Do i need anti depressants

[Forestfly]

Nothing seems to be helping a feel numb all the time, i have started drinking so i cant feel. I'm in the house now while everybody i know is out doing things. I can't seem to finish jobs, i've even become distant with my children. When alone i cant cocentrate i wander round the house aimlessly feeling painfully lost. Is it time for anti depressants

Forestfly, I'm sorry you're feeling so bad. Do please see your GP. Anti-depressants are not a cure. They don't eliminate the negative things which have brought about the depression in the first place BUT they help you get through on a day-to-day basis and give you the strength to start living and tacking everyday life again. Give them enough chance to work (2 weeks +, depending which ones you are prescribed) and don't make the mistake of coming off them too soon. You have so much to cope with at the moment - take all the help you can get.

I'm off to the doctors at two, i'm worried that he might not think i need them and i'll have to persuade him i do. Wish me luck!

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Good luck FF, only just saw this thread. I've said in other places, that for the last 7 years I have been on ADs except for pregnanies. They have saved my life, don't feel ashamed or that you need to justify being on them. Let us know how you get on. Hugs xxx

PS Stressyhead. I've been on both Venlafaxine (Efexor) and Prozac. Neither are mild, it just depends on the dose. Prozac had far less side effects then the Efexor, especially coming off. Personally I would be careful with Efexor. Its so new (in its own category, not your usual SSRI) and the side effects coming off are the worse I ever had. Glad to hear it worked for your friend though, it is very effective. When I stop b/f I will probably go back on it.

Good luck Forestfly. They might offer a councelling service before Anti-depressants. Go with an open mind and let us know how you get on. Hugs.

Do think very seriously about taking ad's forestfly. You have been through a really tough time recently and perhaps counselling or therapy might help you more.

Alcohol can also work as a depressant so drinking a lot won't help you, and in fact drinking while on ad's can 'cancel out' the anti depressant effect.

I dont doubt that ad's work for some people but I would really seriously try and get some counselling.

Good luck with whatever you decide x E

Thanks everyone, im a bit confused but i will be honest and open with the doctor and see what happens. I'll write later especially if i have a drug name

Just got back after bursting into tears at the doctors. she said that i shouldn't be so hard on myself i've every right to be upset, and what my x partner did this week was mental cruelty.
I have been subscribed 10mg of Escitalopram, so you may all now welcome me to the funnyfarm (no offense to any one else on them)

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Thankyou very much stressy, that was kind of you. I'll be happy for christmas!

Do you feel a little better for talking to the doctor?

The doctor made me cry especially when she said i was a victim of mental cruelty! I've written it down on antother thread, but this week he has been ringing me up saying how much he missed me and how fantastic i was. He told me it wasn't serious with his girlfriend and they had only been together 4 weeks. He begged me to go and see him at his flat in chester he wanted to take me out for a drink. in the end i went, i'd do anything to keep my family together. When i got to his flat, i saw a hairdryer plugged in make up everywhere and her clothes. He just said what were you expecting to happen i told you i loved her.
I told her about that, worrying about my ill son and my best friend dying
I do feel better because i was worried i was going mad and she said it was perfectly normal to feel so low.
I appreciated her saying don't be so hard on yourself. I was under the impression that i was just feeling sorry for myself, everyone has problems and i should snap out of it. She said that was ridiculous and i have every rught to be upset
Thanks to all who gave me that extra push to go

Forestfly that sounds awful. It's no wonder you are feeling down as a result of his behaviour let alone having to deal with the other issues you touched on. I'm glad you went to the doctors and I hope you start to feel better soon.

You always seem full of beans and jovial on the posts I've read, I'm considered the strong/funny one in my group of friends and I find that makes it even harder to talk to them if I'm having a rough time because they just don't expect it from me and so don't know how to handle it. I hope you have friends you can talk to/rely on in 'real' life to?!?

I'm sorry to say this and I know you probably still love your ex but he sounds like a horrible man and I'm sure one day you'll find someone who deserves your love (in time).

forerstfly, have only just read this...sorry I didnt reply earlier. Know exactly how you must feel. My Mum was in a similar position to you. My Dad left and my Mum had to cope with me and my sister who had cystic fibrosis. He was vile to her, a very nasty selfish man and my Mum still loved him even though he was so cruel to her. My Mum took prozac too and along with counselling she did get over him. She is happy now - although we have lost my sister () but he (shit head dad) is still the same.

I have been thinking about going to the docs myself, my nerves are terrible just lately and I am finding my dd's appointments harder and harder to deal with. Let me know how you get on with your medication, would like to know what difference it makes.

Lots of love from me (((((()))))))

Forestfly, lots of love you sound like you've had a horrible time and have every right to feel utterly miserable x E