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how often does your dp/dh phone his mum?

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poppiesinaline · 28/08/2006 21:11

Both DH and my parents live 250 miles away. We see them twice a year.

DH phones his mum at least twice a week. I think this is a bit excessive for a 36 year old married man. He seems to think not (he used to phone her every day )

So, I said I would do a MN survey:

So, if your DP/DH's mum lives far away, how often does he call her?

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MamaG · 28/08/2006 21:12

My DH is a 36 year old married man, lives about 80 miles from his Mum, see her 3-4 times a year and calls....never. She calls him about once / twice a month.

chocybickie · 28/08/2006 21:12

she calls him once every month. they live about 300 miles away and see each other once every 3 years or so.

acnebride · 28/08/2006 21:13

About 3 times a week.

Sorry

I reckon twice a week is fine, provided she's not spending the whole conversation bending his ear about what a rubbish daughter-in-law you are.

MrsApronstrings · 28/08/2006 21:13

we live in the states mil and fil live near sheffield. he speaks to them on phone about once a week - generally they phone not him

Pollyanna · 28/08/2006 21:14

They speak once a week. Usually she calls him, but I sometimes make him call her. She also phones the children at the weekend and speaks to dh briefly then. We see her maybe once every 6 weeks.

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poppiesinaline · 28/08/2006 21:18

she probably is acnebride! LOL

any more? I either need more fuel to win my arguement or to crawl very quietly into a corner and mutter humble apologies ....

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Chandra · 28/08/2006 21:18

My parents live on the other side of the world and I spoke to them once a week (otherwise they stop telling me about the day to day funny stories/problems which I don't want to miss).

DH's mother lives in Spain, before I stopped reminding him to call her, he ring her once a week, now is whenever he remembers to, but it is about every 2-3 weeks.

But then, we both come from cultures where life revolves around family. So maybe not a good sample

SherlockLGJ · 28/08/2006 21:21

My DH never ever calls his Mum, the reception is rubbish where she is......................

She is dead.

My Bro phones my Mum once or twice a week.

DB...Hi any news ??

DM....No not really..............

DB...Oh right..

DM......Fancy coming to dinner this week ?

DB....Sorry busy or alternatively...Oh Yes please.

DM....Good answer, there is a concert I would like to go to on Sunday.or.........I look forward to it.

They do get together about once a month, but speak every week, I think it is great.

Chandra · 28/08/2006 21:21

Now that I remember.... before we moved to England, she used to ring 2-3 times a day and dropped by at least 4 times a week, and she was offended if we failed to attend a Tuesday and/or Sunday lunch. One of the things that convinced us that it was a good idea to stay in England after all.

tiredemma · 28/08/2006 21:23

about once a month- and that is under duress from me.

I would hate it if my boys only contacted me once a month when they are adults.

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poppiesinaline · 28/08/2006 21:25

there you go! tiredemma said it!! Its 'mums and their boys' . Gets right on my nerves! I hope I am not like that with my boys when they get older.

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fireflyfairy2 · 28/08/2006 21:28

Never, she lives about 2 minutes walk away. He sees her about once a month or they wave as they pass in their cars.

sorkycake · 28/08/2006 21:29

Never!
We visit them 3-4 times a month and they live less than 3 miles away!!
Just the way we like it too

Mum2FunkyDude · 28/08/2006 21:33

DH 46 used to call only once every 2 months, they live more than 6000 miles apart now, and unfortunately she has altzheimer so he doesn't phone her that often, she doesn't remember anyway...I think he would love to phone her more often, but it is a bit emotionally draining now, I phone mine every 2nd Sunday...used be once a week! But international calls are expensive.

fuzzywuzzy · 28/08/2006 21:33

In laws live in another country.
Dh phones when I remind him, or if we hear about natural disasters in their neck of the wood.
Tbh I've completely stopped encouraging him to phone them, as everytime he rings them, he will inevitably start an almighty row with me over nothing... I reckon they wind him up.
So as far as I'm concerend never is good.
He's phoned them I think twice so far this year.

2shoes · 28/08/2006 21:33

MIL lives about 40miles away she rings once a week and dh rings her once a week(so they talk twice) but often I get him to ring her if like today I am worried she might not have seen anyone all day. she is 80 he is 49 but she is still his mum and he her boy.(oh and she is on her own since fil died)

gladbag · 28/08/2006 21:34

Dh's mum calls us most days. If Dh hasn't heard from them for, say, three days, then he phones them, assuming they are dead. I talk to them probably once a week, and leave the rest to him. Bless.

SherlockLGJ · 28/08/2006 21:34

Mum2FunkyDude

Where are your folks ??

I amy have a cheap website for you.

Tommy · 28/08/2006 21:36

MIL phones here on a Sunday morning (when DSs and I are at church) but she doesn't phone every week and DH never phones her unless he's got something specifically to ask/tell her.
DH not the best example though - he never phones anyone!!!

tillykins · 28/08/2006 21:36

My inlaws spend half the year about 10 minutes away and half the year about 2 hours away (the better half of the year if you ask me)
MIL phones about once a week regardless, generally whilst we are eating

DH phones her far too bloody often - its not the amount of times he phones her, its just that if anything happens, he rings
We look at a new camera, he rings her
minitilly has a cold, he rings her
car has a flat tyre, he rings her
Dog has her booster jabs, he rings her

drives me utterly bonkers, its as though nothing can happen in our life without him ringing her. He tells her whatever it is, then passes the phone to me and she bores the arse off me, telling me some twaddle about curtain fabric

I am glad you asked poppies, I suddenly realise I have issues about this

KristinaM · 28/08/2006 21:37

Never. She is a witch and tries to screw up his life So he has little to do with her

octavia · 28/08/2006 21:41

every evening but he needs to.

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poppiesinaline · 28/08/2006 21:42

mmm bit of a mixture then.

So do I win my arguement then or not?

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Mum2FunkyDude · 28/08/2006 21:43

Hi Sherlock

In South Africa, I have access to a 4p/min site at the moment, but we still end up talking about an hour at a time.

IdrisTheDragon · 28/08/2006 21:46

DH's parents live about 60 miles away. He phones them about once every 10 days.

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