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AuntieMaryHadACanary · 13/04/2016 19:30

I have had enough of trying to be thin. Or even a bit thinner. I'm not massive but I am bigger than I should be. Its just too hard to lose weight. And I'm getting older - 41. And DH doesn't give a damn (God love him) Who has accepted their bodies, embraced their chubster self and stuck two fingers up at the world of thin? Come on women give some support to my fatty selfSmileWink

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CakeNinja · 14/04/2016 07:24

Not me!
I'm overweight and very unhappy about it Angry
Weigh myself once a month or so, have had a fortnight of really clean eating, lots of runs and I have put ON 4lb since my last weigh in Shock bloody furious I am!
Did really well last year, started a lchf diet and lost about 3 stone, was at pretty much my ideal weigh for me and my height (11.6 stone), eased my PCOS and felt great. About a stone has crept on but I'm not willing to let it stay.

magimedi · 14/04/2016 07:26

I am now 60+ & gave up dieting about 15+ years ago. I am a size 16, but eat well & exercise regularly.

Since I stopped dieting my weight has remained the same for at least the last ten years.

I'm quite happy & swim a lot & wear a bikini when on the beach.

longdiling · 14/04/2016 07:33

Another size 14 here. I'm slowly starting to come round to your mindset op. I look back at pictures of me when I was young and a size 10 and I remember how I felt fat even then and like I could do with losing weight. I'm not convinced losing weight will make me happy with myself. I'm sick of beating myself up...I just want to like and accept myself. I do loads of exercise and I am just about in the healthy bmi range so it's only vanity that makes me want to be thinner.

Sign me up for cake watchers Grin

SurferJet · 14/04/2016 07:34

Wish I didn't care but I do. Even though I'm well passed the age where anyone's taking any notice of me, I just feel better being on the slimmer side. I actually look better with more weight on but I still obsess over every pound I lose or put on - I wouldn't mind but I only became this obsessed in my 40's - didn't care so much when I was younger ( too busy maybe )
But hats off to you all - just be yourself & be happy.

LordoftheTits · 14/04/2016 08:28

I'm 5' 5. I have broad shoulders and hips and the most stubborn boobs ever. Even though I've gone from a size 22 to a 14/16 are still 34GG.

I lose and gain weight evenly all over my body so I always look in proportion. I've battled with diets since I was 12 and I'm about to turn 26. I don't want to be miserable forever. I eat well 80% of the time and I exercise. I got rid of my car and I walk everywhere I can, including the 3.5mi to and from work a few times a week. I'm fairly fit but my broad build means I'd never be skinny anyway. My mum is the same height and build as me and even at 8st 12 she wears a size 12.

BigSandyBalls2015 · 14/04/2016 08:43

I completely agree, love this thread.

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oleoleoleole · 14/04/2016 08:45

I'm a lot fat, have struggled with weight for as long as I can remember. I know what I need to change but I don't because I actually enjoy my life as it is and accept that I will always be a size 20, we are not all meant to be the same and average!

NecklessMumster · 14/04/2016 08:50

Thanks for this thread, I've been miserable all week thinking I should go to a slimming club even though I know they don't work. I'm an 18 , gone up a dress size and hate it, but I'm comfort eating and a diet won't address that, self acceptance will. I hate all the endless diet talk at work, and the whole diet industry in general, it's just making money out of women's insecurities which is fostered by them in the first place, sorry, rant over.

HolditFinger · 14/04/2016 08:54

Me! I've accepted myself as I am for a while now and am so much happier for it. I'm 41 and a size 18 and fed up with trying to look like I did 20 years ago. Same as a few other posters, my mum is in her 70's a size 12 and is always trying to lose another 2Lb and eats like a bird.

SW is just a load of faff to try and make anything that tastes remotely nice and I just like food!

blueandgreendots · 14/04/2016 09:10

Hello cake watchers.

I'm currently the size of a detached bungalow because DC2 is due next week but I was big before I got pregnant (BMI about 34). It strikes me that the vast majority of posters in this thread have a BMI 25 to 30; which in terms of health is essentially fine. The BMI categories were created by a New York health insurance company to create more revenue (it was in a BBC documentary called 'the men who made us fat'). Of course, weight, health and how you feel about your body is entirely personal. At my lightest my BMI was 27, so still not "normal", I was really fit running half marathons etc but couldn't maintain it for very long.

I will have to lose a lot of weight after this baby but honestly I'd be thrilled to be a size 14/16, that's the way I'm made.

YvaineStormhold · 14/04/2016 09:15

What a refreshing thread. It's put a spring in my step already!

We should have CW badges made so people know not to include us in tedious diet talk.

BendydickCuminsnatch · 14/04/2016 09:18

I'm definitely getting there. I'm 26, size 16, 5ft6, weight 14stone9. Doing slimming world but it's soooooooo difficult. I keep self sabotaging and then 70% of me feels really ashamed and 30% of me feels I need to be kind to myself, live my life, eat, drink and be merry! I am fit and getting fitter with a personal trainer and I'm v healthy (although I'm sure many would disagree given my stats).

But I totally want to look good in a bikini! Have been a size 16 since I was 13, that's half my life ago, so maybe it's the way I am and I should bloody accept it. But then maybe that is just giving up????

Crisis of confidence, sorry for bringing the thread down!!! I'd love to accept myself, this thread is very timely and exciting for me.

LBOCS2 · 14/04/2016 09:19

Blue, I'm in the same position as you - BMI of 34, currently house sized as DC2 was due on Sunday and hasn't yet made an appearance...

chiquita1 · 14/04/2016 09:23

Me too, but some days is not that easy... I am around a stone overweight but because I am short I look really chubby, so I think my biggest problem is my height but that is something I can do nothing about. At the same time I am 40 and I think I look younger (maybe Im deluded but you can judge for yourself) because of my pudgy face so it has its advantages.

YvaineStormhold · 14/04/2016 09:26

I heard once that past forty you need to choose between your arse and your face.

I choose face. Only DP sees my arse, and he seems happy enough Wink

chickedychick · 14/04/2016 09:45

I love this thread. All your posts have confirmed to me that it's better to live life enjoying food rather than being ruled by food. I've just had a cuppa, waffles with maple syrup and a Galaxy bar for breakfast Blush

NewStartNewName · 14/04/2016 10:01

I'm 5ft 2, size 14 and about 11st5 - oh and I'm 37. I'm fed up with worrying about it. I was a 14 before I had my DCs but it just looked better back then and not so saggy.

Trixie my DM is also the same, will always comment on if I've lost/gained weight as soon as I see her, in a very judgy way, completely ignoring the fact that she wears a size 26.

YvaineStormhold · 14/04/2016 10:05

I just had two pikelets with butter and a Tunnocks wafer.

I'm pre-menstrual, have earache and just bloody felt like it.

However, I have a healthy lunch involving fruit and veg lined up, and dp is sorting dinner so I take no responsibility for that.

I'm getting a bike for my birthday and will have a much less sedentary job by summer, so hopefully I'm about to get fitter!

Platelet · 14/04/2016 10:12

I wish I wasn't bothered but I am. I'm 5'2, weight 13st 2 and a size 16. I have come down from 14st 8 on a low carb diet but am struggling to keep going. I did get down to 12st 8 and felt great. I look horrible in the summer, flabby arms, rolls on my stomach and thunder thighs. My plain face looks even more flabby and pasty when I'm carrying the excess weight and I hate how I struggle to look nice in clothes.

I'm back 'on plan' this week in order to shed a few more pounds (hopefully a stone) by my summer hols but its so demoralising when I know a week or two of 'normal' eating I will have put it all back on.

YvaineStormhold · 14/04/2016 10:15

Goodness me, would you talk about anyone else the way you have just described yourself?

I bet you wouldn't. Work on that first and the rest will follow.

Flowers I bet you're gorgeous.

YvaineStormhold · 14/04/2016 10:15

That was to platelets

chunkymum1 · 14/04/2016 10:40

Can I join Cake Watchers? (and I honestly haven't NC for this thread!).

I was effortlessly thin until my early thirties but had no body confidence. I worried that I had no shape and clothes didn't hang properly on me but at the same time worried if I saw the smallest amount of flesh that I was getting fat (I thought the small fold of flesh on my stomach when I sat was a belly and on holidays would never wear a swim suit without a sarong to hide my 'fat'). I worried that I was too pale. Since I am actually very pale skinned, every fake tan I tried looked terrible so I would not get my legs out without tights no matter how hot it was. On beach holidays with friends (the only time legs did come out without tights) I looked forward to the evenings so that I could cover up my odd fat belly no boobs too pale body. I really liked unusual clothing/bold designs etc but was very careful when/where I wore them as I didn't think I had the kind of looks that would carry them off.

Now I am overweight and over forty but way more confident than I ever was in my younger days. I wear the clothes I like when I like. If I look a bit fat that's because I am, which is nobody's business but mine. If people mention what I'm wearing I take it as a compliment. My legs come out without tights every summer and actually I think it looks fine. I did diet successfully after DC1 and then again after DC2 but once I started to eat food I liked again the weight came back. I found it very dull and I could never bring myself to join a slimming club and join in the endless discussions about syn values/points etc. I do worry about the health implications of being overweight but have decided that my happiness is important too so I try to eat mainly healthy food (but lots of it) and do more exercise so that I can be a healthier fat person rather than beating myself up because I'm not a thin person.

Thefitfatty · 14/04/2016 11:06

I'm fairly fit but my broad build means I'd never be skinny anyway

My Mum is like that. She's athletic with a straight up and down build. She's actually well into a healthy BMI and eats very healthily and exercises loads (just came in second in a contest held in Qatar to see who was doing the most walking, everyone working in the education system had to wear a step counter, she came in second to a 25 year old guy and she's 60). But she looks fat. Always has, always will. Same with my brother and my son. They have such wide shoulders and chests, and weirdly short legs that they all, look much bigger then they are.

Thefitfatty · 14/04/2016 11:12

But I totally want to look good in a bikini!

In my opinion looking good in a bikini is more about the confidence to wear it, then actually having the perfect body. Living in a warm climate I spend a lot of time at pools and beaches and I could count on my fingers the amount of women I've seen with "perfect bodies" and even then, the thin ones weren't perfect, they had cellulite or weird proportions or too tanned or not tanned enough, etc etc (not body shaming because I honestly think everyone is beautiful, but just saying that if they were to make the Daily Mail side bar of shame the trolls would be picking out flaws). No one is perfect.

I just bought a bikini and I'm looking forward to wearing it tomorrow, despite my couple of days before AF bloat. Honestly, I kinda of credit Ashley Graham and other plus sized models for making me think I could do it. (I know it's not popular to say that, but there you go).

LordoftheTits · 14/04/2016 11:33

Thefitfatty

I also have really short legs and a long torso, which doesn't help! I'm 5' 5 but wear 28" leg jeans and "tall" tops. I look like a womble Blush

I have curves and a definite waist which is much smaller than my hips but big boobs, a bit of wobble on my stomach and thunder thighs. Face on I look nice and curvy, just... broad and sturdy! Grin