too am about a stone over what I'd like to me to be, and a size 12/14 but I just CBA with dieting anymore and you couldn't pay me to go back to the hungry, insecure but skinny days of my twenties...

Thefitfatty · 14/04/2016 12:11

I'm honestly shocked that we've gotten to page 5 and nobody's come on here crying about diabetes....

LordoftheTits · 14/04/2016 12:14

Thefitfatty

Silver lining and all that Grin

JasperDamerel · 14/04/2016 12:15

Me. I was at the top end of my healthy BMI after I had kids and started dieting. And started binge-eating. And now I'm obese.

So I'm never dieting again, but am concentrating on developing a healthy relationship with food, and on getting really fit and strong. I hope that by doing this I will lose fat and be healthier, but any weight loss will be very very slow, and merely a side-effect of my actual goals. I went running yesterday on my pre-fat route and I had to admit I did have a pang because the extra 4 stone did make a big difference to how hard it was to run up the hill. But that probably just made my workout more effective.

squishee · 14/04/2016 12:27

Count me in. Former dieting addict here. Life is too short for that shit.

Now I'm happy. I just exercise regularly, eat when I'm hungry and stop when I'm full. Simples.

I recently went to a "slimming parlour" (in France) for a free trial offer, only out of curiosity. The pushy salewoman therapist told me everything that was wrong with my body, and how their programme could improve it. Then she said I didn't seem motivated. I said "Nah, I've been working on self-acceptance and I just can't muster the self-hatred." She replied "Well, ask any woman in the street and she'll tell you she's not happy with herself." I said "Yes, that's because women are conditioned that way."
She lost her shit and all but threw me out. Was it something I said? Grin

Sanchar · 14/04/2016 12:37

Me. Pregnancy and medication piled 45lbs on. I stopped the medication and dropped from 185lbs down to 162lbs.(I'm 5'4")

I'm about 98% happy. I would like to get back to 140lbs but I'm not busting a gut to achieve it, I've tried every diet going and not lost a lb in several months now,
I think the drugs have screwed up something inside me as I do myfitnesspal and monitor my food and exercise and according to that I should be a size 6 by now!! but it's just not shifting, I eat about 1500cal, walk or cycle miles most days so not a couch potato.

TondelayaDellaVentamiglia · 14/04/2016 12:43

I'd like to be a good deal fitter, I do stroll out most days with the dogfaces but we don't put ourselves out and we all dawdle about

I think that so long as no one is taking down walls to crane me out of the building then it's fine

Am 5'8, long legs, probably a 18 dress, give or take. I'd like to wake up a size 12 but really that's never going to happen and a work acquaintance guessed my age way lower than my actual age so that made me very happy.

I lowcarb when i feel like it, i eat way more bread than I should and that's what makes me feel crappy so i really should just give that up, but I love food, cooking, eating out, drinking, cakes, lovely little nibbley bits of deliciousness, homemade biscuits, hard liquor cocktails, take away food....all that.

GarlicShake · 14/04/2016 12:44

Tut tut, squish. You've probably given that saleswoman an attack of the self-doubts Wink

Sorelip · 14/04/2016 12:52

I'm in. I'm so done with tracking calories and buying special diet food that I don't actually like and then giving up on said diet and having shit tonnes of food I'm not going to eat in the fridge.

I dread to think about how much I've spent over the years on fucking diets.

phoenix1973 · 14/04/2016 12:56

I like this thread, but I have not yet reached this feeling.
I FEEL better slimmer. Less tired, sluggish, depressed.
The pain in my knee/elbows/wherever is not there when I am slimmer. It is when I am fatter which I am now.
My clothes dig into me and I buy clothes because they fit. Not because I like them.
I sweat more in the summer than I would if I was slim.
My frame and face just look better with less fat on the bones. I wish that wasn't the case but it is.
However, I feel the same about losing the weight as lots of you on here. lol.
I see larger ladies who look absolutely brilliant, must be the confidence/dress sense/style.
It is not the case with me.

ChihuahuaChick · 14/04/2016 13:06

I'm hovering around 10 stone 6 ish making me a size 12 at 5'3". I've been a size 18 and over 13 stone, but never lower than 10 stone something since puberty made me do a reverse ugly duckling lol.

The thing I struggle with is that I'll never look delicate. Almost everyone on my side of the family is built solid, with muscle and broad shoulders, overweight or not and my fucking dad has the best, least cankle-y legs out of all of us! Part of me always used to want to be one of those girls with thin limbs that make everything they do look graceful and poised.

hiccupgirl · 14/04/2016 13:29

I'm currently a size 16-18 at 5'3' but having been 3.5 stone heavier up to 2 years ago I'm mostly happy at the size I am even though I could lose another 3 stone.

But I like the way my body looks most of the time and I'm not convinced I would love or like it anymore if I was smaller. Due to being a lot bigger before I would have lots of loose skin if I was much slimmer and that would make me feel a lot worse than a rounded stomach and slightly wobbly thighs at the moment.

I was a very skinny child but piled on weight after puberty and have never been under 10.5 stone since I was 14. I have wide hips and wide set wrists, ankles etc so clearly am never going to be what is considered to be slim.

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AuntieMaryHadACanary · 14/04/2016 15:48

Wow I have been out at work today and just got home, look what's happened to the thread!
Welcome all to Cake WatchersSmileSmile
It is DS 7th birthday today so I will have a proper catch up and read through once we've done all the celebrations, yes I Shall be having a piece of birthday cake and not feeling guilty!

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EveryoneElsie · 14/04/2016 15:49

Meeeee!
My bum looks great though. Grin

chunkymum1 · 14/04/2016 16:25

AuntyMary- hope you and DS have a lovely evening celebrating and enjoy that cake. Looks like you've started a bit of a rebellion against the fat-shamers and diet product pushers. Isn't it great to hear how many of us feel the same.

Curviest · 14/04/2016 16:35

I used to be more than five stone overweight. Since then I've spent 33 years dieting, boring my friends with my dieting, missing out on dinners and social occasions because I've been scared to go in case I "cracked" and fell off my diet. I've denied myself, weighed incessantly, exercised incessantly, counted calories, carbs, fat grams; starved myself, gone to bed at 7pm with no dinner to save the calories, tried every diet known to woman. 33 years later, I am more than ten stone overweight.

I've honestly given up trying.

YvaineStormhold · 14/04/2016 18:19

No more nonsense, Curviest.

And I love your name Smile

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AuntieMaryHadACanary · 14/04/2016 20:40

I think this thread has really opened my eyes to the fact that you can be reasonably healthy, and still be overweight, and that's ok. I do really enjoy healthy food, I just love all the other stuff too, and I am going to start accepting that. I really feel that the culture around us makes us feel bad just for being normal, and we beat ourselves up when we simply cannot attain the 'perfect' figure. I really want to be done with the yoyo dieting, and if i could somehow manage to maintain my weight that would be amazing.
So although I started this thread in a somewhat fed up state of mind, everyone who has posted has genuinely helped me to see that its ok to be me. Smile
I really hope we can continue to support each other when we are struggling with body image issues.
Chunky thank you DS had a super birthday and the cake was yummy!

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AuntieMaryHadACanary · 14/04/2016 20:40

And I used 'really' far too many times in that post ha ha!

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MotheringShites · 14/04/2016 21:01

I'm joining! I feel like I've been on a permanent diet for about 15 years (I'm 37). I've done cabbage soup, WW, Atkins, more recently C9. I've trained for and completed a marathon in an effort to be the perfect weight. I am done!

I have now decided never to diet again but try to apply a test of reasonableness. Is it reasonable to have steak and chips and wine on a Friday night? Yes. Is it reasonable to eat takeaways four nights in a row? No. Would an average person have a bit of cake with a coffee and enjoy it? Yes. Three bits of cake? No. I don't feel deprived ever and am not willing to do any more than this. My weight is stable and I'm healthy and happier.