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OMG !!! Guess what I've just found!!!???

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Leigh1980 · 13/07/2013 18:14

I've name changed due to my partner knowing my username hee hee!!

I've just found a very dainty petit diamond ring on the bedside table (his side). We only have one. This also holds my make up and bits 'n bobs.

We've only been together and living together for four months but we both know we ate meant for each other.

What do I do? Do I ask him about it? Wait for him to bring it up? It's basically sitting on top behind my little clock. Do you think it's meant for me? I've no idea when he could have purchased it either. So confused but also so excited. I'm to nervous to bring it up, but maybe he is nervous too and hoping I'd see it and bring it up myself. Aaaahhhh!!! Do you think it's an engagement ring!? We're both so in love with each other!!

Need your wisdom and experience :-)9

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Inclusionist · 14/07/2013 16:53

BOF that was my first MN tea on the keyboard moment!!

PrincessKitKat · 14/07/2013 16:55

When I was about 15/16 couples used to get 'eternitised'. It was explained to me as 'engaged to be engaged', and was accompanied by a cheap lovingly chosen ring from Argos or Beaverbrooks.

This was an excellent way for a young man to get his GF into bed show his intention to someday commit. Without having to commit.

Happy to see the tradition of 'eternitising' is still going strong Blush

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Leigh1980 · 14/07/2013 16:57

PrincessKitKat, we've gone past that stage lol. Who cares maybe I should get old Mills 'n Boon involved. Lol

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chenin · 14/07/2013 16:59

Hahaha PrincessKitKat.... yes .. a 'friendship' ring with exactly that intention!

Can I ask you Leigh... do you have girlfriends? Ones you have known a long time who tell it like it is. I'm just curious. We all need girlfriends who give us a much needed dose of reality at times. I just wonder how it works in RL for you, that's all.

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Leigh1980 · 14/07/2013 17:01

Hi Helliebean. Yes, I have good friends both men and women.

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Leigh1980 · 14/07/2013 17:03

Anyway it's is choice if he wants to propose. It's my choice to stay. Nobody can force another to do something that one does not want to do. But one would hope that life values will be a base in

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Leigh1980 · 14/07/2013 17:03

Sorry posted to quickly. ...ones life !

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chenin · 14/07/2013 17:06

Do your girlfriends think you and your bloke are a match made in heaven? I'm sure you are, but I'm just interested. It's just the comment from you saying that you can't be anything other than nice and loving, and you are incapable physically of hate etc... I wonder how others perceive you. It's just that comment sounds a tad superior, like you are some celestial being, that's all. Don't mean to offend.

Jux · 14/07/2013 17:15

Erm, fwiw, my cousin is 68 and climbs trees. He does it at every family gathering, mainly to amuse the little ones. He never fails to 'slip' and nearly fall, hanging on a branch upside down. Their faces are all Shock.

No doubt, if he thought it would amuse them, he would have a picnic up there too.

I have had picnics up trees. Those days are well and truly gone.

Anyway, I'm not ditzy in the slightest.

Portofino · 14/07/2013 17:19

I am confused about the home 24/7 and not knowing when he would have time to buy a ring, that you do the shopping together etc then you go on to say that you have friends and hobbies etc. Which is it exactly? Do you leave the house independently of him?

Portofino · 14/07/2013 17:24

I worry because it sounds very unhealthy. And I agree that an "eternity" ring is not something you give some one in your set up. It's more traditional when you have been married some time, or when you have a child. What he gave you was a "petite" ring, so cheap sounding to me, and no commitment whatsoever. Are you sure he was working overtime? Don't chefs normally get fed at work? The whole set up sounds odd to me vs romantic. Does he pay his full share of the bills etc?

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Leigh1980 · 14/07/2013 17:31

Well I work from home so am there 9.30-5.30. I train by myself in the morning at gym from 7.30-8.30ish. We then have coffee and breakfast before I start work. At about 11ish he will go and source food for lunch and supper - he loves doing this as he's a chef.

About an hour later he comes home and prepares lunch and supper. We eat lunch together. He generally works from 6pm - 1isham. During the evening I will do some shopping or watch a few films and will eat the supper he made prior to leaving. I wake up at about -ish and put the kettle on, he returns eats his dinner and we have a cup if tea together and reflect in the day. We both go to bed (maybe get done us time hee hee!).

When he's off we generally go on hikes (we live in the country) or go in our boat / out for a meal. We so play Playstation games together. Or do a bit of gardening. We volunteer when required, that's pretty much out routine.

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Sparklysilversequins · 14/07/2013 17:37

"Source food"? Nip to Tesco's Express then?

This thread is clearly a complete piss take, kudos OP, managing to get so many posters involved.

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Leigh1980 · 14/07/2013 17:41

Sparklysilversequins, we live in a small market town so he buys from the market or local village but hers and fishmongers. What would I gain by writing a fabricated post?

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Leigh1980 · 14/07/2013 17:41

Butchers not but hers lol. Damn iPhone!

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DiaryOfAWimpyMum · 14/07/2013 17:46

Life sounds good, as long as your happy and you certainly seem to be! Smile

Futterby · 14/07/2013 17:46

Agree with sparkly, load of bollocks.

PrincessKitKat · 14/07/2013 17:48

Does he work at Frankie & Bennys Blush

Portofino · 14/07/2013 17:49

So you both go out then? I thought you went shopping together? Feel free to carry on making it up you go along.

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Leigh1980 · 14/07/2013 17:49

I don't have to prove my life. If people think its bollocks so be it. But it's my life!

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PeachActiviaMinge · 14/07/2013 17:50

mumsnet vs OP

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Leigh1980 · 14/07/2013 17:51

We do shop together when we aren't working etc as well as other stuff.

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Leigh1980 · 14/07/2013 17:52

Nope not Franki and Bennys could be nice though :-)

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MrsWolowitz · 14/07/2013 17:52

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Portofino · 14/07/2013 17:52

Do you see friends/does he pay his half of the bills?