Swagger Inn Thread 109. The Back to School & Back to Wenching Thread

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It's a new term so early to bed for the little darlings & back to the Muskeperving for us wenches. New pupils always welcome if you are taking Musketeers A-Level. You 4 new boys in leather can come & sit at the front where I can keep an eye on you And no guns in class. Now FOCUS you lot.

relieved you're feeling a bit better now issy and hoping that DrIssy did indeed take in some of your rant.

That's fab that he's so engaged ali and that he's telling you all about it. DS was a swine for not telling me about school until DD started. She would come out of school full of her day & he must have got jealous of her getting my attention, so started butting in to tell me about his day - competitive sharing! Fingers crossed that any rivalry between your two has such as positive outcome

Chicken (not children!) cooked and eaten.
Tidied up, dishes done.
Just got to bring the last of the washing in but I'm soooo knackered.
Will get Dh to do it.
He is off tomorrow - hurrah! - so if I'm feeling rubbish he will take ds2 to school.
New lampshade to go at the top of the stairs. And I'm putting my winter bedroom curtains up.
Good news about the duvet apes...I had visions of it still being wet in November! :)
Both DC pretty tired as its the end of the week. Ds2s swimming lessons start again tomorrow so he is excited about that.

Early night for me, wenches...hope mouse is feeling better and I am sending happy calm vibes for TM tomorrow x
Ilya x

Hello, all. RBNR - sorry. I feel better but still pretty wiped out, the very little I did has completely worn me out. All the prep for TM starting is done, snack box packed, nappies/wipes/change of clothes, all relevant forms filled in. Clothes and bag all laid out for tomorrow . I have no idea what time the bus is picking him up though ?? argh.

Evening all. Has anyone else seen the thread on MN today about someone who wants a third baby but her DP doesn't? She got savaged. I feel sorry for her - though she already has two. I still really want another and am feeling increasingly desperate about it tbh approaching 38th birthday and eggs dying DP totally doesn't. Is it really that wrong to try to persuade him? Fat chance anyway and I don't know how viable it would be, but the feelings are not going away, they're actually getting worse.

What would you do wenches? I need to either a) talk him into it or b) get over it. Quickly. Arrrgh.

Evening wenches.

You throw in as much summarising about W&P as you want Obs. I'm very much the same as Helen with her assessment of it

Loving duvet watch

Badderz's children in the oven made me

Good to hear DC are enjoying school. Big for Mouse, visits from Vinnie for useless DHs/DPs

Madame I posted on that thread. I think the reason why the OP got a savaging is that she was talking about going ahead and getting pregnant without her DP really agreeing to it, on the basis that he was already a good father and would come around to it.
I wanted a third and DH didn't, mostly on the basis of his age and the fact that we would have had to move house already or burst at the seams. Once DS2 hit 18-24months I was totally fine with that decision, life had moved on from babies, and nappies and buggies.

Only you know how you feel. Is it worth risking your relationship to have another baby? though, it is hard.

It's ok for him, he already has three kids, I just have one.

Ok so am I being a right selfish cow then? Do please be honest, I think I need a serious reality check, or counselling, or hysterectomy, or possibly all three.

I don't think you're being selfish at all. Do you think you could persuade him? Or is that just going to lead down a road of huge resentment all round? Did you discuss children before you had any? What did you agree?

RBNR..I'll try again in a bit.

Madame I very much wanted another DC. DH was undecided. We spent a lot of time talking when little DS was three. We even tried for six months. Things just weren't right. For lots of reasons. It was the hardest decision to not have another and for a couple of years I still had pangs. DH agreed if I couldn't stop the feeling we would talk again. Gradually it just faded. Now I'm happy with my two and I don't think, given circumstances, I could manage a young one.

I don't think you are selfish to want another child. Especially as you only have one yourself. Only you know though if your DH would understand your reasons and change his feelings.

It's really hard.

madame I saw some of that thread & agree with ali's assessment of why the OP got a pasting. I think she also said in a later post that she wouldn't rule out a fourth, she seemed in general quite dismissive of his opinions & feelings in the matter.

You're definitely not selfish to want another, but neither is he to not want another (assuming he never lead you to believe otherwise)

He understands my feelings Im sure, it's just that he doesnt want any more himself. Thanks wenches. I think I need to just have the convo with him to get it all out in the open and try to lay it to rest.

Madame

I think it is worth talking as openly as possible about it, even if it doesn't make him change his mind. I think you could regret it in the future if you don't - like you didn't try every option (even if you think the chances are very slim) iyswim? and , it's a very difficult situation.

Evening, have RBNR, other than for Madame

Have been working - as ever i thought I was doing just a quick thing that needed fixing. 1 hour later... I think I'm heading for the hayloft.

Oh - the delights of motherhood. DS didn't want a bath so I said I was off for a wallow in peace and quiet before he came up. Ran bath with nice smelly bubbly, all ready to relax. Walked to bathroom and was barged out of way by DS "I need a poooooooo!" Well. That was a lovely ambiance for my bath then. We do have another toilet you know.

obs love your W&P lecture. I might start it tonight, but am worried about falling asleep and then not remembering what happened. Plus I am reading Chekhov which I am loving.

Yep, Keira Knightley ruined P&P and Anna Karenina and Doctor Zchivago. If she turns up as Emma Bovary at any point I will lose the fucking plot.

madame I think you need to lay it out, particularly how important it is to you. It took me over a year to convince DH for number 3.

What episode of dexter is Santi in? Suits is finished and DH has just started Dexter.

I have no idea re Santi in Dexter anne, have only seen that youtube compilation of Santi scenes!

And I'd forgotten KK was in Anna Karenina. That was another I have no desire to see. I don't dislike her in everything. But she is NOT Lizzie and she is NOT Anna. Dr Zhivago I am not so keen on. If she turns up as Cathy though, I too will lose it.

That, Fancy, will never happen. She does not have what it takes at all to be Cathy. She also did not have an iota of Anna. It irks me that Vittoria Pucinni was so so much better, in fact she embodied Anna for me and her version and KK version were a year apart and her version is unknown. I only watched because my lecturer yes that one was a consultant on it and the director or whoever said they were inspired by his book, the title of which was inspired by W&P.

Waffle over. Sorry for the lack of punctuation.

No apologies needed anne that is quality waffle, very interesting. I do hope you're right re: Cathy, she would be so wrong for her. But then I think most people are wrong for Wuthering Heights & I rarely watch any versions because of that. i love that book.

I didn't mind the Tom Hardy version. I was that he could pull it off but I thought he was pretty good. The Cathy was great I thought and they had chemistry. The newer 'critically acclaimed' version I couldn't get past the childhood.

That's interesting re Tom Hardy, I'm not a great fan, but could be persuaded to watch it if recommended.

Jesus anne and fancy - how many versions of wuthering heights have you seen???

Sorry for derailing the thread into angstville last night and all for your advice. Youre all lovely. I did bite the bullet and talk to him about it last night. I don't think a baby is on the cards but he was nice and I feel better for talking about it.

Anyway. I like tom hardy. He reminds me of a young Marlon Brando. Mmm.

Oh and you know when your child wakes you up in the middle of a rare dream about your favourite hbf?

Well, that.

But it was my first (that I can remember) jeremy renner dream too!!!

AND IT WASNT EVEN MY BLOODY CHILD WHO WOKE ME UP!!!!!

(We have ds's friend staying with us this week cos her mum is sick.)

Morning. TMs first day today and I'm nervous as fuck.

That is all.

I will hold your hand, but I have some awful lurgy so no shall also wear a face mask :)
Had about an hours sleep.
Thank goodness dh is home today - but then away for a week tomorrow! :(