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Petty irritations.....aarrrggghhhhh!!!!!![angry]

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alexsmum · 27/11/2005 23:31

It's that time of year again.Christmas is coming and my neighbours start doing their online christmas shopping and are never home to collect it so we end up taking it in!!!And it drives me mad! Last year they had even put our address on some of the stuff! and although the delivery people put a card through their door to say where it is they never come and pick it up- they wait for us to take it round! This so petty i know but it drives me insane!!!!!!!!!!!!
We're not even especially friendly with them- just to say hello to.And the delivery guys always turn up when i'm to my ears in dirty nappy or something!!!
anyone else got any thing petty to vent?

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santabops · 27/11/2005 23:32

Perhaps you could go out too

starlover · 27/11/2005 23:33

Well... is it stuff to be signed for? if so just refuse to take it.

and don't take it round to them! if they want it let them come and get it,.
If it isn't signed for just keep it for yourself and say it never came! lol (ok maybe don't do that)

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alexsmum · 27/11/2005 23:34

unfortunately i can't be out from 8.30 evry morning to 6.30 every evening which is their work hours. I have to look after my children in their home...unlike my neighbours whose children are only home to sleep it seems.

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alexsmum · 27/11/2005 23:36

it si stuff to be signed for and i always feel like i'm being petty if i refuse it. i think i should do that maybe.
i always wait for them to pick it up but dh gives in and takes it round!

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Chandra · 27/11/2005 23:36

YEs, I got a letter form a person today telling me that she was very offended because I didn't offer her to stay at my house when she comes to present her PhD final exam.

First I didn't know she was coming, second, how am I supposed to read the mind of somebody in order to learn that she needs accomodation and that she needs her in two weeks time especially when I have not heard form her in a year?

P.S. Live the packages in the rain and said you do not know why the delivery people left them there..

santabops · 27/11/2005 23:37

How many parcels are we talking about?

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alexsmum · 27/11/2005 23:37

but don't you think it's cheeky of them to specify my address as a delivery address without asking me??

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lockets · 27/11/2005 23:37

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Chandra · 27/11/2005 23:38

YEs, that's why it is not cheeky of you to leave the parcels out. Unless they have asked first which changes everything.

handlemecarefully · 27/11/2005 23:38

I do this to my neighbours all the time. I'm never in. What's the big deal??? - Personally I wouldn't bother about it if the boot was on the other foot; but I'm pretty easy going that way.

I'm buying my neighbours a bottle of whisky to say thanks (because the mail order has sky rocketted this Christmas)- I'm nice like that!

starlover · 27/11/2005 23:39

yeah i think that is rude am! having said that, i did do the same thing with my abel and cole delivery, but i know my neighbours won't mind! lol

do things come with the regular post? or with delivery men throughout the day? if it's delivery men just don't answer the door!

santabops · 27/11/2005 23:39

Personally as someone who has worked full time long hours I have sort of relied on my neighbours taking in parcels, didn't realise it was such a big issue.

Since going part time I have always happily accapted parcels for my neighbours as I know how very difficult it is to work full time and orgainse your other life too.

Janh · 27/11/2005 23:39

No, certainly don't take it round for them, cheeky buggers. If it's not bulky stuff just stick it in a cupboard and wait it out; if it is (DH once cheerfully took in what looked like a complete flatpack bedroom suite for a house across the road and yards down ) scribble a note saying they have 2 days to collect or it's going back and drop that in instead.

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alexsmum · 27/11/2005 23:41

LOTS!!!! santa bops!!! if it was one every now and then, i wouldn't mind but at this time of year it's every day!!
and if they knocked and said 'do you mind taking in some parcels for us' i probably wouldn't mind but its the f'ing assumption that because i'm a sahm i'm their personal po box that hacks me off.
Chandra how insane is that? how are you supposed to know??

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starlover · 27/11/2005 23:41

if i am ordering stuff and i KNOW i won't be in then i get it delviered to dp's office, or the library (where my mum works)

i wouldn't just assume my neighbours were happy to take in endless streams of parcels. nor would i expect them to bring them over for me!

Janh · 27/11/2005 23:41

NB I always take parcels in for neighbours too, no big deal, but I do expect them to come and collect them from me!

santabops · 27/11/2005 23:41

However, after falling out with one lot of neighbours I did used to refuse to take in their parcels.

I just used to say that we weren't talking and suggest the delivery man tried another house where I knew people might be in!

lockets · 27/11/2005 23:42

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santabops · 27/11/2005 23:43

well maybe that is a bit much. I used to put one lot of neighbours as an alternative address but we did get on very well. sounds a bit cheeky. I think I would refuse to accept them from now on.

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alexsmum · 27/11/2005 23:45

santa bops- as i said, if they ever acknowledged what i was doing as anything other than as their right, it wouldn't piss me off nearly as much.
But i'm sorry- in the shower and the bell goes- parcel for them.getting baby down to sleep- bell goes parcel for them.
And its not only people who work full time who have busy lives you know.

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handlemecarefully · 27/11/2005 23:47

Look I love you all- but I am finding this really sad. Whats the biggie for crissakes. Why can't we do little things for our neighbours with good grace? You're making me weep! (but it could be the beer).

I'm sure it's not the 'SAHM assumption'. Very soon I'll be a SAHM (21 Dec - not that I am counting or anything); but I don't plan to be in any more then than I am now....

How does taking in parcels for your neighbour shorten your life expectancy?

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alexsmum · 27/11/2005 23:48

thanks santa bops- sorry to get worked up. I know as i'm writing this that it is petty and smallminded but it winds me up so much!!!!!!
putting my address without asking was the ultimate! and they didn't come over to pick it up!!!

deep breaths, deep breaths.

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Chandra · 27/11/2005 23:48

The main problem with parcels and small children is that the delivery people always bang the door to the point of waking up the full neighbourhood, never mind the baby who finally fell asleep.

I think it would be easier to have a polite conversation with your neighbours about this, they may not realise how inconvenient that is.

soapbox · 27/11/2005 23:48

Dear me no wonder the community spirit is on the wane

Isn't it just nice to do small things for each other that makes life easier for people!

It wouldn't cross my mind to be peeved at doing this for anyone!

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