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Are you anti-abortion? why?

359 replies

HAPPYFACE · 21/10/2006 08:04

Reading another thread has made me keep thinking this question. I don't understand how anyone can be totally one way.
For me I think it is up to each person and I wouldn't judge anyones decision.
I personally think that whether to keep a child is complex. It changes your life forever when you have children! I don't see how it is beneficial to mother or child if their lives will be miserable.
You only get ONE LIFE and need to make the most of it.

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QuootieSpookypie · 21/10/2006 19:56

Thanks Im not out for the sympathy vote... just trying to be honest.

QuootieSpookypie · 21/10/2006 19:56

Berkshire by the way, if some cakes going spare

lulumama · 21/10/2006 19:56

i'm not being sympathetic...i'm being honest!

lulumama · 21/10/2006 19:57

no , sadly...200 miles away/...have a feeling cake would be stale!

hijack over!!

QuootieSpookypie · 21/10/2006 19:57

Im not being greedy... just honest aswell

Blandmum · 21/10/2006 19:57

too far for me, or I'd be getting you some Welsh cakes [weak smile emoticon needed]

HumphreyComfrey · 21/10/2006 19:57

Quootie, I have never, ever, ever given a cyber hug before.

But you can have one!

((((QUOOTIE))))

Let's go and start a thread about something else shall we?

kittythescarygoblin · 21/10/2006 19:58

I had nightmares for years after my abortion. Sometimes I wonder whether I don't want others to have one because it will someone be like me having one all over again. I don't suppose that makes much sense.
I know some women can have them and feel fine with their decisions. Others suffer,
I just wish there was a sure fire way of preventing unwanted pregnancies.
I was taking antibiotics whilst on the pill and nobody thought to ask/ warn me. I'm sure many. many women have been caught out this way.
I know that my boyfriend of the time thought I was lying to him about how it happened,

QuootieSpookypie · 21/10/2006 19:58

(((((((((((((EVERYONE))))))))))))))))

pucca · 21/10/2006 19:58

Divastrop....In answer to you, i decided to do what was best for ME and the BABY. I didn't think it would be fair to bring a child into that situation, what you chose to do is up to you as an individual, i chose not to subject myself and a baby to that, to a life of being stuck with a man in OUR life who was a complete and utter t**t! I got pg ONCE by accident ( i was on the pill) and yes i shouldn't have been with the guy in question but anyone who has been in a abusive relationship will know how difficult it is to leave when you totally love that person and believe one day they will change.

You did what you did and i did what i did, the abortion was no easy thing to go through but i did what i thought was best which to others may not be what they would choose, but i made that decision and i have to live with it, but i still believe i did the right thing.

QuootieSpookypie · 21/10/2006 19:59

oh, Kitty ((hugs))

CreepyCrawlyCarmenere · 21/10/2006 20:00

I repeat from my post of 9.49 this morning "I wouldn't dream of prescribing my views and morals onto another person and the arrogance of people who do astounds me"

QuootieSpookypie · 21/10/2006 20:01

Not being rude....arrogance or ignorance?

divastrop · 21/10/2006 20:01

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Greensleeves · 21/10/2006 20:01

Sorry to hear that kitty, it must have been terribly traumatic

Anyone who has a black and white "no" attitude to this hasn't really lived and hasn't got much empathy for other women, IMO. Life is messy and painful sometimes, and it tends to be women who have to make these impossible decisions .

pucca · 21/10/2006 20:02

As for this dicussion...show me a person who thinks abortion is the best thing since sliced bread?? no one really likes the idea of abortion, no one totally agrees it is a right thing to do NO ONE, it is just unfortunate that yes it happens.

Do you think any woman who has had a abortion says it the best best thing they have ever done?? NO.

QuootieSpookypie · 21/10/2006 20:03

on that note, ive yet to meet someone who really regretted having a child...

JennyLeEVIL · 21/10/2006 20:06

well now we know what divastrop thinks, over and over and over and this discussion is not getting anywhere.

but one think is certain women obviously need the right to choose either way, for themselves.

Blandmum · 21/10/2006 20:06

divastrop. I rememebr reading about a young girl who planned to leave Ireland to come to the UK to have an abortion. She was below the age of cencent and had been raped by an older man, IIRC her Uncle. I don't think she was planning to have sex, do you? What should she have done?

She was prevented from leaving Irelnd and eventually had to have the baby. Horrific.

lulumama · 21/10/2006 20:06

"if you are that desperate not to get pregnant again then you should abstain from sex.why should a baby die just because a method of contraception you know not to be 100% reliable fails?PND is terrible,i know this having experienced it myself more than once.i also know what the effects of an unplanned pregnancy are having had more than one...i chose to cope,rather than kill"

right...so we should choose to cope not kill......guess you didn;t read the post about empathy and not making black & white judgments....

i'm delighted you could cope so well....does';t mean that everyone else can....if i'd have become pregnant whilst suffering PND....i would have not coped with another child.

So i should not have made love with my husband for 4 years instead!!??

how you can be so unbelievable sure of your own rightness is astounding...the fact you coped ( and you don;t sound at all bitter!?) should surely make you more empathetic to others rather than less so....

Greensleeves · 21/10/2006 20:08

diva I think your last post is really cruel. You KNOW there are women posting here who have had terminations and are feeling very raw and in pain about it. What gives you the right - or the inclination - to twist the knife? Sometimes it's better NOT to say the first thing that comes into your head. This isn't a role-playing exercise, these are real people, you know.

lulumama · 21/10/2006 20:08

"cope rather than kill"

i am still reeling from that statement

JennyLeEVIL · 21/10/2006 20:09

using a word like kill, what purpose is it supposed to serve?

do you realise how that might make people feel?

are you trying to twist the knife into people who had an abortion and regretted it? why would you do that?

CreepyCrawlyCarmenere · 21/10/2006 20:09

No I think arrogance was the right word.......

JennyLeEVIL · 21/10/2006 20:10

Really divastrop why would you do someting like that?