The fourth WIIT thread travels far and wide, with tales of new adventures to share.

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Hello Ladies,

Here is the 4th WIIT thread for our enjoyment.

Stats will have to follow at a later date, as I can't check back to see where everyone is accurately at the moment.

Get posting and lets see where this thread takes us. :)

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Hello everybody, just a quick one as I am dropping in from work - never get a chance to get on the computer at home, I'm always so knackered at the end of the day. No movement here so yawn - same old same old.

MrsS I am a bit worried about you hon, there is nothing strange or wrong about having a male friend, but there is obviously something worrying you for you to post about it on here. Maybe keeping a bit of distance with this friend while you sort out your relationship at home wouldn't be a bad thing - and your friend will understand having just been through a break up himself.

Another wow for 100years losing all that weight and running. I don't even run at the best of times, never mind immediately after having a baby. You are clearly quite mad lol. Don't overdo it!

Bebe is she really going to school? I feel like I have known her for so long, she was just a baby when I first came on the waiting thread, where has all the time gone - and why aren't we ttc yet?

SPR what a lot going on for you, hopefully this will be a chance for a great new start for your family. It must be funny being together all the time when you used to be constantly apart - even dashing back and forth to ttc!

Have we heard anything from Strawberry?

Sorry it's brief and sorry to those I've missed off. Have to run x

100 I am VERY impressed.......

SPR does your employer know you are pregnant?

see my last point......... The HR Director was told when I was off sick and my line manager knows. The HR Director has failed to keep it confidential..... wanker!!!

Blimey SPR that is shocking! Surely they can't have a leg to stand on legally?

That's my hope!!! We will have to wait and see what happens tomorrow

Oh gawd SPR!!! Not good! Not good at all!!! :(

Massive breach of confidentiality surely?!

Got them over a barrel really, they surely wouldn't want this to go to court, could end up costing them thousands! (Bear in mind I have no actual qualifications at all in this field! ) Have a big squishy un MN Hope you can sort this out, this is stress you don't need!

Just when I thought things here couldn't get any worse DH just lost his last big contract at work today! No idea what's going to happen for us now! Feel a bit sick tbh almost certainly means ttc is completely out of the question. In a couple of months food will probably be put of the question too! Sometimes life just really REALLY sucks!

Sorry to rant, just needed to vent

Oh bebe that is awful. I'm so sorry to hear that he's lost a big contract. I can't remember what he does but have a feeling it is financial.. is that right? It must be such a tough time for anybody in that industry and I can't even begin to imagine the stress and pressure that you are both under at the moment.

((((hugs))))

Thanks SPR. Yes he does work in the financial sector, but I can't really say what exactly, and it's kind of tricky to explain anyway! There is another area of his business that he hasn't really been focusing on (too busy with the one that's just gone pffft) so hoping that he can resurrect that. DH has invested so much emotionally & financially into the business that I just feel like the whole thing is like a house of cards & we are teetering on the brink of complete collapse. He's trying to put a brave face on it, but I can see he is struggling. All the staff are going to have to be made redundant. Including his brother, his PA (who has worked with him for 6 years) and his dad's PA (who's worked with his dad for 18 years)! It's just such a mess. :(

Just no idea what we are going to do! :(

Sorry to wallow, I'm not the only one with problems.

Oh how difficult for them. Making people redundant must be so hard.

I know that it's admitting defeat but is there any way he can leave the business/close the business and either set up on his own or join a bigger firm/provide consultancy to larger firms? Sorry if this seems like a ridiculous idea but I'm not entirely sure of the specifics etc so just thought it was worth mentioning.

It's not wallowing either, these are things that you need to talk about and if the WIITs thread is good for anything it's sharing probelms.

(((hugs)))

A couple of years ago he was head hunted & turned it down to stick by the company/his dad. The business' are in his name now & his dad is much more hands off these days (heading towards retirement age). The biggest problem with him working for anyone else is that he doesn't drive so he is pretty limited as to where he can work! I'd be devastated if we had to move. We've been here 4 years & I have just started to make friends & DD has friends & is settled into preschool. Plus with the MS I'm really supported here with my GP & consultants etc & I don't want to have to start all over again. I'm trying to find some part time work so I can help ease the burden financially, but there is nothing locally at the moment & with petrol prices the way they are I can't afford to travel too far on a part time wage.

It all just SUCKS!!! Don't know whether to scream or cry!

Oh God! What a nightmare for you both. Is there any way he can learn to drive so that he can open up the areas that he can work in? I can totally understand you not wanting to move having built up such a good support network.

I guess part time work is a good place to start and then see what else comes up.

DH learning to drive on a serious note, bit of a catch 22, he needs to drive in order to open up job possibilities but we need the money from a steady job in order for him to learn!!

Ahhhhhh. I get your point!
I am always surprised to hear that people can't drive but maybe that's because I grew up on a farm and being able to drive was essential if I wanted to ever go anywhere interesting!

What a pain in the arse for you.

He did learn when he was in sixth form, and (according to his mum) was a good driver. Just never got round to doing his test! Then of course they brought in all the theory test etc & he is a bit exam phobic & just couldn't get his head round it! Up to this point he hasn't really needed to drive. It was a right royal PITA when I was pregnant/in labour though! But hey ho, it's not like we could afford to run 2 cars either, and I couldn't be without mine!

Oh Bebe what terrible news, you poor things. You must all be so stressed and shocked. I don't know what to say really apart from you should let off steam here, we don't mind. And (((hugs))).

I'm so sorry to hear the news about the contract at your OH's business, bebe. Awful news, I hope you are OK.

Also SPR that is not what you need to be dealing with at work whilst you are pregnant but it sounds like you are doing all the right things and fighting your corner- you go girl! (In the style of head & finger shaking American!) I'm glad your OHs situation is working out for the best also.

100 you are hardcore going for a run already!

AC- how are things going? Any more breakthroughs?

Quod- sounds like a busy period for both of you! It is hard spending time apart from your OH I think but great when you get back together [hwink]

Mrs S- I haven't read your other thread but hope you are OK and issues are working themselves out?

Well.....term plus 1 week today and still pregnant! I feel fine though, check up few days ago was OK. The doctor was talking about induction and sweeps etc but I want to try and let things happen naturally as far as possible so I can have the homebirth we are hoping for. The house is finally ready so I am going to start trying all the curry/sex/walking type things to encourage labour!

It's weird how everyone keeps asking if there is any news as if we would have the baby and forget to tell them [hsmile]

has anyone got any recommendations for baby monitors? we live in a very tall, narrow house so we will need one with good range for when we are on different floors from the baby. Is a video one worth it or one of the ones that monitors breathing movements or are they totally over the top?

Sorry for the peeps I have missed off-

Oh forgot to say- AC the big trip would have been fine for me at 24 weeks- I felt great, but you have no way of knowing how you will feel so I would recommend leaving the booking until the last minute.

Strawberry!! Can't believe you are due (or overdue ) already!! How fast did that go?!

We have a Tomy monitor, we thought video one/breathing one would be unnecessary as DD was in with us for 5months anyway & mostly napped downstairs. But totally your call. Our Tomy one (old style, they have changed it recently) has been really good. Our house isn't that big, but it copes brilliantly at my mums which is alot bigger & at one point we used to pick up next doors monitor (until we figured it out & changed the frequency! :o) so I'd say the range is pretty good!

Thanks to everyone for all the and sympathy! Just hoping that something good will come out of all this mess, but I'm not holding my breath!

Off out today to take DD to the hell that is softplay for a birthday party. Going to be tough as just found out that some ex-friends are bringing their little boy so it is going to be very awkward. (Ex-friends sounds very petty, but they really screwed us over & cocked up DHs business which contributed to the crap that we are still dealing with 3 years on!!) Anyways....best go find some socks & make sure I have everything to go out....don't want to go, but DD is so excited!

Oh Bebe what awful news, bad luck seems to be stalking you at the moment. I suppose even if your DH passed his test the cost of insurance would be shocking. I hope you don't have to move away. What's going on with your lease property at the moment? Is that going ok at least?

SPR I'm sorry I haven't been on the thread to help you out, but you seem to be managing things well. Is there any news?

Strawberry it is good to hear from you. It must be so weird to be just at the fit to burst point waiting for it to all go off any second. I hope you get the birth you want, I'm sending you lots of "go into labour" vibes!

I don't think those monitors are over the top in a house like that. DH got a video monitor for £70 that synchs with his iPhone to watch what the cat gets up to when we're out (answer = not a lot) so we're already sorted for if when baby ever comes!

An interesting development here. I finally got another job, and it's perfect! A bit less money in my pay packet every month but a better pension, maternity pay, flexi time!!! I start at the beginning of January, which of course puts the breaks on any TTC plans. I'll have to wait and see what the qualifying period is for the maternity benefits. DH must be deliriously happy lol.

Strawberry, that's really exciting, I imagine every day must have you on tenterhooks a bit at the moment? Hope it all goes really smoothly.

Bebe good to see you looking for sunshine through the clouds, who knows, maybe in a few years you'll look back and decide this had to happen in order for you all to get through a bad patch and into a better place.

Well I've got a very sociable day today, off to see a friend and his fiance and their twin babies for a military-precision-planned trip to the pub! She's still bfing both (huge respect) which means we have to meet up at a very precise time but very much looking forward meeting the littlies. Then have a couple of good female friends over for dinner to start to plan 'team wedding' for one of them. Realised today that disconcertingly I have seen DP's face in stranger's twitpics more than in real life recently, can't wait til he gets home tomorrow night at some point.

Just a quick one as I'm on my phone!

Bebe SO sorry to hear that I really hope things work out - you deserve some luck, I think it's overdue for you!

Strawberry glad it's all going well

AC congrats on the new job!!!!

Things here are getting somewhat complicated... Will post more when I can. Life as I know it is going up in the air a bit. Hmm.

Oh MrsS I hope everything's ok with you.

Congratulations on the new job Amanda! Great news! When do you start?

What is happening Mrs S? Are you ok?

How are things Bebe? How is your OH holding up and how was the party with the ex-friend?

No change here- Pleeeeaase come out soon baby! Lots of walking planned fir today......