A question for SAHM's

[emkana]

If you're asked (by a doctor for example) "Do you work?", what do you answer?

If you have to fill out a form, what do you put down for occupation?

Say yes.

Domestic engineer.

I put "full time mother" on a form the other day
it felt weird though
although I did put "barrister" on dd2's birth certificate because that's still my occupation isn't it?!

I have various replies:

I'm retired

I'm a lady who lunches

God no, I have small kids

I'm unemployed

etc etc. Depends on who's asking

How about: kept woman?

Homemaker -

....you wanna see the state of my place

If I am asked socially (not officially) usually say I am "at home with my children."
still sounds weird though

I say either 'full time mum' or, ' i'm at home looking after my children'.

hmmm come September I'd have to say "I'm at home without my children"

"i have three little boys"

that scares htem normally ;)

i also ( contraversially) dont hink mum who work are full time mums

they hate that fact but its true

ia have no chip aboput it

me neither - do I look bovvered?

Cod, I think mums who don't work don't pay their way in society though. Is that controversial too?

Saw 'domestic goddess' on a form in the maternity unit once.

I got annoyed the other day... someone offficial (forgotten what) asked what I did, and I said "stay at home mum", and she said "so housewife"

Had she seen the state of my house, she would have known that the two things were very different, and I am certainly not the latter!!!

Every mother is a working mother, is what I'd say.

Why are they asking? For medical reasons - e.g., in case you need signed off, stress, etc.?

OK hunker
I think mums should do at least 20 yrs of work before they are allowed to SAH.

Oh that's just me then

Hang on Cod, you work, albeit non-paid work, so I take it that you don't consider yourself as a full-time mum either?

The consultant asked before the scan - no idea why he felt he needed to know!

I am not a burden on society - I am a kept woman

qiute right hinker
children too - terrible burden on society
put them to work ASAP I say
I was thinking for my two:

1. up the chimneys (DD1 to climb, dd2 hold the sheet to catch the soot)
2. possibly some sort of song and dance act?
3. drugs trials.

what do you think?

emkana - I assume that Drs ask for a variety of reasons:

1 making small talk
2 to ascertain whether you will need time off work
3 whether you do physical work which you should avoid to recover
4 If you are SAHM then there's NO chance of you getting any rest

etc

I'm paying my way by bringing up my children and the amount of tax DP pays makes up for me

'Full time mother'?!

Controversial - yes, but also not a particularly logical or useful term. I'm a mother because I have a child; that is a constant state. Even if my children died, I would still consider myself to be a mother. I would no more describe a mother who worked outside the home as a 'part-time mother' (part-time being the clear antithesis to 'full-time') than a mother whose children were at school.

Ooh, you could do the drugs tests whilst putting them up chimneys in a rhythmic, choreographed manner