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how often does your dp/dh phone his mum?

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poppiesinaline · 28/08/2006 21:11

Both DH and my parents live 250 miles away. We see them twice a year.

DH phones his mum at least twice a week. I think this is a bit excessive for a 36 year old married man. He seems to think not (he used to phone her every day )

So, I said I would do a MN survey:

So, if your DP/DH's mum lives far away, how often does he call her?

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UnquietDad · 28/08/2006 21:47

Well, here's input from a 37-year-old married man, with parents living similar distance away.

I phone my mum about once a week, if that. Very rarely, I'll speak to her twice in a week if I've got something special to talk about.

DW can't understand why I don't phone her MORE often. She speaks to her mum on the phone every day - or at the very least every other day.

They live 30 miles away and will sometimes "pop" in without notice, sometimes not even checking first to see if we're going to be in. Now, I think THAT is weird.

ocd · 28/08/2006 21:48

i think it lovely and it sets a loveyl eg to any dsses you may have
god i HOpe my boys ring me when i am old
this REAKKY worrues me

ocd · 28/08/2006 21:49

mine rings hi smum once or twice a week
he is crap at al ringing so its not jsut his mum

i do htink poeple need to realise what an eg htey set to heir kids by their relation shoips wiht their parents ( all other things equal)

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poppiesinaline · 28/08/2006 21:49

unquietDad

Nice to have some male input btw.

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UrsulatheSeawitch · 28/08/2006 21:51

DH is 54 and his mum is 83. She is fairly dotty (but always has been) but physically dynamic, and he doesn't ring her regularly but does visit her - 15 miles away - at least once a week. (His dad and my parents all dead now. Our kids love her to bits.)

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poppiesinaline · 28/08/2006 21:53

some good points.

Sitting here and posting this has made me realise something. I think its the fact that his mum is very 'clingy' to him that unnerves me a little. I find myself thinking 'cut the apron strings for crying out loud. He is a grown man'.

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jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 28/08/2006 21:54

MIL is 200 miles away, SH phones once every few weeks/when he remembers! She phones him about the same.

My dad on the other hand, i phone him AT LEAST once a day... usually 2/3 times.

serenity · 28/08/2006 21:54

We see MIL every Saturday night, unless we have a really good excuse not to and then we'll see her on Sunday instead

She'll ring at least once during the week, so DH doesn't ring her usually, but if he hasn't heard from her when he would expect to, he will ring to say Hi.

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poppiesinaline · 28/08/2006 21:57

2/3 times a day jessicaandrebeccasmummy

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ocd · 28/08/2006 21:58

he should get caller id to hide j

thats too much mate

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poppiesinaline · 28/08/2006 22:00

PMSL

I just told DH that there was a mixture of answers and he is sat on the sofa saying "Great! Now the whole of MNs thinks I am a 'mummys boy' and a woss!" LOL

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ocd · 28/08/2006 22:02

tell him i love his sexy harido

< hpes to god he has hair>

myermay · 28/08/2006 22:04

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UnquietDad · 28/08/2006 22:04

If DW hasn't called her parents for a couple of days, her mum will be on the phone in a slightly worried way. "So have you been away somewhere, then?" Can't understand that we can go a couple of days without speaking to them.

If she rings one evening and gets the answerphone, then when we next speak, she'll ask her "Where were you?" And if DW says, "oh, just out", that's not enough - chapter and verse is required! Even "out with K and L (friends)" is not enough. "Oh, where?" etc. And if she's not heard of the people - interrogation time.
DW:"Oh, we were just round at B&C's."
MIL:"Who? B&C? Who are they? How do you know them?"
etc, etc.

Glad my mum, for all her faults, is NOT like that!

TheBlonde · 28/08/2006 22:06

DH's mum lives in the US
He calls once every 2 weeks approx

aaronsmummy · 28/08/2006 22:08

Once a week and he see's her bi-monthly although we live about 15 miles away.

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poppiesinaline · 28/08/2006 22:09

pmsl yes he has hair!! although he did look a little freaked out when I said that someone on MN liked his sexy hair - started looking around for the camera! LOL

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ghosty · 28/08/2006 22:09

I don't think 2x a week is excessive .... I think it is nice of your DH to ring his mum often.
MIL lives in the South Island ... DH rings his mother about once a month and she calls us once a month ... they speak for about 3 minutes max. They are not a close family.
My parents live in the UK (we are in NZ) and I speak to my parents once a week ... and my sister once a week, sometimes twice. Is that excessive?

Mercy · 28/08/2006 22:18

Have only read the OP.

Dh's mum lives about 12,000 miles away ( NZ) and they speak about once every 6 weeks.

I speak to my mum (about 200 miles away) most days.

Why do you think twice a week is excessive?

ocd · 28/08/2006 22:19

about once every 6 weeks!!!!gaswd

kid · 28/08/2006 22:20

Dh's mum lives on the next road to us and he never phones her. He does see her once a week as we take her shopping but thats it.

MrsDoolittle · 28/08/2006 22:23

Dh's mum lives in NZ, he's a Kiwi.

He like to think he phones he every week but tbh it's probably 3 times a year.

She has just sent a letter saying that she has ssen her recent phone bill and so will not be able to phone him. The hint is lost on him.

ocd · 28/08/2006 22:23

3 times a year!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

YeahBut · 28/08/2006 22:27

My dh rings his mum every Sunday. It's part of the family ritual.
Don't take it for granted. I'd love to be able to phone my mum for a chat every now and then but she is profoundly deaf. We live overseas so our communication is by text or letter. It's not the same as being able to pick up the phone.

Mercy · 28/08/2006 22:28

What do you mean 'gaswd'?!

They don't get on (too similar) and he prefers to speak to his dad. I haven't spoken to then for almost 2 years . Suits me fine.

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