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double barrelled surnames.... can we get away with ours?!

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frazzledfairy · 04/07/2006 10:46

morning

dp and i are in the middle of a 'discussion' about the surname of ds2, due in sept. ds1 and i have the same surname as dp is not his biological father. i would like my two boys to have the same surname and am rather attached to my surname. unfortunately dp is also rather attached to his surname! (ie doesn't want to change his to mine and ds1's). dp would like the baby to have his surname, well actually dp would like us all to have his surname.

it feels like the only solution is to go double barrelled, doing this would make us the............ boddy-eatons! can we get away with this? or is it too cannibalistic?!

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HappyMumof2 · 04/07/2006 11:49

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NotAnOtter · 04/07/2006 11:51

Eaton - Boddy sounds maybe better - we are double barrelled - what sounds a mouthful SOON becomes normal

ks · 04/07/2006 11:52

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NotAnOtter · 04/07/2006 11:52

I am surprised at this thread - stand by your guns - if its good enough for Brad and Ange

foundintranslation · 04/07/2006 11:53

In Germany children are banned from being given double barrels, for exactly the reason you mention, beckybrastraps. In a marriage only one partner is allowed a double barrel and the non-db name is automatically the children's name (or each partner keeps their name or they all have the same). I have a double barrel (IMO a nice well-proportioned one) and am quite gutted that ds can't have one. It feels kind of weird that he's just got his dad's name and mine has 'disappeared'.

Fimbo · 04/07/2006 12:11

Aha an old boss of my dh wanted to do this - the name would either have been Curry-Topping or Topping-Curry they saw sense in the end and opted for his name of Curry.

Beauregard · 04/07/2006 12:12

No sorry i wouldn't do it,your dc will face a lot of stick.

MrsBadger · 04/07/2006 12:13

pmsl fimbo!

TooTicky · 04/07/2006 12:21

How about an anagram? Toadyboned...Bandydoote...Neddyboato...Beadydonto...
The possibilities are endless!

drpepper · 04/07/2006 12:24

my dd has a different surname to me as her father was insistant she had his name and i caved ! i wish i hadnt as she now has a different name to me and he isnt around ! i think u should give the child your name until u get married and then u can change all your names.

edam · 04/07/2006 12:36

It does give you an unusual name, but that's not a huge issue. Have come across even more interesting ones! OK, first reactions may be 'that's odd' but you'll soon get used to it and so will everyone who comes across you. Eaton-Boddy better than Boddy-Eaton, though, I think.

Wouldn't give ds2 merely dp's name - will be difficult for the kids having different surnames (and just in case you ever split up).

Like the surname as a middle name compromise - we were going to do this before dh decided he didn't like his name anyway, so ds just has mine. But dh's father's Christian name as a middle name so there's some paternal continuity.

Does dp want ds2 to have his name? Or is it just changing his own name that is an issue?

edam · 04/07/2006 12:39

Think two surnames is the way they do it in Spain, btw - SP would know

Don't think double-barrelling is a problem when kids come to get married - they can choose whichever solution suits them, just like we can. And he may not meet someone double-barrelled anyway.

jura · 04/07/2006 12:40

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RubyRioja · 04/07/2006 12:41

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Dottydot · 04/07/2006 12:46

Our ds's have got their own surname, which is a combination of mine and dp's surnames. I like it so much I've just changed mine by deed poll so now I've got the same surname as them! Dp however is a stubborn soul and very attached to her original surname so she's staying as she is!

Rhubarb · 04/07/2006 12:47
Dottydot · 04/07/2006 12:50
Rhubarb · 04/07/2006 12:51

< It'll be fine! Did you find out about corkage?>

Dottydot · 04/07/2006 12:54
Rhubarb · 04/07/2006 12:55
SSSandy · 04/07/2006 12:55

If Eaton is your surname, I'd stick to that. Dh can become Boddy Eaton if you get married one day or Eaton Boddy.

Tortington · 04/07/2006 13:11

the kid should be called

eaton boddy.

eaton first name
boddy second name
boy or girl

Tinker · 04/07/2006 13:19

We did the 2 surnames bit for the 2nd (1st one is mine with my surname - also wanted both siblings to share surname) So, 2nd is First Name, Middle, Name, His Surname (as surname, not another middle name - quite important distinction (apparently)) My Surname. To be known as First name, My Surname.

Twiglett · 04/07/2006 13:21

why don't you get DP to change name by deed poll to yours?

Melpomene · 04/07/2006 13:28

IMO you should definitely avoid Boddy-Eaton and Eaton-Boddy, as too cannibalistic. (And I am usually keen on double barrels; I combined my surname with dh's when we married and my daughters have the same double barrel.)

Like Caligula's suggestion of Beaton as a combination.

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