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Teachers dating parents of children at school

43 replies

blooper · 13/09/2005 17:41

Hi

What would you honestly think if you found out that a teacher at your child's school was dating the parent of a child at the same school? The child is no longer in the teacher's class, but was last year. Both the teacher and the parent are single but they met whilst the child was in the teacher's class. Would you see a problem with this situation?

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jodee · 14/09/2005 19:53

My cousin is a (divorced) headteacher and is dating a (divorced) parent from the school, no issues there.

Cam · 14/09/2005 20:06

Unlike my child's previous school where the (married with a kid) headmaster was having an affair with the (married with 3 kids) deputy head

TwoIfBySea · 14/09/2005 20:17

How could anyone have a problem with this? Two consenting adults. I don't get how it could be seen as unprofessional if the child is no longer in that class.

It is none of their business blooper so have fun!

Cam · 14/09/2005 20:18

It only matters that YOU feel comfortable with it Blooper

cupcakes · 14/09/2005 20:22

When I was at primary school one of the teachers dated the dad of a boy in my class. When they split up she used to question the boy over the dad - was he seeing anyone else, did he talk about her, that kind of thing.
He was 8.
Good luck though blooper. I'm not opposed to it so long as it doesn't have any negative effects on the children involved.

zippitippitoes · 15/09/2005 08:27

You are nukdky enbarradsed alreadu..hope it gies well fir u

batters · 15/09/2005 21:58

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blooper · 17/09/2005 21:34

I had a really nice time by the way

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Billylove30 · 13/05/2011 23:49

I do see a very big problem with this especially because my school encountered this situation and it involved two very unstable people. The teacher was a mess and so was that parent. The child was not a student of the teacher involved but the constant bickering and childlike behavior of the couple created drama and scandal for the actual teachers of this child. They were caught in the middle. Educational settings do not have a place for relationships. Our private lives must always be separated from the school. We have to save face when we are amongst our students. This is how we maintain a professional environment. Some of the teachers nowadays just don't THINK.

goodegg · 14/05/2011 00:07

billylove Hmm you could have described any dysfunctional relationship - that's nothing to do with the profession of either involved!

MsHighwater · 14/05/2011 00:11

If the child is no longer in the teacher's class, then it can probably be regarded as OK as long as the child will not be in the teacher's class in future. I think, if I was your boss, though, I'd want to know that the relationship didn't start until after the child was no longer in your class. I think that would be important.

It's not the same as a teacher having their own child or step-child in their class. It's different if the romantic relationship pre-dates the teacher-pupil relationship than if it's the other way round.

Goblinchild · 14/05/2011 00:15

I don't think there's a problem, or that it's anyone's business except those involved. Dysfunctional relationships should be kept out of school, whoever the members involved.
I wish some parents would keep to that particular standard. I've seen some real bitchfests and fights over men, and heard some choice slagging off within their child's hearing.

MsHighwater · 14/05/2011 00:21

It's the potential for dysfunction that means that relationships should be (generally speaking) kept out of school. The most blissful relationship (at the start) could become dysfunctional while there is still the potential for conflict of interest...

SoloIsAHotCougar · 14/05/2011 00:30

You do realise of course, that this thread is nearly 6 years old don't you?

Goblinchild · 14/05/2011 00:34

Shock No I didn't. I wonder what happened then, and if blooper is still posting in one form or another.

SoloIsAHotCougar · 14/05/2011 11:02

Don't know if I've seen her in a long while under blooper...

Andy929 · 14/08/2020 15:15

I have started seeing my daughters form teacher. We are both single (I am a widow). There is a slight age difference (me being older).

Its going to be challenging as my daughter is aware but wants nothing to do with it. She liked her teacher before she found out. But she kept asking questions on who I was seeing and eventually I told her, as I was having to lie every time when I went out. We have always had an honest relationship.

I dont see her as a teacher, I see her as a woman (who happens to be me daughters form teacher).

Nishanoon · 20/08/2024 23:50

Are high schools headteachers allowed to date a parent?

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