Evil Tesco Lady has emotionally scarred my dd for life!!

[thehockeyandtheivy]

Took dd to the HUGE Tescos on Tuesday, the ones with those car trolleys. Anyway, dd (3) got fed up and shouted a little bit when we had to give the car back (they dont go outside so you trsnfer your shopping to a normal trolley). It wasn't a tantrum by any means, I just said "Don't shout at mummy" to her. The woman on the till got off the till went over to her, got down on her level and said in a really nasty voice "You are a naughty, naughty little girl, you don't deserve a good mummy. When Father Christmas comes he's not going to leave you any presents, he's going to take your mummy away and you will never see her again"

I was absolutely flabbergasted. DD screamed and screamed, I have never seen her so scared in her life. She will now not let me out of her sight, is clingy still (after 4 days), has said she doesn't want Father Christmas in the house and is just crying and crying that she's scared I'll go away. She is already a bit clingy because of this pregnancy (a lot of them do that anyway) but is so much worse now she seems like an emoptional wreck this week.

What should I do?

My first response was fairly measured in that I 'know' that violence solves nothing but I do agree with hunker- lol.

Also janh's comment is in need of consideration- not for the monetary aspect but I do think you should contact the press. These people can't be allowed to get away with being so nasty to little kids- i bet tesco do nothing about it other than apologising to you- she should be reprimanded- to tell any child that something is going to take her mummy away is total and utter evil. This woman shouldn't be working within a mile of a child. Go to the press

DEFFO go to the papers

awful woman

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utterly shocking, i dont know what possessed the stupid woman.

is she going to see faher xmas at nursery or anything? could he be primed to tell her that the very naughty lady in tescos was telling lies and she will be getting a lump of coal this year for being mean?

What a fab idea GGG. Hope you manage to sort that tescos lady out. at how they treated your DD.

The evil old bitch. Go to the papers definitely, I was actually in tears thinking of how this would have affected my DS's.

PMSL @ Hunker though...

I'm not sure why you all seem to think I was joking? Like I say, the red mist descends...

Harpsi, may need to take you up on that offer of help in the future!

some lady told mt ddthat santa wouldnt come to her the other week, made dd2 scream even more. grrr

i use the 'father xmas is watching' line if they are getting a bit naughty, but i would never say he wasnt coming! if nothing else, i would then be proven a liar on xmas morning

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It's the fact that she said that santa will take her mummy away that makes me angry- i'd really press on that issue

"i wonder if it is a criminal offence- maybe assualt" Oh for heaven's sake! It was nasty but it's not assault!!

Just to get technical , assault isn't actually hurting someone. The legal definition of assault is causing someone to fear immediate violence. Hence if someone approaches you with a knife and cuts you, that is assault and battery. Whereas if someone cuts you from behind, that's just battery.

Assault can also be verbal.

Told my dh about this and he also said you should go to the papers - what are Tesco actually going to do other than apologise?

What an old bag! No way should she have interferred AT ALL. Lots of children get upset in supermarkets - what on earth was she thinking of?!

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Tesco will give lots of vouchers or a gift basket or something, if they have any sense.

IMHO, Tesco should be arranging the biggest F£$k off toy hamper for your DD right now. Go there today, alnog with scared looking DD, and COMPLAIN!

Can't wait to hear how Tesco respond to this. As a seasonal local or even tabloid press story it would press all the right buttons and make them look terrible.

So if you aren't happy with their reply, don't drop it there!

What an awful woman; sounds like she has some kind of personality disorder.

Have just read this post. Cannot believe the woman said that. the bit about "taking your mummy away is just awful, poor you, and your poor wee DD as well. Let us know what Tesco say.
I would give it a week and if no response i would go to the papers, Tesco don't need bad publicity.

omg how dare she ? is dd ok/?

I wouldn't take DD along if I were you, just in case you are given the brush-off. I would write a stiff letter to the Managing Director instead.

F**king Hell!

I would have absolutely lost it! I would definitely write and complain - this is so out of order - IMO this is sooooo crossing a boundary that is there for parents only. What has it got to do with her how your dd behaves - totally inappropriate for her to talk to her in this way. If my own mother spoke to my dd in this way - she would get a mouthful - never mind a stranger - my blood pressure has just gone through the roof!

Is dd too young to be told that some people are just nasty and stupid? (Hugs for you and your dd)

That is the most appalling thing I have read in a long time. I'd insist that Tesco find a Santa to explain that the lady was very silly and that he would never, ever take mummies away from children (as well as organizing a nice hamper for you and your dd). Let us know what happens.