how often does your dp/dh phone his mum?

[poppiesinaline]

Both DH and my parents live 250 miles away. We see them twice a year.

DH phones his mum at least twice a week. I think this is a bit excessive for a 36 year old married man. He seems to think not (he used to phone her every day )

So, I said I would do a MN survey:

So, if your DP/DH's mum lives far away, how often does he call her?

Hedgewitch!

Well three times a year is probably not entirely true. But it certainly isn't every month! He usually goes around saying, "I must phone my mother this month". He could be saying that for weeks on end.

I too have given up encouraging him. That's their business. Her loss and my gain

we dont live too far from dps mum so she pops by once every few weeks when shes not working and they speak regularly on the phone, they have a good relationship and she is very supportive.

its good that they are close because i dont speak to my family so its very important for our dc to have dps mum around and shes very loving towards me!

Mrs Doolittle, same here!

she once, on her birthday, phoned and left a message on his works ansaohone say' hello, its mum and yes I am still alive!!' thats how often he phones

every day since his dad dieed

DP phones his mother when I give birth to a grandchild ( 3 times in the past 7 years then)
She phones him once a year to see what we want for Christmas.
I call her 3-4 times a year, and invites ourselves to visit a couple of times a year, or my kids would never see their grandmother.

Mercy

dh's mum lives in the UK - we are in Aus - once a week - once a fortnight.

never cos she's a bitch

She walked past him the street the other day and blanked him, Also ignored her 3 day old grand daughter in the supermarket 4 years ago and has never seen his other daughter.

dp (43) sees his mum every day and speaks on the phone at least once a day ... he is a self-confessed mummy's boy

(luckily she is lovely)

MIL lives 120 miles away

dh phones about once a fortnight, NEVER remembers what they talk about on the 30-40 minute call and then I speak to MIL a week or so later when she wants to know why we didnt send a car to Uncle John when his wife died or to our cousin who had another baby. dh says "oh yeah, she DID tell me but I forgot" Useless!

MIL on the other hand, phones several times a week except when I am pregnant, ill or one of the children is ill when she calls EVERY DAY !!!!!!! and witters on for half an hour about nothing when I've got better things to do. We purposefully didnt tell her last time dd was ill as we couldnt face the daily inquisitions about why dont we try this and that and do a better job basically.

dh phones his mum about every 2 days and we live 5 mins away so will see them once or twice a week.

He visits once a year and then forgets to phone for months and the phone calls get more persistent nearer his next visit then die again 500 miles away.

DH confessed last night he only calls her because he feels guilty if he doesnt and she gives him a real earache.

MIL and my parents live in Wales (we live in Surrey) and when we go up there for holidays we tend to rent a cottage. My mum never rings us while we are on holiday - she will be just happy to see us when we have a minute to pop in. MIL on the otherhand will ring the cottage almost every day asking when we are going to see her next Its an hours drive to get to her from our holiday cottage. She lives in a one bedroom flat. The 3 kids last about 30 mins and then start to go stir crazy moaning that they want to be on the beach.

This year, we had such a crap holiday that we decided to come home a day early and you should have heard the grief DH got from her. Me thinks she is clasping very tightly to those apron strings

sheepgomeep cant believe someone would blank their own child and grandchildren. Thats very sad.

Dh calls his parents maybe once every 1 to 2 weeks. They live 2 and half hours drive away. MIL and FIL do not use the call to whinge about me.

Poppies - you got it easy! Not so much with his mum but DH phones his dad AT LEAST once a day, not unusual for it to be more, especially when the football's on!

I have now (3 years into marriage) put my foot down and refuse to answer the phone after 10.30pm or during dinner - DH gets a very cold shoulder if he does either - especially if we're watching a movie coz it means I have to wait for him.

Hmmmm, you got me thinking, should I start a thread entitled, can your DH/DP be a*sed to come for dinner while it's still more than luke warm?...

Dh doesnt ring his mum at all. She has altzheimers and doesnt have a clue who he is anymore.
Back in the days when she was well he used to pop in to say hello maybe once a fortnight.But he never just rang her for a chat.
She lives about 10miles away

we live about 15 miiles from the inlaws - DH calls them maybe 2-3 times per week - and speaks to whoever wants to speak to him !

lorina - that is so thats a horrible illness.

liquidclocks - that would really pee me off. Have you tried unplugging the phone? LOL

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Dh's mum lives about 200 miles away. He phones her probably once for every five times she calls or texts and we don't respond The more we don't respond the more she tries to get in contact and starts sending little cards to ds and last time a couple of t-shirts too, merely reinforcing the notion that we shouldn't contact her.

She tends to want to be in contact either when she thinks there is likely to be a breakthrough and suddenly good news about dh's health (which never happens) or when she wants to offload stress about dh's brother.

I speak to my parents about 3 times a week, but they are not mad.

My FIL I have met once whilst heavily pregnant and he never even mentioned the baby, just talked about himself for an hour and a half. He didn't even come to our wedding (which was 5 miles from where he lived) because he was working. Hence we have no contact with him at all!