The thing is, Carla, you originally asked if we thought his actions were reasonable.
It is just impossible to answer that question without more detail about your financial situation. As it turns out, the few details you gave made it sound like he could well have a point.
However, there were a lot of people who were prepared to give you the benefit of the doubt. They thought, perhaps, that your original details had been misunderstood, or there was further information (yes, including your BC statement) that would explain why you were being hard done by.
Now, forgive me, but you were generally totally incoherent in your efforts to explain exactly what the financial arrangements between you and your husband were. You also consistently ignored posters who had tried to explain your situation and were asking for your verification that their explanation was correct. This, I imagine, must have been extremely frustrating for those who were trying to understand/defend you and made it impossible for anyone to suggest anything to help you.
It is also, by the way, a common trolling technique. People of course then spent ages speculating about you in order to try and satisfy their urge to make a helpful suggestion.
So if you're still wondering why you got hostility it is because you totally failed to give people the information they needed to see why it was you had grounds for complaint. You wasted their time, in other words.
Not much sympathy here, I'm afraid.