Merry go round &round &round &....................

[melsy]

Does anyone else feel like that. I feel like my body is incubating a yucky illness. I love my dd and will do anyhting for her. She gives me a joyous smile every morning,which seems to help it a little, but sometimes I just want to stay in bed as I dont always have the energy to look after her every day.Does it feel like it just goes on & on & on , with no change to the picture at all any time soon??? I feel terrible for feeling this way and makes me feel like a bad mum. I havent been out with my mummy group for a couple of weeks and have spent most days at home because dd has had a nasty virus , with tempratures and may be Im feeling hemmed in but also very run down , so doing stuff is like a big feat at the moment.I dont know, its like a grey cloud, like the one in the begining credits of Honeymoon in Vegas!!! Actually writing this theres probably many of you who feel this way at one time or another, but sometimes when alone every day you feel that you are the only one.

Just came back from a fu*ing distaster lunch out with my sister. We went to a local a farm that has what I thought was a lovely little cafe with lovely food. Anyway it transpired that as we were leaving the owner decided to take it apon himself to have a small word with my sister and her "misbehaved children" ,I overheard him saying to her that "we cant have this here". I was on my way to the exit were he was holding the door practicaly shoving them out. In stuck up Fu*ing stiff upper lip way he said that he ahs lost custom today because of it as 4 tables have left and complained. I couldnt believe what I was hearing and said "excuse me " , "How dare you" I said ,to which he said "some restaurants dont let children in at all, do you not think they were misbehaving???" . Despite my feeling that they are a tad loud and tearaway & my sister finds it hard to control them 3yrs old & 18mths. I said it was not my place to say. he shouted back saying and your not answering me because you know im right. I also told him it was not his place to say. To which he said "its my restaurant" . Fine I said I wont bring my custom back here & the whole of Enfield will know how you have acted.

Just had to get that off my chest , as I cried and sobbed all the way home & just sat on my drive shaking from upset, whilst my sister laughed it off and told me I was getting too involved. See the things is it could have been me he was talking about & I understand an expensive restaurant having a policy of not being family friendly , but not a farm in my local area. He should have a sign outside saying families are not welcome.

For those in the area BE WARNED it is the farm shop / cafe between Hadley Wood & Enfield.
I have really had enough today , Im so vulnarable at the moment & SUPER sensitive. I feel like I want to tell the local papers about this, I am really becoming one of those militant mums , but I want to remain anaonymous. I also am not the sort of person that woudld want to ruin a business, but this is not right or am I in the wrong??? I was concerned that other people were getting upset in there, but what do you do with noisy boisterous kids. is it a BRITISH thing ???

Has anyone else had this happen to them or seen it ??

May be I over reacted becasue of how I feel today??

My dh just said it was my sisters fault for not disciplining them enough.I just found out that he had said he lost custom last week to when my sister went with other friends and there toddlers. So why did he take our custom this week and wait till we had paid to day something. Hhe still took our money and then made us unwelcome. I have never experienced this.

I feel terrible , am I wrong to agree with dh.I have no idea what its like as my dd onlys 6months. What a conflict cos he really upset me the restaurant guy & I really dont want to upset my sister.

just tried your hotmail ... just relax babe ...don´t let someones elses bad attitude get you down ... let the whole day go and start again....

Melsy, relax!
The guy sounds like an ar*e and well done to your sister for managing two kids close in age. I'm damn sure that bloke wouldnt be able to cope and he's probably lost custom before due to his attitude.

A 3 yr old and an 18 mth old are going to be noisy and not sit still - thats just the way they are. I think the bloke was unbelievably rude. If he felt he had a problem with your sisters kids before, then he should have either mentioned it at the time or when you first went in (or just chilled out a bit and kept his mouth shut!)

IMO anyone who would walk out a cafe because there were kids running around should get a life.

I'd have been upset too, Melsy - go and have a nice cup of tea and console yourself with all the custom he's now going to lose!

Thanks girls tea sounds nice , but dd is miserable,crying and tired and wants my attention all the time, so cant relax till shes in bed.

Do you think its too much to write to local newspaper??

Lydialemon you said you havebeen upset too , in the same sort of situation or something else today???