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How casual (dresswise) can you be at a wedding?

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Fio2 · 17/05/2004 10:28

Just a bit of advice really. I have a wedding on saturday and need to get new outfits for me and the kids. My daughter age 4 and son and 2 1/2. I just dont want to waste money on clothes we will hardly wear again and wondered how casual we could get away with? I was thinking for my son maybe linen trousers and a casualish shirt and for my daughter just a summer dress, or pretty top with casual type skirt. For me I dont know. Can I get away with linen trousers and a niceish top? Advice please!! Will be off in a while to see what I can find.

Also all the dressier stuff I have is black, is this still a no-go for weddings? TIA

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bundle · 17/05/2004 12:39

JanZ is right - accessories!

princesspeahead · 17/05/2004 14:44

afraid I disagree on the black - would never wear black to a wedding. only possible time I would break that rule if I was invited to an evening reception but not the church beforehand.
children's stuff sounds fine - they just need to look neat and tidy for the first 10 minutes (and then as someone says they will end up with food down their front and in a state of dishevellment anyway.

CountessDracula · 17/05/2004 14:48

Fio2 why don't you borrow something? I will happily lend you one of my numerous virtually unworn dresses if you are as much of a lardarse as me! (and if you like them of course) Could send you photos....

ps I think linen is fine, agree with pph re black, would wear for evening do but not daytime.

iota · 17/05/2004 14:51

A friend of mine was married in black - and I wore a black and white outfit to her wedding.

It wasn't a trditional do however, I wouldn't wear black to a formal white wedding

binkie · 17/05/2004 15:05

Do people still mind green at weddings?

dinosaur · 17/05/2004 15:06

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Twinkie · 17/05/2004 15:10

Dino - I have worn black to a wedding - not church - skirt I wore to MN xmas do and a halterneck top and a big black hat and have never had so many compliments - go for it and don't worry - wear a nioce big chunky beady necklace (ala Kirsty from location location) and have a co-ordinating handbag and shoes - you'll look lovely. XXX

Fio2 - linene trousers and a halterneck top in a jazzy colour - and as Janh says - Accessorizing can jazz up a dowdy outfit and make it unforgettable!!

Hobbs and Karen Millan both have some lovely bright coloured things in at the moment and they have matching shoes and bags (I lurve shoes and bags!!)

I am going to wedding in Italy and 3 in UK this summer am wearing the same dress to each - is pucci print and have bought turquoise shoes and bag to go with it - may get bit beady necklace from accessorise too as is a bit low cut and if my boobs get any bigger I may be done for indecency!!

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beachyhead · 17/05/2004 15:19

Some cow wore a really tarty, tight white dress, with stitching (bra, Madonna style) aroung her perfects boobs to my wedding. Was V. annoyed as not only white, but white and tarty!!!

I think wearing white is much worse than black. (Went to one very posh wedding where the groom's mother was wearing black - now that is a message for her future DIL!!!!!

Twinkie · 17/05/2004 15:35

Accessorize is great for that kinda thing (chunky necklaces) and so is next and Oasis at the moment.

I am sure you will llok beautiful.

Someone wore jeans and a Nehru (sp?) collar jacket to my BFs wedding - can you believe he looked a right twat as the wedding was really posh!! and we went to a friends wedding once and the bridesmaid (sister of the bride) changed out of her hideous dress (pink flouncy number) and into a pale blue catsuit which you could see her pubes through cause she wasn't wearing any knickers!! - Ha ha ha!!

coddycodcod · 17/05/2004 15:37

I would avoid bare shoulders at a church

I know the strapless wedding dress look is in,but lots of poeple commented when a friend of mine wore a helterneck trousers suit to my wedding

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CountessDracula · 17/05/2004 15:43

we went to a wedding in NY State in 2002 and one of our mates turned up in a Bin Laden outfit LOL!

(he is English and secular btw so wholly inappropriate in every way)

motherinferior · 17/05/2004 15:43

OK, so can I get away with a bias-cut silk skirt and bias-cut black silk top to a July wedding? I know it's black but it's v lightweight. (Used to be a Pulling Frock before I got it shortened, in fact I wore it to my cousin's wedding I seem to remember. Also wore it to work do involving Princess Di. When she was alive, of course.)

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Fio2 · 17/05/2004 16:41

OK, I am back. I have got nothing for myself though or dd - although there was plenty that dd would look nice in, just a bit too much choice. Infact I ended up buying her 2 tops from Gap that arent for the wedding!!

Anyway have ds's, I got can you beleive a beige pinstripe suit from Gap 4.97 for the jacket (which is lined) and 4.97 for the trousers. It is lovely, he wont wear it again but I can flog it on e-bay I then bought him a check shirt, quite posh from next which was 12.99 - so dearer than the jacket.

I have my eye on a few dresses for dd, just have to decide which one.

I was just going to buy a top to go with a nice pair of black trousers I have - but it looks like thats a no-go Oh dear. Am off again tommorrow morning to see what I can find!

CD yes I am a lardarse hahahaha you can send me pics if you like but how will the dress get to me?

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Hulababy · 17/05/2004 16:43

I defineitly wouldn't go for white. Made that mistake once when much younger and felt really uncomfortable all day

But, I think splashes of black are fine. In fact at 2 recent weddings I have ebeen to the mother of the bride and the mother of the groom had worn black in their outfits - and both occassions looked lovely in it.

Demented · 17/05/2004 19:46

I wore this pink & white skirt , together with mock layer t-shirt in pink & white . Like you I wanted something I could wear again, felt quite smart in it although I would have preferred a different top (it was bought in desperation when I couldn't get the one I wanted in my size). I toyed with the idea of linen trousers, navy ones, and don't think they would have been out of place but then I was only there in the evening. Hope you find something.

CountessDracula · 17/05/2004 19:50

Fio2 what size are you? I have dresses in 14/16. I can post tomorrow on guaranteed delivery so will be with you by Weds which gives you time to try them and discard if you don't like

aloha · 17/05/2004 21:46

Motherinferior, for a not too formal wedding it sounds nice, but I would add colour somewhere - a silk flower or beady bag or even a hat.

serenequeen · 18/05/2004 06:54

anyone looking for accessories, jigsaw have some great summer shoes, bags, scarves and jewellery at the moment.

katierocket · 18/05/2004 06:59

I've worn a black dress twice to a wedding, I just bought a cheapish pink and purple floating scarf thingy from acessorise and wrapped it round my shoulders when I was in the church.

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Fio2 · 18/05/2004 08:28

CD that would be lovely do you want me send you my address then?

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CountessDracula · 18/05/2004 10:04

Email me Fio and I'll take some dig photos and mail them back - they may not be the sort of thing you want at all so let's do that before posting!

aloha · 18/05/2004 10:15

Actually, I think black can look very nice with colour - even though Trinny and Susannah would disagree.

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