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my dads car was found wrapped round a tree but nobody can find him

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starshaker · 17/12/2006 11:07

the police have just been to my mums to say they have found my dads car wrapped round a tree and there is no sign of him. really dont know what to do. my mum is ill with worry and we do know there was a lot of blood in the car

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BudaBauble · 17/12/2006 20:49

Glad he has been found starshaker.

Yes - he was stupid. You know that. But it wasn't YOU.

My Dad is of that generation who used to drive while drunk - he still does occasionally. I hate it. My whole family hates it. But - he is an adult. He makes his choices and lives by his concience (sp?).
My mother says she really doesn't care what he does to himself but worries about others on the roads.

Bar locking them up what can you do?

SantaGotStuckUpTheGreensleeve · 17/12/2006 20:51

I didn't attack you personally PPH, so I don't think you should attack me.

PrincessPeaHead · 17/12/2006 20:57

guess it is more difficult to get out of that sanctimonius habit than it is to say "oh, sorry, my mistake"

never mind

SantaGotStuckUpTheGreensleeve · 17/12/2006 20:58

I don't think I did make a mistake. If I did, I would apologise, as I have done many times before. There was no need for you to attack me.

foxinsocks · 17/12/2006 21:01

I am so sorry starshaker. I hope you and your mum have some friends to lean on. My mother was done for drink driving and I was outraged and mortified (especially considering one of my best friends died this way).

Don't feel a fraud - everyone was worrying about you and it was genuine concern. We can't control what our parents do but it still hurts when they screw up. Hope the coming weeks aren't too horrendous.

flutturkey · 17/12/2006 21:01

My thoughts are with you and your Mum SS.

Your Dad, well he is an idiot, whether he is a one off idiot who made one bad decision or whether he is an idiot who selfishly puts other peoples lives at risk all the time only you will know.

I am glad that he is safe and that no one was hurt and I hope that this doesn't effect your Mum (and you of course) too much.

xx

2snowshoes · 17/12/2006 21:18

glad to here he is safe. sorry you had such a worring day.

RickmanAroundTheXmasTree · 17/12/2006 22:00

Glad he's turned up SS. It was my gut reaction on reading your thread title, that he had been drink driving. Unfortunately, for some people the "don't drink and drive" message just doesn't seem to have sunk in.

So sorry to hear Aloha's news, I lost my dad in an accident just before christmas many years ago.

moondog · 17/12/2006 22:02

OMG.
Poor Aloha.

ChristmasPresence · 17/12/2006 23:54

Starshaker - yes we all know it's wrong to drink and drive, but I think the older generation are far worse about it than us - they were allowed to do it when they were young and still don't really see the dangers. Thankfully, no one was killed and I'm sure your dad won't do it again, ever. Hugs to you and your family x

NOELallie · 18/12/2006 11:19

So glad he's OK, regardless of whether he'd been drink-driving or not.

icebat · 18/12/2006 14:10

SS am so glad that your uncertainty is over now.

DeckthehallsLaDiDaDi · 18/12/2006 15:31

I'm pleased he's safe.

Drink driving is terrible. My Dp was convicted of it a few years ago, before he was my dp. We were both on a night out with friends, dp had about 4 pints and was in a bad mood so decided to drive home. I told him that if he got in the car I would ring the police. He chose to drive so I dialled 999 and gave a description of his car and the route he would be taking. He was banned for a year. It was a difficult time for us but we got through it and became a couple. Dp would never drink and drive now.

I hope that your father's likely conviction doesn't have the consequences that you fear for your mother.

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starshaker · 18/12/2006 18:39

ok i found out more information. which in my eyes doesnt really make it any better as he would prob have been over the limit.

he went for his night out and at about 11 he got a taxi to his mates. his mate was out so he walked back to his car which took about an hour. this made it about midnight. he couldnt get another taxi thats why he walked and then he went to sleep in the car. he then drove home at about 8 in the morning which i have to admit i have done myself(maybe not that early but thats beside the point). the accident happened at about 8.30. the police made out to every1 that it happened a lot earlier i have no idea why but i know thats when it happened as they guy who took the car to the garrage had drove past the place about 10 mins before it happened then again just after it happened.

i am not making excuses but i do know that i cant judge as ive driven the day after a night out. DD is shocking but as far as i know the blood tests came back that he had no alcohol in his system. he has recently been diagnosed diabetic so maybe he had cut down what he drank. i dont know and now im just rambling.

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Aimsmum · 18/12/2006 18:44

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7swansaswimmingup · 18/12/2006 19:35

well i used to get in a car after a night on the booze when i was younger and looking back was probably over the limit

hope everything works out ok, from the update it seems a plausible story and i hope will make things easier with your parents now

choosyfloosy · 18/12/2006 19:40

missed this thread completely but ss - so sorry you've had such a frightening time with all the possibilities in the world going through your head. hope you can take a break in the next few days - offload some jobs if you've got a busy runup to Christmas, if you can.

2nervesnapartridgeinapeartree · 18/12/2006 20:03

Hi Starshaker, I'm sorry to hear what happened and glad your Dad was not drinking and driving.
I just want to let others who have read this thread that sleeping in a car while over the drink drive limit is also an offence even if you do not drive the car. It is Drunk in charge of a motor vehicle and will be treated the same way as drinking and driving resulting in a minimum ban of 12 months, and usually a fine as well. I run a project that rehabilitates drink drivers and have a number of people who get banned this way every year.

I know this is not the case with SS dad as he did not fail the breath test.

2nervesnapartridgeinapeartree · 18/12/2006 20:03

Hi Starshaker, I'm sorry to hear what happened and glad your Dad was not drinking and driving.
I just want to let others who have read this thread that sleeping in a car while over the drink drive limit is also an offence even if you do not drive the car. It is Drunk in charge of a motor vehicle and will be treated the same way as drinking and driving resulting in a minimum ban of 12 months, and usually a fine as well. I run a project that rehabilitates drink drivers and have a number of people who get banned this way every year.

I know this is not the case with SS dad as he did not fail the breath test.

DeckthehallsLaDiDaDi · 18/12/2006 20:26

Dp and I have a friend who was banned for that very thing, ie sleeping in his car when drunk.

BabyJesus · 18/12/2006 23:12

So he could have had a hypo or something?

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starshaker · 19/12/2006 17:50

yeah its possible as he was really out it and i supose thats why the hospital thought he was drunk

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FairyTaleOfNewYork · 19/12/2006 22:35

sounds like it could've been a hypo (didnt see this update yesterday) i have a friend who is diabete and he gets really a*sey like he is drunk when he has a hypo.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 19/12/2006 23:03

Was something I was taught at first aid actually - how someone who is acting like he/she is drunk/aggressive is quite often very ill and not drunk at all.

ledodgychristmasjumper · 19/12/2006 23:04

I'm glad he was found and is ok.