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stupid b*tch

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Yorkiegirl · 03/11/2006 13:41

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zePHYRWORKcat · 03/11/2006 14:05

What a bunch of inconsiderate *'s. (any word will do) Especially as it was DD who had planted things there Sounds like both dd's would be better off without them.

Hope you're ok x

nailpolish · 03/11/2006 14:05

i am amazed someone could say that

surely yorkies dd's should be uppermost in their thoughts re stuff like this

suzywong · 03/11/2006 14:05

oh sweetheart, don''t waste your energy on breaking it down, you need it for your girls.

Very on your behalf

SpaceCadet · 03/11/2006 14:05

steveandlibby, it is YG'S dh's grave.

Socci · 03/11/2006 14:06

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SpaceCadet · 03/11/2006 14:06

i dont know what to say..except what a heartless thing to do

JonesTheSteam · 03/11/2006 14:07

That's terrible - if it's a 'family place', then they should have put their bulbs somewhere else on the grave and left what your DD did alone.

So about this (and on your behalf!!)

MiaOUCHthatHURT · 03/11/2006 14:08

Oh Yorkie, that's just awful.

Bad enough tbh that they just decided to go and plant stuff on there without even consulting you. But to remove what was already there - did it not cross their minds that your dd's may have put them there?

I am pretty speechless tbh. VVVQV, wise words as usual.

Have a virtual (((((hug)))))), you need it.

steveandlibby · 03/11/2006 14:09

ok let me tell you a thing or two
i was an undertaker and had been for 8 years

as you own the grave and as you have the grave deeds only you have the legal right to do anything with that grave
if anyone does anything you dont want them to you can by law have them stopped
i know you might not like to go as far as that but tell them how you feel and explain that you want to be asked before they do any thing else

if you want to have this checked out before you talk to them ask the undertakers you delt with they will confirm this to you

harpsichordsgoingBANGandWHOOSH · 03/11/2006 14:09

oh dear god how vile
sometimes grief brings out the worst in people, just when you really need it to bring out the very best.
you need to protect yourself and your dds from this kind of crap. If that means distancing yourself from these selfish thoughtless people then it can't be the wrong thing to do.

FioFio · 03/11/2006 14:09

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wannaBe1974 · 03/11/2006 14:10

wow that is outragious. am

on your behalf.

FireFaerie · 03/11/2006 14:10

would like to express my sympathy for you, and to let you know that when i read this.. well my language.. lets just say i was glad little ears were at school. you poor soul, and poor DD. some people just dont know how to conduct themselves in a reasonable manner!

Flamesparkler · 03/11/2006 14:10

Oh no

MiaOUCHthatHURT · 03/11/2006 14:11

I just re-read your post Yorkie. MIL said it was "absolutely ok for her and SIL to uproot what DD1 has planted."

So she knew that dd1 had planted them ......

Some people when backed into a corner will do anything rather than face facts that they made a mistake....

SSSandy · 03/11/2006 14:12

don't know what to say, Yorkie. Obviously everyone is still very sad and emotional. I'm guessing he passed away only a few years ago at the most. Good to see at least that his family loves him and wants to express that somehow by tending to his grave but they could also do that by showing kindness and warmth towards his widow and dd, couldn't they?

Can you pay for a service for him, if you're religious at all. Take dd to church and light a candle and take some nice flowers to decorate the alter?

Plant your bulbs at home in a corner of your garden where you put up a picture of Nigel and dd tends to it with her own little watering can?

Sorry you had to deal with this today, hun.

rickman · 03/11/2006 14:12

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Yorkiegirl · 03/11/2006 14:13

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 03/11/2006 14:13

Have CAT'd you YG.

sassy · 03/11/2006 14:13

Shit YG, how miserable for you.

Not just the thoughtlessness of the action, but the reaction when you asked. Feel really sad for you.

Like SW's suggestion of a private garden area for you and dds - somewhere entirely for you to remember him.

And mr undertaker-guy, please be sensitive in your questions. I appreciate you are trying to be helpful but you were a little abrupt.

MiaOUCHthatHURT · 03/11/2006 14:13

sssandy, he died in August this year.

Twiglett · 03/11/2006 14:14

YG I am not suprised you are so cross and sad

But when you have had a chance to calm down from your righteous anger remember that your MIL and SIL would not consciously want to hurt you or DDs .. they did not mean any disrespect .. and they are important in your and DDs' lives

They didn't have the right, but I am sure it was not maliciously done

What would Nigel say?

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Yorkiegirl · 03/11/2006 14:14

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Yorkiegirl · 03/11/2006 14:15

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sassy · 03/11/2006 14:15

Wise words from Twig.

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