How casual (dresswise) can you be at a wedding?

[Fio2]

Just a bit of advice really. I have a wedding on saturday and need to get new outfits for me and the kids. My daughter age 4 and son and 2 1/2. I just dont want to waste money on clothes we will hardly wear again and wondered how casual we could get away with? I was thinking for my son maybe linen trousers and a casualish shirt and for my daughter just a summer dress, or pretty top with casual type skirt. For me I dont know. Can I get away with linen trousers and a niceish top? Advice please!! Will be off in a while to see what I can find.

Also all the dressier stuff I have is black, is this still a no-go for weddings? TIA

Sounds fine to me - depends on the do really doesn't it? As students and immediately afterwards we always used to dress pretty casual for weddings ... then got caught out once when some mate of ours was marrying a 'posh bird' (we hadn't even met her) and everyone at the wedding (except his uni mates) were in morning dress or and glamour frocks with big hats, the works.

Sounds fine to me,

so black okay then?...good!

What about cotton trousers or skirt that are denim coloured, if that makes sense?!

Really will have to have some idea before I go out the house!LOL

Yeah, sounds good. TBH I've been quite shocked at just how badly some people dress their kids for weddings etc. (flourescent yellow Gap fleece and dirty jeans,pink summer pinafore, grey school tights, scraggy white top were worn by kids at a friend's wedding. she was actually quite offended...)

Sounds fine for the kids Fio. I wore a black halter neck dress to a wedding recently, but only the evening do. The bride said I looked v vampy 1940's and the groom said he had never seen me look so lovely, so I guess they didn't mind!

lol lou I think I will stay away from linen for me actually, just thought about the creases on the journey. For some strange reason the church and reception are 50 miles apart!

Thanks everyone for your suggestions - keep them coming!

What about this ?

Or this?

describe it to me lou - my browser isnt working and I cant open links!

Shall I email them to you?

Fio2, I have just shopped for a wedding too, and didn't want to get anything too dressy as would have been a waste of money. I bought a pretty cotton floral skirt from Monsoon (red and white) and a satin trimmed white cardigan and vest from Gap. Will wear with high strappy sandals. And then can wear it all summer with flater sandals!!

Joining in to say what you're thinking of for your children sounds just right - we've got a wedding this w/e too and ds (just 5) will be in dark blue neatish but comfy trousers & short-sleeved shirt (+ school shoes). When he was younger I once put him in a posh sort of cardigan jacket for a wedding and he looked a bit overdone. Dd (3.5) is bridesmaid, but if not would have gone for summer dress and shoes hastily polished. Something to remember is that if there are lots of children there they'll all be racing about so clothes need to be fairly robust.

Self in cotton tweed suit that's a bit too casual for work & has been rolled out a lot over last few years (this is good excuse for getting something new if you want to).

yes lou its fiotwo at hotmail dot com

That what I was thinking frenchgirl, its a waste if its too dressy isnt it?

This is spooky - I'm going to a wedding on Sat too (evening do only) and need outfits for me and my 2 boys aged 5 (just) and 2.5.

Was planning to let the boys be very casual, but clean and tidy - at least at the start of the evening...

Have just bee for a haircut, so at least I've made a start.

Sounds to me like you have chosen great outfits for the kids, not entirely sure about black though for a summer wedding. Linen trousers are fab, and wearable for ever. I don't really have nice day wear, it's either really casual or black evening stuff, but I did get some linen trousers last year in the next sale, and they are really nice.

Will do it in a sec then

done fio

Thanks lou! I really like the second one. Infact I had seen a nice dress in oasis last week but that was black aswell. But it had cream embroidery on, but was nice. Thanks evryone, I will report back later after I get back from shopping

I wouldnt worry AT all what the kids ar ewearing tbh

Just been to a fairly posh do this weekend Fio, three or four of the women were in black so its obviously okay! Most of the children were dressed as you describe so you go shop girl!

I think you should go in something that's comfy. If you're going to the whole shooting match with kiddiewinks then having to sit about in something quite structured might not be that great. The linen trousers sound lovely. I hope you get a really nice day and you all have a great time. We've got what I think may be a posh wedding at the end of July and DS (will be almost 2) has to wear a kilt. I'm dreading how many people he'll have to show his pampers off to!

If only it was acceptable to wear pyjamas to a wedding!

bet you've thought of this gscrym but when ds had to wear a kilt as a nappy-wearing pageboy I put the shorts from his summer pyjamas (so not too bulky) over it

obviously I meant over the nappy ...

What you're suggesting for the kids sounds fine. If you're comfortable in your black outfit, then go for it. if you think it needs a bit of colur, why not add a nice red (or whatever colour suits you) scarf and handbag - or even a hat!

Or corsages are supposed to be fashionable at the moment - you could take away from the "blackness" and look really up to the minute with a trendy corsage! That would look really "wedding-y" as well!