Both dds go swimming on a sunday night.
Theres a girl in dd1s class whos about 6 who comes into the changing rooms on her own while her dad reads the newspaper outside.
She asked me to help her get dressed about 3 weeks ago and I sorted out her clothes for her and helped tug her socks/boots on.
Next week she says Can you help me get dried...so I did. Sort of shook the towel up and down her and tryed to encourage her to sort out her own clothes. She did some I did some.
This week I was talking to the swimming instructor for ages and when we went through to the changing area She said I couldnt find you..OH Gawd I thought.
I dried my dds hair under the hair dryer and this little girl didnt make any attempt ot sort herself or her clothes out. So I said things like Oh you need to get yourself dry, your freezing, youdd better get a move on or you will freeze to death etc etc and she didnt move, just stood there shivering.
I then move to where the clothes are get my dd dresses and tell her to sort hers out, she says she needs help. I put the stuff out in a row and said you need to get your dad to sort you out dont you...feeling mean but..
the nice part of me says Oh give her a hand...but not at the expense of my dd being wet/cold and hey her dads outside and theres no reason that he could be doing it.
What would you do?