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So angry - I am so pissed off, need to vent before i kill the Mil

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tamba · 27/12/2005 14:09

arrggghhhhh

Are the lives of my children worthless? Mil seems to think so...

She has (very nicely) agreed to have my boys this afternoon so i can sort the mess in the house out left over from christmas...she even came to pick them up. Thats great, I am very greatful but..

She has this thing about car seats, she doesnt like using them etc (they didnt have them in her day and her kids all survived!)..

I insist on them and watched her strap the seats into the car.. Then I went inside as it is snowing here...

Went upstairs and just happened to look out of the window to see...

Her taking my 1 yr old out of the car seat and sitting him on the back seat - no belt or anything. Also sitting freely in the back was my 3 yr old This is SO dangerous!!!!

I went downstairs to go and put it right but they were gone

So my children are travelling in the snow, in the back of a car with no car seats or seatbelts on

I hope they get there alive

Arrrrgggghhhhh I am fuming.

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SpaGlorytoBlog · 27/12/2005 14:11

This is disgraceful. I would be tempted to tip off the police!

SnowmAngeliz · 27/12/2005 14:11

Sorry but i would not let her gat away with that.I would go and get my children and NEVER let her take them (in a car at least) again.

Stupid stupid stupid woman

SnowmAngeliz · 27/12/2005 14:11

Her not you!

FairyTaleinNewYork · 27/12/2005 14:12

wtf!!

why?

tel lher in future she doesnt have the kids alone, untill she can prove that she puts their safety first.

Blandmum · 27/12/2005 14:12

Wow what a silly, silly woman!

I would have to tell he she couldn't have them again, unless she could agree to strap them in.

partypooka · 27/12/2005 14:13

How FURIOUS you must, rightly,be.Who cares what she thinksabout car safety - YOU are their mother and so your wishes come first.

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tamba · 27/12/2005 14:13

They will be enroute now so i cant do anything about it. But DH will be picking them up on the way home from work, so at least i know they will get home safely..

She'll deny it And i will look like a paranoid, over protective mother.

I could really hurt her atm, I am so angry.

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Pruni · 27/12/2005 14:13

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Pruni · 27/12/2005 14:14

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Passionflowerinapeartree · 27/12/2005 14:14

OMG - I'd have got in my car and followed her. That is UNFORGIVABLE.

PottyinaPearTree · 27/12/2005 14:14

That's appalling tamba - tell her that if she values their lives so little she won't be allowed to take them again.

If she'd like to call my dh who's a firefighter he'll tell her just how badly a child can be injured when they are not strapped in. Believe me, if she'd seen the aftermath she wouldn't sleep at night.

Plus she's breaking the law

sallyhollyberry · 27/12/2005 14:15

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NannyL · 27/12/2005 14:16

OMG i would be SOOOOOO mad

who the hell does she think she is to rsik the lives of your children like that?

I dont think id EVER let her take them again, (oh and remind her that os omf May 2006 that will be completely ILLEGAL (although its already illegal not to use them if they are there any way)

Blandmum · 27/12/2005 14:16

Is she far away?

If not, I'd walk round there and walk them home.

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tamba · 27/12/2005 14:16

I havent got a car and dont drive so I cant even go and get them.

I am imagening them flying through the windscreen

Why cant she accept that I am there mother and what I say (and the Law!) goes

What am I going to do? Am sat here fuming and have no where to vent the anger. She would deny it to my face and not budge, she will insist they were strapped in - but i saw them!!!!!!!

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Blandmum · 27/12/2005 14:18

Is your dh working? Can he fetch them?

vitomum · 27/12/2005 14:18

that is completely outrageous. i would want to kill her. Not only has she put them at risk but she has disobeyed your instructions. i would not hesitate to ban her from having them in the car again. My dad is not allowed to be left on his own with ds until he can prove he can be trusted (he is not bad just daft and irresponsible).

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tamba · 27/12/2005 14:19

They are a couple of miles away.

Even when i do say something to her, which I have before, cause she cant be bothered to put the seats in so I do it when she is having my kids.. she cant understand what all the fuss is about...cause in her day... Maybe she really is just thick? Although that is worrying as she has to make lots of desicions that affect alot of people in her job..

She looks after her granddaughters during the week (3 and 6) and takes them in the car alot..

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vitomum · 27/12/2005 14:19

also agree with the calling the police - she is breaking the law so hell mend her.

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tamba · 27/12/2005 14:21

dh is working 50 miles away and wont be home til 7.

I dont think going and getting them will do much good as they will be staying in the house and not going out anywhere and they are looking forward to playing with there cousins and i dont want to ruin that for them...

Also if i go anywear near that woman I may do something rash!

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PottyinaPearTree · 27/12/2005 14:21

Ring her tamba to make sure they got there safely

sallyhollyberry · 27/12/2005 14:21

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tamba · 27/12/2005 14:22

I have tried ringing twice, there is no answer yet [worried emotion]

They left 20 mins ago so should be there around now. I will be ringing every 2 mins til they answer.

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sallyhollyberry · 27/12/2005 14:24

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tamba · 27/12/2005 14:29

They are home..

I have been told not to be 'so silly' for worrying..

Well. I wont have to worry again cause it wont be happening again... Snow or no snow we will say no thank you to a lift in future...

Does anyone know if the fireservice (?) produces leaflets about car safety for children? Something i could descretely leave in her house? because although my children will be safe, my neices are at risk every time they go in the car.

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