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Say you will speak to your GP & will see a consultant as recommended by them if they deem it is necessary!

Or smile & nod & just ignore her?! :o

But really neither of you should be worrying about anything going wrong - you are not high risk, you're only 33, there's no reason at all to suspect you won't have a perfectly normal birth! It seems like she's creating stress when there doesn't need to be any.

So if OV was on my average day, I am on 10dpo over here. DP has expressed several times excitement that I could be pg, which is a turnout for the books. Thinking I might POAS on Wednesday so I've got an idea before the weekend festival.

oh dear harpie tricky MIL situation!

I think I'd appear to play along/agree but to a limited extent... Something along the lines of "Oh yes don't worry, as soon as I have any kind of unusual or high risk scenario I will insist on getting the top consultant"

i.e. you are agreeing in principle about the consultant but only if there is a high risk situation - which hopefully won't happen and even if it does you don't have to tell MIL. Would that satisfy her do you think?

Also, there's definitely a case that NHS is better in scary scenarios than private - since they have all the expensive kit (which private hosps don't) and since they see so many more patients and have the top experts.

Would these kind of responses work on her??

Minipie and Bebe those are both sensible suggestions. I will try them out but I won't hold my breath! MIL does not think a midwife will spot high risk issues hence the need for a man in a white coat. Both MIL and DH can be a nightmare if they start to panic about something. I expect much more craziness along the road, so may as well get stuck in now!

Apparently I'm to give birth in Bradford Royal Infirmary as an NHS patient but my private consultant will deliver the baby. I am not sure if that is even possible and I don't care cause it's not happening but I shall find out. Just going to smile and be non-committal for now.

Quod that's exciting - fingers tightly crossed for Wednesday. How lovely that your DP is getting excited too - a definite turnout for the books!

Oh what a bummer harpie, stuck between a rock and a hard place.

Woo hoo it's POASday!!!

Oooh :)

Any news........??? :o

It isn't me . BFN for me this morning.

DP was all excited about it as well! Ah well, it's not over til etc etc etc. Will take the other test camping with me.

Goodness the suspense is killing me!

Oh bugger xposted!

Sorry it was a bfn Quod. Extreme POAS is all the rage on the Easter Bunnies thread - one MNtter has thrown down the gauntlet by testing in a plane toilet! Fingers crossed for tomorrow or whenever the next test is due!

Thanks Harpie - I'll probably wait until the weekend when AF is due according to FF. LOL at 'Extreme POAS' - reckon backstage at a music festival beats plane toilets?!

Still hoping I think - I had some spotting at 9DPO - spotting is normal for me, but it hasn't come back whereas usually it continues until AF. Spotting also normally correlates with achy boobs for me signifying AF on the warpath, and I haven't had those either. So who knows!

Backstage at a music festival is pretty out there I reckon - and kind of apt for you and DP!

Fingers crossed for next test day quod x

LWH I have not been on for ages and just read through your recent posts about your MIL..my blood is boiling! It's YOUR birth! Your OH's views should obviously be taken into account but if take him along to the hypnobirthing classes and maybe a homebirth workshop then he should feel totally on board with the whole thing. What your MIL thinks is utterly irrelevant! Your body, your birth!
If she keeps badgering you with her opinions tell her you'd rather not talk about it at all. Don't worry about things going wrong- the best chance for a perfect outcome is if you are 100% happy with YOUR birthplan and can relax knowing you based your choices on detailed research and could not have done any more. Not trying to please someone who has unfortunately had bad experiences and therefore has a very skewed approach.

God almighty I feel sorry for you having to deal with this! I'm still hyperventilating!

Honestly Strawberry every time she starts on about it I can feel my blood pressure crank up another notch. She's been canvassing all her friends for anecdotes about their daughter's experiences to back up her claim that Bradford is the better unit and she keeps phoning to tell us about them or to bang on more about consultants and private healthcare. Yesterday she bizarrely told DH that a private consultant was all my idea!

Ah, quod. Well sorry it was a bfn, fingers crossed a bit of backstage POAS action is the winner :) have a fab time at the gig

LWH tell her. Tell her that the continued pressure she is putting you under is stressing you out and it's no good for the baby! Then simply say you don't want to discuss it any more and let OH field her calls.
I know....easier said than done but my God, you are not even 12 weeks bloody pregnant yet and she is like this!

Seriously though, you might have to really draw a line in the sand
about her interference or you could have repeats of this over everything, even when the baby is born :(

Is feeling really really weirdly overexcited/like I've had 10 million coffees a symptom of pg? Honestly I never usually get this excited about going to a festival

The thing is it's a sensitive subject, she's well meaning and trying to be helpful. She's going out of her way to find out all this information. She'd be so hurt if I asked her to back off. Thank goodness we haven't told anyone else yet! I might just keep it secret till it's born!

Quod definitely! Have you packed your lucky stick?!

Harpie, can you do an Adele & hide it til you're 7 months gone?!

Quod, have a lovely time! :)

I think the way forward with MIL (and all those other people who are convinced they know what's best) is nod and smile... nod and smile... and then do what you were going to do anyway!

Quod it's too early for a proper test anyway. Plus this way you won't be fretting about dislodging a bean during the festival!

So today was a Bfn after some EXTREME POAS action involving wellies, subterfuge and a long queue for a portaloo. This festival used to have nice backstage toilets but no more!

DP and I agreed a strategy of testing daily while we are here so I don't feel guilty/worried about drinking. I know that's maybe not the most mature strategy!

tis what I would be doing Quod

but don't worry too much about the drinking - I think booze doesn't reach the embryo till 2+ weeks post conception anyway. Have fun!