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double barrelled surnames.... can we get away with ours?!

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frazzledfairy · 04/07/2006 10:46

morning

dp and i are in the middle of a 'discussion' about the surname of ds2, due in sept. ds1 and i have the same surname as dp is not his biological father. i would like my two boys to have the same surname and am rather attached to my surname. unfortunately dp is also rather attached to his surname! (ie doesn't want to change his to mine and ds1's). dp would like the baby to have his surname, well actually dp would like us all to have his surname.

it feels like the only solution is to go double barrelled, doing this would make us the............ boddy-eatons! can we get away with this? or is it too cannibalistic?!

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hunkermunker · 04/07/2006 10:48

I really wouldn't do it.

Can you give one of your surnames as a middle name?

MerlinsBeard · 04/07/2006 10:48

its a bit cannibal (u did ask) "body eaten"

Rhubarb · 04/07/2006 10:49

Erm, no. You'll have to choose. Can you not change it altogether for Boddingtons? See what I did there!

Dior · 04/07/2006 10:49

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suzywong · 04/07/2006 10:49

no
sorry

I double barrelled mine and the boys' and regret it now anyway as they are a mouthful and they aren't really comedy components like yours

sorry

expatinscotland · 04/07/2006 10:49

no, no, no.

MrsBadger · 04/07/2006 10:51

ooh, double barrelled, very posh!

Rhythm-wise I'd prefer Eaton-Boddy as it avoids having the two 'ee' sounds close together, but can see it's no better on the cannibal front.

I do hope you've all got nice easy first names though - I can see Arabella-Chardonnay Boddy-Eaton having some serious trouble fitting her name in the space on forms!

Boxlady · 04/07/2006 10:52

just pick a completely new one

I'll choose one for you

MrsBadger · 04/07/2006 10:53

DH's name as extra middle name very good idea

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frazzledfairy · 04/07/2006 10:53

hmmmm a resounding no! didn't really think it was a great idea but thought perhaps my pregnancy addled brain was thinking it was worse than is was, obviously not!!

lol at boddingtons rhubarb

what to do then, put my foot down and insist boys both have my name, or all change to dp's?

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jamsambam · 04/07/2006 10:55

my ds's have my surname as a middle, although we are back to using it offically now..

MrsBadger · 04/07/2006 10:57

marry him and all change at the same time?

Rhubarb · 04/07/2006 10:58

If you change it to his, insist that he marry you! Then you can have a nice party!

MerlinsBeard · 04/07/2006 10:58

give the new baby ur name with the promise (bribe?) of whwen u get married u will ALL change to his

Rhubarb · 04/07/2006 10:58

MrsBadger!

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frazzledfairy · 04/07/2006 10:58

will suggest surname as middle name option to dp, tis a good idea.

haven't even decided on a first name yet!

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SoupDragon · 04/07/2006 10:59

For practical reasons, it might be easier for you and the children to have the same surname. I'd stick the other name in as a middle name.

Caligula · 04/07/2006 10:59

Why not merge it - Boddytons or Beatons?

Boddyton sounds bit like the beer though

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frazzledfairy · 04/07/2006 11:00

he wants to get married, is me who is not quite ready to be a mrs! but had thought of that mumofmonsters{wink}

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Rhubarb · 04/07/2006 11:00

Caligula! That was MY idea!

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frazzledfairy · 04/07/2006 11:00

even!

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Greensleeves · 04/07/2006 11:01

I'd just go for Eaton if it were me

Lose the boddy (as t'were)

Anchovy · 04/07/2006 11:30

I think however much you feel about things as an issue you have to stand back and look at the result. I always thought it was a nice idea to double barrel names for children to reflect the equal input of both families. Hah. My name has a prefix (think, say, von Trapp). DH already has a double barelled name (think, say, Fotherington Thomas). However strong my principles are, no child of mine is going to be called "von-Trapp-Fotherington-Thomas"!

fennel · 04/07/2006 11:40

my children have different surnames. 2 have mine, one has DP's (result of strong feelings on both sides about keeping our names, and double-barrelling our surnames would lead to a really crap hard-to-say name). it's not been a problem. they're still siblings. just with different names.

beckybrastraps · 04/07/2006 11:46

It's the additive effects that make me wonder. Your children may one day have their own double-barrelled partners, and quadruple-barrelled sprogs, who will then grow up and.....

Thank god for chip and pin 'cos we'd never get it all on a credit card.

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