A question for SAHM's

[emkana]

If you're asked (by a doctor for example) "Do you work?", what do you answer?

If you have to fill out a form, what do you put down for occupation?

here here Issymum

The question should be phrased differently though, shouldn't it?

I mean "Do you work?" implies that being at home = not working.

I want the kind of brain that thinks to use the word "antithesis" in posts/conversations :(

washer woman works quite well - it is all i seem to do all day...

Downunder over here there is an official term and it's "Home Duties" which I rather like.

how can you be a "part-time mother"?
How does it work?
Do you have to be in contact with your children to be theri mother, or just in the same room, or maybe in the same house/postcode?
IMO the second you hae child/ren you are a parent.
Can fathers be part time too?

I'm not chippy about it tbh, other people's views about it are largely immaterial. I paid a f of a lot of tax for an f of a long time before having children.
but I tell you what did rock me a little.
being introduced the other day as "this is harpsichordcarrier she runs the choral society...."
that appears to be the single most interesting and noteworthy thing about me these days. Eek and eek again.

Now that dp has got a job working 3 evenings a week and all day Sunday, can I be a full time Mum + work full time aswell?!

I am a domestic godess.

Not as nbad as my Dad at mu uncles funeral, when asked about his daughters he said (i'm dd3 btw)
dd1 works in a shop
dd2 works in a shop
dd3 does NOWT!.........well she looks after the bairn like!

Angeliz twonk

Full time chocolate eater, internet fiend and a little light dusting thrown in from time to time.

Would that fit in the box?

you are also the Secretary and Minute Taker of something r other SL
don't forget that

But that's almost as dull as housewife When I was a full-time SAHM I refused to put 'housewife' as I did not marry a house - generally put "full time Mum" (which I agree is a ridiculous term) or "home maker" which sounds so twee and Martha Stewart-ish. Like I was macrame-ing pot-holders and doing flower arrangements.

i spent yesterday am taking car to garage, going with hire car mana nd my 2 kids to hire care place, bf ds2 in office, reading a story to ds1 and signing on the dotted line for hire car- and not a tear shed.
If i wnet to work today, would that have made me part time mum?
I felt like a double time mum yesterday!

How weird - I got asked this by a locum doctor this morning. It completely threw me actually and I started going on about ds1 being severely autistic and not being able to get after school care, but how I'll be applying for funding for research into autism from next year working round ds1 blah blah. I'm sure he didn't want a life history. He then started muttering about autism being a 'terrible affliction" and said "girls can't get it can they" which made me pleased he was only a locum :o (I did correct him!).

Mrs Overall.

so what do you write if you are a part timer! I'm SAHM 2 days of the week, lawyer 3. I think I'll just write 'knackered person'.

why do we have to label ourselves at all?
I don't go to work, I want to be at home for my kids. Is that a crime? I used to work for years and years and couldn't wait to be at home. Why do we have to justify whatever we want to do? Men don't seem to do they?!

They probably do but in a more subtle way

If I didn't work at all I'd just put 'housewife', simply because I cannot be arsed to worry about which term to use. I couldn't really give a shit what anyone thinks of what I do so I would just bung it down and not give it another thought.

As it is, I'm a freelancer so I put my job title in instead

i put 'SAHM' on the dd's playgroup forms

half wondered if anyone would ask if i was an mner but no

hate the term housewife

sounds old fashioned

ive never heard of sahm until i joined mn