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Hello Ladies,

Here is the 4th WIIT thread for our enjoyment.

Stats will have to follow at a later date, as I can't check back to see where everyone is accurately at the moment.

Get posting and lets see where this thread takes us. :)

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Oh God.... Mr AC is really excelling himself the moment! A friend of mine is 15 weeks and her husband is talking about buying a 2 seater car and booking a cricket tour to SA for 3 weeks, getting back 2 weeks before her due date......

Some of them are so in denial!!

Quod - that's amazing news on your DHs commission. Hope it all goes well.

Bebe - sorry to hear things are so shit right now. It really sounds like you and DH need some time as just the 2 of you so you can reconnect

Sorry if I've forgotten anybody's news, trying to catch up on my phone over breakfast!!

Quod it sounds like all the pieces are falling into place for you guys!

AC, last night DP was excitedly talking about how extra money would mean we could possibly go on a nice diving holiday. This morning he said in a wistful voice 'but if we had a little one we wouldn't be able to go on diving, would we...?' You could see the cogs whirring.

Right....I'm going to attempt to 'catch up'!

Bear with!!

Quod - Excitement mega plus!!! This time next year there might be a mini Quod!! If it's any erm....consolation (not sure that's the right word) DH didn't really realise what having a baby meant until he saw the first scan then went into mega panic/act like a big kid mode. So maybe it's a good thing that your DP is getting out of the way now?! (Best I can do, sorry ) My DH actually said the other day 'DD was so cute as a baby, I loved her so much, then she turned 3!' says it all really! She's completely put him off, force of nature that she is!

AC - How could your DH even contemplate that trip? Is he having some sort of not-quite-mid-life crisis?! Hope you gave him hell! Maybe TBT will help him get it all out of his system?

SPR - How are you doing? How was the holiday?

DD had her first Nativity yesterday! Was super cute! They dressed up & the vicar read the Christmas story & they all gathered around. (Can't expect anymore from 2/3/4 year olds!!) But DD was Mary!! :o SO proud!! She was just adorable...and gobby (as usual)! She's such a little performer.

In other news, finally saw the physio this morning (after falling over in the rush to get DD into school & covering myself in mud) & she reckons that I have possibly got a prolapsed disc! :( So some nice physio sessions ahead & been told to do about 15mins of cardio exercise every other day then after Xmas I can go back to Zumba hopefully! Complete nightmare!!

Oh no Bebe, I had 2 prolapsed discs a few years ago, they were a b*tch! (I made them worse by doing stupid things instead of looking after myself, like the disastrous drunken dance-off at a festival that left me covered in mud with a popped ankle and a popped disc!)
After much trial and error I discovered pilates was the answer - haven't had a relapse for 18 months since I got into pilates. I liked the physio - a bit of me-time and a massage!

Yeah who knows if we'll actually get down to it this month. DP is away for 5 days and then back for fertile time (just before Xmas) so I reckon I'll do a fair bit of thinking about it whilst he's gone. He might not - it tends to go straight out of his mind I think! I was looking over 3 yrs of pictures of us together yesterday and thinking what a lovely, lovely time we've had - I think a big part of it for me is that I don't want that to change, it feels really scary to be moving in to a new phrase in life when at essence I like this one so much! Still it's nice to be reminded to appreciate what you've got - and I do know that it might not change too much, from what I can gather from friends it varied from couple to couple how much a little one changes your relationship together.

Physio is going to teach me some Pilates, I'm going to look in to going to classes coz it's actually something I've been wanting to do. What a pain to do 2 discs at once! Ouchy!! This is such a stupid injury to have, all I did was trip over DD!! D'oh!!

In a way I'm really glad that DD was an impulsive decision. We weren't really TTC, just sort of decided that it would be nice to have a baby & if it happened it happened. So none of the agonising etc. On the other hand, I look back now & think 'Oh my God how naive were we?!?!?!' There's so much I wish we had done together as a couple which we will never get the chance to do now. But DD keeps me on my toes & life with her is never dull! Wouldn't swap her for the world even if things are probably not how I would have planned for myself. DH & I don't have the same relationship now, but I think there are bigger factors than DD involved for us. Hope that makes sense?!

SPR and Quod you've made me feel a bit better, maybe it's a normal(ish) thing men go through like a mini midlife crisis, as Bebe says, just before they become dads? Bit for your friend SPR though, I was counting on it being more of a fantasy than a reality!

Can't believe how amazing your holiday snaps were SPR it looked gorgeous! I bet it was weird to lie there soaking up the sun thinking "this time next year..." why can't DH be planning a lovely relaxing pg friendly getaway like that for next summer???

Oh my goodness Bebe the lead role!!! Fame! This means your DD is the kid they were all bitching about on AIBU: the one who gets Chosen! So what is it? Sleeping with the headmaster? Big donation to school fund? Cupcakes for all the governors?

Sorry to hear you've put your back out. Hope the physio sorts you out. DH has pulled his and can't carry the big Christmas tree I want! [selfish]

Shall come back with more to say later (nothing exciting I wouldn't have thought!) Time I got up before the cat completely shreds the carpet. Oh yes and I have work!

AC - They asked them who wanted to do what on the day (they had all been practising & doing different roles at school) DD asked straight away to be Mary & since she was the only one who asked she got the part!! Don't think that'll happen next year!

Haven't seen that AIBU I shall go look for it.......

I need to catch up later on the computer. And I will either today or tomorrow. But Edith just rolled over. :) 3months and 5 days old!!! She's now fallen asleep on her play mat.

Hey Strawberry. How was your Christmas meal? No where near ready for Christmas.

AC, yeah I'm quite busy with my LO, but I read through all the time. How was your hair cut? The link for TBT2 didn't work for me, but I get that it's a stooped idea.

bebe, sorry you feel you are further away from convincing your DH to TTC :( Shit to the prolapsed disc :(

Quod, glad to hear your DP is up for ditching the contraception, it's nice to be in that position, and great about the work thing. It's perfectly normal to feel apprehension over the TTC and what could change. For me I don't feel like a lot has changed between me and OH, he is very attentive and does a lot for me. He also tells me lots of nice things, he's always calling me super mum.

SPR, how was the holibobs?

LO is now the same length as I was when I was born! LOL. 59.8cm for LO, I was 60 cm! Madness.

It was my birthday last saturday. Met a load of OH's family, was nice, and the beauty about having a lo with us is that the attention was on her and not me as a first time you've ever met someone!

100 that's amazing about Edith rolling! Do you have any recent photos we can satiate our baby-crack needs with? Happy belated birthday, glad you had a nice day.

SPR yes tell us about your holiday - I want to imagine being somewhere warm, our flat is SO COLD this time of year (no central heating, just those plug-in dooberries).

Bebe that's really sweet your DD being Mary - she must have a lovely confidence to volunteer herself so readily.

So I'm trying to write 10,000 words for a chapter which is late, which is nigh on impossible now because my brain keeps reverting to the 'so are we TTC then? should we do it now? Like NOW now? Oh god...' cycle.....AGGHHH! Anyone got any helpful concentration tips?!

100 - What a clever little girl! :) Glad you had a lovely birthday x

SPR - Please delight us with glorious details of your exotic holiday! :o

Quod - Cake is good for concentration I hear!! Also I find if the house is really quiet I get distracted alot more easily than if I have music on or some background noise.
Some say DD has confindence, some say she is a little drama queen show off! :o But she was really adorable & I've had lots of compliments about what a lovely Mary she was. :)

Off to my mums tomorrow so of course there is suddenly snow forecast accross my entire route! I love snow, just not when I have to drive 120miles in it!!

Bebe was she as much of a scene stealer as Can't stop laughing at this.

Crying laughing! Hilarious!!

(And no, she wasn't that bad although she did shout at the vicar to 'JUST READ THE STORY!!!' when the 'animals' were making a bit of a kerfuffle/taking their time getting into position!!)

Yay! Go Edith! Nothing will be safe in your house soon! My friends have got rules about the minimum height you can put anything down. It's pretty high and their boy's only two! I always forget but M&D are like machines!

I love what you say about you and OH getting on post baby, I think this is DH's biggest fear, rather than anything to do with boozing with the boys. I think he might find having a baby is actually better for our marriage than refusing to have one!

Continues.... Hair cut took four hours. FOUR HOURS! And didn't look much different if you ask me! Happy birthday for Saturday!

Quod the whole TTC business can be extremely distracting, the couple of months when I've thought maybe there's a slim chance of pg have been the worst times I've had for concentration, but I can imagine that imminent commencement is pretty all consuming as well! Don't know what to suggest!

That clip is hilarious! Some of the comments were a bit though!

Bebe yeah right likely story, we all know you really put your back out carrying all those tins of cakes to the governors meeting to help them concentrate on who to give the lead role to! Are you feeling any better? x

Confidence is so important it will get you a long long way in life. You are doing a great job.

Quod, I've put a pic up of E, but it's in my original log in and not my Christmas one, so just go to my old log in and my pics and it should be there. No concentration hints from me I'm afraid. That video is really cool.

bebe, how was the journey to your mum's?

AC I think we will have to have rules on where little things can go, but I - rightly or wrongly - want to try not to have put too much high up, I think she should learn the word 'no', so long as there is nothing dangerous to her at her height then I think we will leave a few things there otherwise you constantly have to move things and I think she should learn that not everything is for her. We shall see if this works when she is a little older! And yes, having a baby is a million times better for him than refusing to have one!

Having minor feeding issues with LO, she seems to be refusing a little and sicking up a bit, not sure if I have oversupply, too fast a let down or if she is just going through a 3 month phase of playing around and being interested with everything. Trying different approach to see if it helps.

I think I have all my Christmas shopping done now, so I can relax and not have to do too much in the next week :) Had a nice week with OH as he had the time off work and we did a few things, went to london for a study so E has had her first trip on the tube. Then it was back to work for him on Thursday and Friday and today has flown by!

I'm quite tired at the moment, doesn't help that I lay awake for over an hour last night after feeding. Brain was in mad mode!

Oh god. Just got back from the day at my friends house visiting her new baby and my Godson age 2.5. Am completely, completely exhausted to the core. I have had to play the exact same game of hide and seek on repeat for over four hours. Bear and duck were hiding in exactly the same place behind the curtains in the lounge on every single occasion that I looked for them. I'm totally feeling the cannonball run this evening!

AC I was always quite tired after seeing my sis and her two girls. Love them to bits but wow I never felt like I had enough energy to get me through more than a few hours. But I believed it would be different with my own, so far it is, it's like you get used to doing lots with them and you grow to be able to do it. Yes it's still tiring and prob less than it will be when she's properly running round but she's tiring in different ways at the moment as she can't tell me what she needs so it's a guessing game. But I'm so much less tired on the whole looking after her all the time than I was playing for a few hours with my nieces. It's odd. But it's like you do it and can do it. I hope that all makes sense :)

100years it was just so mentally draining. I was thinking "if this was my life every day I'd have to develop a gin habit to cope". With a colicky new baby screaming in the background as well I was seriously out of my comfort zone.

All I could think was "they haven't slept for six weeks"!

AC I think after the first hour of hide and seek maybe a favourite video might have been in order to give to a chance to catch up with your friend!

I have got to echo 100 and say that you quickly get used to any tiredness and you really don't mind doing everything you can for your own LO. Colic must be difficult to deal with but even that passes after a few months. The times they grin at you, start doing something new and all the amazing cuddles and quiet times make up for any difficulties!

Well done Edith for rolling over! Well done Phoebe for landing the starring role!

It is nice to hear from you two that it is doable! I finally met up with my friends and their 6m twins at the weekend - they are adorable BUT my poor friends still seemed a bit shell-shocked (they are clearly doing brilliantly btw). They kept saying 'it's so nice to be in the pub' in a slightly dazed manner. I think they were quite relieved to have a third person to rotate the babies around so an attempt could be made to eat food while it was hot! The mum hasn't been apart from them at all in 6 months as they won't take bottles yet. I must say I think I'd start climbing the walls a bit if I didn't get to have SOME time to myself in half a year. Plus my career would start to disappear if I was in that situation which I find quite scary.

I think twins are a different kettle of fish! I take my hat off to your friends Quod!

There's a thread in AIBU about should I/shouldn't I have a termination and everyone's going on about fertility dwindling in your 30s and telling her at 35 it could be her last chance to have any children at all, and people are saying she's really quite old for a first time mother anyway.

I really don't know what the fallout will be if we get back from TBT and DH puts it off again, or if we do TTC but don't get pg because we've left it too late - or too late for a second child. Much worse I should imagine than the fallout from telling a two year old "mummy's had enough of hide and seek for now darling."