how often does your dp/dh phone his mum?

[poppiesinaline]

Both DH and my parents live 250 miles away. We see them twice a year.

DH phones his mum at least twice a week. I think this is a bit excessive for a 36 year old married man. He seems to think not (he used to phone her every day )

So, I said I would do a MN survey:

So, if your DP/DH's mum lives far away, how often does he call her?

Once a week and he gets really depressed after the call. MIL turns on the dramatics and compares him unfavourably to other (better?) sons. It's awful. He is an only child so no one else for her to moan to. Lives 400 miles away but insists she visits four times a year (for a week or it's not worth it). I'm hanging out for Christmas but she'll wear him down and get an invite before then, I suppose.

Dp lives about 200 miles away from his mother & speaks to her about once a fornight if that, he does speak to his dad though once a week...

One of my new baby essentials is a phone with a Do Not Disturb feature. This means that you don't have to unplug the phone in order to be left in peace, and selected individuals on the VIP list can call you at will I had Do Not Disturb on permanently when ds was tiny. Fantastic. Wish you could do the same with text messages, so you could decide who was allowed to text you at any given moment.

tribpot thats a fab idea. I have never heard of that.

The Philips DECT phones seem to do it - some of them at least. Well worth it!

he never ever phones her, she lives less than 10 miles away .

i might add he has no desire too see her either(poor woman)

when nagged

My dp is 35 his mother lives 2 miles away, and he either phones or sees his mum every day!!!

Dh speaks to his parents and his sister about once a week and they email at other times.

tey live inb the States and we only see them once every year or so.

By talking to them regularly, I think DH feels he has more of a relationship with them, and that they are more involved in our lives, and the dds'.

DP rarely calls his mum - she rarely ever calls him though in fact - months will go by without her even asking after DS. Don't get me started on her I am going through one of my angry times with regards to MIL!!

No Malory - I'll know what not to do! ie nag and nag so they enevr want to go home.

I hope that they don't ring me often. I would like to think they are off enjoying their lives without the feeling of having to 'check that mum is ok' or to 'keep mum happy'.

I do feel guilty sometimes, complaining about my MIL's constant communication, and I do hope my ds rings me fairly often....

but....

if I end up phoning my ds most days, and emailing every day with, let's just say for example, a photo of the next door neighbour's daughter's new puppy, or perhaps the new display that the sunday school kids did in church, or maybe their new doormat, and then phoning again after 1/2 an hour to see if the email has arrived, wanting a comment on said doormat/display/puppy then I hope my ds will hit me (gently) over the head with a large stick

we live 5 mins away from the inlaws. DH speaks to his mum around 3 times a week either him calling or her calling. We see them EVERY week... Not my idea of fun.

Sometimes his dad calls about footie etc and anyway whoever is on the phone passes it around to mum/dad/bro to speak to him. .