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my dads car was found wrapped round a tree but nobody can find him

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starshaker · 17/12/2006 11:07

the police have just been to my mums to say they have found my dads car wrapped round a tree and there is no sign of him. really dont know what to do. my mum is ill with worry and we do know there was a lot of blood in the car

OP posts:
DoesntChristmasDragOn · 17/12/2006 18:55

Glad he's safe but about the drink-driving.

MistleToo · 17/12/2006 18:56

Yes my thoughts too Soupy

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starshaker · 17/12/2006 19:06

i feel like a big fraud. people on here have been worrying and its cos hes too thick to know drink driving isnt a good idea

OP posts:
charliecat · 17/12/2006 19:09

What an idiot. Glad hes ok and noone else is hurt.

PrincessPeaHead · 17/12/2006 19:10

this time a week ago aloha's dad was killed by a drink driver.
no sympathy for him at all I'm afraid. But I'm sorry you and your mum have to deal with the consequences of him being a selfish stupid fucker

JollyOldSaintNikkielas · 17/12/2006 19:10

You are not a fraud, you needed help/support/advice, what he does is not your fault!

Miaou · 17/12/2006 19:17

OMG I didn't know that pph - how absolutely awful for her

Starshaker - don't feel a fraud - you had every right to feel concerned and turn to us for support. You still do. (((hugs))) for you and your mum - keep strong.

FairyTaleOfNewYork · 17/12/2006 19:18

will be here supporting you starshaker, but dotn have any sympathy for your dad.

I hope you manage to deal with all this and can helo your mum as well.

even though this time of year is good for organ transplant patients

(please excuse me, i am just screwing my head up)

Chandra · 17/12/2006 19:19

Good to hear he was found and he is OK Starshaker, he might have learned a hard lesson by now.

And don't feel bad, it is not your fault, we care a lot about you and, even if we didn't, we would not judge you for his actions he is old enough to be resposible for his own actions.

anniebear · 17/12/2006 19:26

Glad he has been found

I am sorry for what he is putting you and your Mum through

tissy · 17/12/2006 19:44

Actually, I do have a little sympathy ( and a lot of sympathy for aloha, before anyone jumps down my throat....)

It isn't difficult to be that stupid, i've done it and as a consequence am now religious about not driving when I'm drinking.

In my case, it was a works night out that I hadn't wanted to go on, in a crowded and noisy nightclub, where I felt left out and ignored. I'd had a few drinks, and wanted to leave, got outside and found my purse had been stolen, and I couldn't pay for a taxi.It was 2 am, I was due at work at 8, my car was nearby, the streets were empty, I didn't feel that drunk. It was stupid, but I drove home about 5 miles. Very slowly, and didn't hit anything. I know now that if the police had seen me driving that slowly, it would have been a giveaway. I would have lost my job, too.

I bet your dad is feeling rotten, starshaker. Yes, he deserves it, but drink does take away your powers of reasoning.

SherlockLGJ · 17/12/2006 19:47

I am so sorry for your poor Mum and sorry that you were put through so much worry. But I have to say.........

What an arsehole. My B/F was murdered by a drunk driver.

She has now been dead longer than she was alive.

Next year it will be 21 years, the hurt never goes away.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 17/12/2006 20:12

I think starshaker knows already just what an idiot her father has been.

I dont see any point in re-iterating it over and over.

Starshaker - there should be quite a few benefits your mum can get should your dad be imprisoned (not likely as thankfully, by some bizarre miracle he didnt harm anyone else).

There are lots of support groups for families who's lives have been messed up by drink driving - that includes families of convicted drink drivers.

I think CADD is one...

SantaGotStuckUpTheGreensleeve · 17/12/2006 20:15

None of this is your fault starshaker, I hope you can ignore those who can't contain themselves. The quite understandable rage should really be directed at drunk drivres, not at you after the terrible day you've had.

I'm glad he's OK - I hope you and your mum can get some rest and get over the shock now.

tissy · 17/12/2006 20:28

was that aimed at me, Greensleeves?

PrincessPeaHead · 17/12/2006 20:29

hey greensleevesholierthanthou,
the rage HAS been reserved for her dad, and has NOT been directed at her - read the posts. We both say we feel sorry for her and her mum but not her arse of a dad
OK?
sheesh, some people just can't resist being sanctimonious...

handlemecarefully · 17/12/2006 20:34

Everybody loathes drink driving - but this is not Starshakers fault.

Starshaker, if I were you I would keep schtum about the circumstances of his accident in future...it will provoke (understandably) violent reactions in people...

Sympathies though to you and your mum - your stupid father! (sorry)

handlemecarefully · 17/12/2006 20:35

Eeeek - I've just read intervening messages. I'm off - still hungover from a night out last night (I stayed over at friends house btw) and can't stomach a row

Mercy · 17/12/2006 20:36

Oh no starshaker, i read your post earlier today

Your poor mum. I'm sure it won't come to them losing the house. Can you speak to CAB tomorrow?

PrincessPeaHead · 17/12/2006 20:36

Nobody. Said. It. Was. Starshakers. Fault.

PrincessPeaHead · 17/12/2006 20:40

sorry HMC, crossposted. have a good evening!

7swansaswimmingup · 17/12/2006 20:41

have to agree with princesspea that her post didnt actually blame starshaker and did say she felt sorry for her and her mum so i dont think theres any reason for a row

handlemecarefully · 17/12/2006 20:42

No I know you didn't PPH, but perhaps Starshaker might feel guilty by association.

I know if dh had been drink driving, I would feel pretty tarnished by it and I would be reluctant to share this information with people because of the anticipated reaction.

I wasn't berating you for what you said. I rarely challenge anyone these days because I've become a yellow bellied coward...

Really hope that Aloha is doing okay in the circumstances (I'm sure she isn't ). Must be extraordinarily difficult to loose someone in those circumstances - the anger as well as the grief

handlemecarefully · 17/12/2006 20:44

Oh and you have a good evening too btw

kittyschristmascrackers · 17/12/2006 20:46

I've read through this thread and yes drink driving is terrible. I don't think it's ok though to bad mouth someone's father the way he has been. I think SS can do that because he's her father, but not anyone else.