OMG !!! Guess what I've just found!!!???

[Leigh1980]

I've name changed due to my partner knowing my username hee hee!!

I've just found a very dainty petit diamond ring on the bedside table (his side). We only have one. This also holds my make up and bits 'n bobs.

We've only been together and living together for four months but we both know we ate meant for each other.

What do I do? Do I ask him about it? Wait for him to bring it up? It's basically sitting on top behind my little clock. Do you think it's meant for me? I've no idea when he could have purchased it either. So confused but also so excited. I'm to nervous to bring it up, but maybe he is nervous too and hoping I'd see it and bring it up myself. Aaaahhhh!!! Do you think it's an engagement ring!? We're both so in love with each other!!

Need your wisdom and experience :-)9

It may be sweet but life is sweet and sour, half empty or half full, it's how you perceive things that determines which phrase you live by!

Leigh you sound adorable.

You sound very happy OP

Thanks Strawberry, refer to my comment where I do say" I can't be the only childish one". I choose not to live like the majority however. So what??

You appreciate that it is a beautiful and sophisticated thing to experience a complex range of emotions though, right?

This bubble of yours is like a Japanese cartoon and if you live in it forever you will miss out on the exquisiteness of the human condition.

Adorable isn't the word I was looking for.

Inclusionist, I believe you're referring to Anime, I have only ever seen but one Anime film. But my eyes see, they see the hurt and despair that people face, the poverty and lack of hope, abuse and violence, hatred, revengeful people, pain people endure on a daily basis. But if I can help one of thousands I know that I've lived life to the best of my ability. As without love what is left in the world??

I was thinking more of Hello Kitty to be honest.

I'm not adorable although I do have big puppy dog eyes :-)). I'm literally a person who cannot comprehend hate, nastiness or other horrible things. When confronted by any of the above, I merely walk away and think more of how I can make a difference.

Is your name Pollyanna?

My career is devoted to helping vulnerable people too but not in a 'Strawberry Shortcake Helps the Sad People' kind of way because, frankly, that would be patronising.

Nope LadyBeagleEyes but I do love that film :-)

Inclusionist that's so good to have people like you. When people come up to me and thank me, believe me they do not feel patronised or they wouldn't look at me with a glimmer of hope!

@ Hello Kitty.

Hypothetically, Leigh, if that eternity ring of yours was in fact just a ring left behind by another woman and your Chef had confessed to an affair last night... you'd have just walked away and thought more of how you could make a difference? Really?

So sorry to rain on your parade but i find it impossible to believe anyone can be that nice.

Very Fotherington-Thomas!

I wouldn't want to be on the Business End of your approaching come down that's for sure OP!

Yes Whistlingnun. I have had that happen to me before by a boyfriend, I've also been in an abusive 2 year relationship and have been to rehab! I've battled through life and fought for where I am today.

To answer your question, yes. I would forgive cause if he had an affair, I would accept it for what it was and we can move on either apart or sort things out. I cannot hate nor resent people.

BTW nobody is raining on my parade cause I know where I am in life and what I have, nobody can take that away!

MissStrawberry if you don't mind.

You come across as thinking your way is the best way and that isn't very pleasant.

Sorry Miss Strawberry I've tried to use full names but may have made a mistake.

Nope that's not what I think at all, just commenting on threads that have been responses to my initial one.

I wonder if you need to work on your sense of self a bit more?

It sounds to me like you are really buffeted about by others' responses to you. Negative relationship = massive low/ rehab. Positive relationship = massive high/ Hello Kitty world.

Living life to do things for others for their appreciative response.

It's not the road to mental health OP. You need to find a place where being ok comes from within.

Thanks Inclusionist for your post. I agree, I may have self confidence issues etc but I try do good. I have tried other ways but just cannot bring myself to be anything other than nice and loving. I physically cannot feel hatred or contempt.

Believe me, my way of life is not easy. Yes, I get used and misunderstood but so does my partner yet neither of us can be anything else than what we are!

Leigh1980, I think you may need , not the other kind ...

ROLF haaaaahaaaahaaaa BOF. That is hilarious :-)). Luckily though I'm known as a functional loon hee her. Thanks for the laugh though. :-DDD