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bleeding in pregnancy

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ariel · 10/01/2002 11:16

Im 24 wks pregnant and have had a number of bleeds in this pregnancy as i did in a past pregnancy.i was told it was a cervical erosion,after a bleed at 17 wks and a scan i was told the loss was from my placenta.I had to spend the new year in hospital after yet another bleed which was again from my placenta, i have had a prem baby b4 at 32 wks and at the mo i am very concerned,im booked for a section at 39 wks because of preveious emregency section and more importantly my last child had group b strep meningitis,im feeling pretty lousy to say the least,not to mention i have been in constant pain with spd,.I find it very ammusing reading pregnancy mags which say i should at this stage feel wonderfull,clearly its men who write these comments, i pray that i will at least have a few weeks of uncomplicated pregnacy so i enjoy a small part of it.

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cerys · 04/03/2002 15:39

Jodee - I'll have fingers and toes crossed for you.
Look after yourself. C xx

maras · 04/03/2002 17:03

Jodee - I'm thinking of you. Do hope things will be ok. Back in the autumn you really helped me under the "pregnancy panic" thread (- I remember wanting to meet your Gran!) I then started bleeeding at 7 weeks and miscarried in a very "low key" way -I bled less than a normal period and had no pain - but after 4 days of stopping and starting - hopes raised then dashed I suddenly just felt different and not preganant. Although I too had had misgivings about the pregnancy (the test at the dr's had showed a pale thin line - not a vivid fat one like my other 2 pregancies) and I had had no particular symptons - apart from tiredness - but that's me most of the time!. So in a way I don't feel that I actually lost a baby - I just think that the chemicals weren't doing what they should have done in the first place - but still it was a really upsetting time and I still cried the other day telling a friend about what happened. I too had sailed through 2 pregnancies and although I know all the statistics - I had just assumed I wasn't one of them! It was sad enough to miscarry at that stage - but I tried to cosole myself with how much worse it could have been if it had happened at a later stage - but I was still surprised at how deep the sadness goes.
Do so hope this won't be your experience - but be prepared for the sadness and give your self time to "grieve" and to feel very sorry for yourself.
Don't mean to go on about my experience - but it does bring it all back and the support from people here helped me so much.
Wish I could help more - do keep us posted.
Rest as much as you can - although a medic friend said it probably wouldn't make a huge difference -but definately don't do anything too strenuous.

jessi · 04/03/2002 17:49

Jodee, I'm thinking of you, poor thing, what a shock. I'm keeping everything crossed and hope you have a positive outcome. Best Wishes.

Janus · 04/03/2002 18:39

Jodee, I really, really hope things go well tomorrow, thinking of you.

tufty · 04/03/2002 18:47

You have my deepest sympathy, its such an awful thing to experience... for what its worth I bled in 2 of my 3 pregnancies but held on to them...
I still can't believe you are being made to wait, but wish you all the best for tomorrow....

leese · 04/03/2002 18:53

You must be so worried Jodee, but you've got the whole of mumsnet thinking of you. Really really hope all is fine - we'll all be with you at 1pm tomorrow.

Pupuce · 04/03/2002 19:13

My thoughts are with you as well.... keeping everything crossed.
Lots of love
Pupuce

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Eulalia · 04/03/2002 21:44

jodee - I bled in early pregnancy. I had a significant bleed lasting about 1.5 days. It must have been around 5 weeks and I assumed it was my period. I was very surprised to discover I was pregnant a couple of weeks later. I didn't get any strong symptoms till I was about 7 weeks. The rest of the pregnancy has been fine with no bleeding (I am now 36 weeks). I also had no bleeding in my first pregancy. I hope this doesn't necessarily mean the worse for you. All the best.

Sweetie · 04/03/2002 22:03

I had a very similar experience at about 6 weeks, coupled with a very sharp pain. I was convinced I'd lose the baby, but luckily it settled down after 2 days (I was away on a Hen weekend at the time, and spent most of the time in tears, in bed.)
Hope all goes well.

jasper · 05/03/2002 00:41

Jodee I do hope it all goes fine for you.
How difficult to have to wait another day.
We are all thinking about you and hoping for the best.
I have been worrying about some silly minor things today and you have put them in perspective.

Daffy · 05/03/2002 13:21

this is going to be a long wait......it's now 13.20. I don't know if I can bring myself to look back here later, my eyes keep filling up thinking of you. Wishing you all the best Jodee, keeping everything crossed for you both.

jodee · 05/03/2002 14:20

Dear All

Well my fears were confirmed. I had had more pain to one side this morning and heavier bleeding and clotting. I had the scan and it showed the uterus to be 'clean', that most of the material had been expelled so the bleeding should subside.

I think I had accepted it yesterday and didn't get upset, although it may hit me a few days down the line.

I agree with what you said Maras, that it's better to happen early rather than later. I'm grateful that it's not my first pregnancy, that I have ds, and he will take my mind off things. I do believe also it's for the best and 'nature's way', but cruel to be kind, in a sense.

I have no regrets about sharing the news of my pregnancy so early and asking advice about caring for a new baby with a toddler on another thread. I think this is a wonderful site and your messages have touched me more than you know, you are brilliant.

bossykate · 05/03/2002 14:24

so sorry. you are being very brave.
best wishes.

Enid · 05/03/2002 14:27

Jodee,

Feel so bad for you. Deepest sympathy from someone who's been there. If it is any consolation I felt slightly relieved when I heard mine had been a 'clean' miscarriage as I knew I wouldn't have to have a d&c.

It didn't really hit me until a few weeks after - please take care of yourself and don't overdo it like I did in a desperate attempt to feel 'normal' again.

Also, if its not too much to bear, I am now 9 weeks pregnant with a completely different, normal, nauseous pregnancy - after being somehow convinced I would never conceive again.

Lots of love, xxxxx

TigerFeet · 05/03/2002 14:30

Jodee I'm so sorry that the scan confirmed your thoughts. The very same thing happened to one of my close friends and I know how saddened and disappointed she was. Please take comfort in the fact that so many people out there are thinking of you and that this is a great place to sound off and get advice if you want it. Thinking of you xxx

MalmoMum · 05/03/2002 14:52

So sorry to hear your news.

Marina · 05/03/2002 14:53

Jodee, what a terrible shame, thinking of you and have been all morning. Bossykate is right, you are being very brave. Best wishes to you all.

Cl · 05/03/2002 15:32

Dear Jodee

So sad to read your posts. I've been there, twice and its hard. Try and be nice to yourself and take good care.

SueDonim · 05/03/2002 15:55

Jodee, I've BTDT, and also looked upon it as nature's way etc. Be kind to yourself and take care.

Pupuce · 05/03/2002 16:00

Take care of yourself.
XX

Dixie · 05/03/2002 16:02

Dear jodee,

I was thinking of you at your time and was saddened to find your outcome so god knows what you are going through yourself. You are being very brave & your outlook to it all is a very good start to getting over it. I have no personal experience but have had friends go through the same thing very recently. One friend says it does hit her in waves of emotion. But please please talk about it, don't bottle it up (that goes for your partner too!). Here for you if you need to talk....((((BIG HUG))))

ScummyMummy · 05/03/2002 16:05

Take care, Jodee. I'm really sorry this has happened to you. I hope you're getting lots of love and support from your family and friends.

maras · 05/03/2002 16:20

Dear Jodee - so very sorry to hear your news - I couldn't bring myself to look until now. I was blinking back the tears here in the office as I read. Do hope you soon feel ok. Treat yourself with love and care.
When it happened to me I found that I could be fairly philosophical about it to myself - but whenever I spoke to friends I was surprised at how emotional I felt/still feel about the loss. It's a very deep personal sadness, even though as you say, it probably is for the best. It is such a blessing to have another child to focus on and in a certain way it has had the effect of making my other two seem even more precious ( - if that's possible). They were both conceived on the first month of trying (and I'm no spring chicken!) and I sailed through both pregnancies on automatic pilot - I am now so very aware of what a miracle they both are. I'm still hoping for another - if it happens I think my attitude to pregnancy will be quite different.
Thinking of you,
XXX

Bugsy · 05/03/2002 16:26

Jodee, so sorry. Rest up and take it easy as your body has gone through alot in the last few days.
Thinking of you.