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Tea Room the Twelfth

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RacingSnake · 06/12/2009 22:22

Come in, come in, to Tea Room the Twelfth! We now inhabit a rambling log cabin, surrounded by mysterious pine forests and mist-covered mountains (but also, strangely) easily accessible by regulars, new-comers and passing bishops, ferried in by Mellors driving the troika. All the usual rules apply and all are welcome!

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teafortwo · 22/01/2010 11:26

MT - WOW - That is one seriously fab post and one in which I would like to second...

  • I really need a room of my own for mning!!!
mistlethrush · 22/01/2010 11:45

Tea Thanks

I think it may be partly because I've been reading a book designed to help people to help their children to read. Last term I got a bit that mistlechick was being expected to learn that certain letter groups meant resulted in a certain sound.... fine for some (ie oo would be either the sound in book or broom)(depends where you're from whether there's any difference sometimes!) however, some combinations dh and I could think of 6 different ways they are pronounced in different words in just a minute, so it seems silly saying that these two letters are pronounced x and giving only one of the options.

The book talks about how children learn to read - I can't remember learning to read, so its really interesting. And I'm already making progress with ds when we're reading at home eg the word 'take' - if I say to ds that the 'a' letter that usually has the sound as in 'back' is changed because of the 'e' at the end he reads it immediately correctly - and doesn't try to add the 'e' sound on the end as he would do by sounding out the letters.

I must have another go at it and see whether it talks about the word 'we' - when I put a note in ds's reading book saying having problems differentiating between the 'e' sound in 'we' compared to the sound in, for instance, 'went' (which is the obvious sound for 'e' at the moment for ds) she put a note in saying that 'we' was just a word that had to be learned as a one-off.

Anyway (the whole point of this note) - that made me realise that, because I couldn't remember learning to read, it made it more difficult for me to appreciate the problems - the teachers in the school that Amber visited must find it equally if not more difficult to effectively 'apply' the training and materials that they've been supplied with...

Am going to stop on this now anyway.

But, Amber, your insights are really interesting, and I hope you don't mind us being interested and asking the odd question - please just ignore us if you do, or, better still, tell us to move onto another subject!!!

Raining here. Makes a change from snow, but rather depressing.

Mistlechick woke me up AGAIN last night. His sheet had come untucked I growled at him to cope with it and go back to bed. However, shortly after I was aware that he still had his light on and was not going back to sleep. Stomped into his room, tucked him in and switched his light off, making it very evident that I WAS NOT AMUSED at being woken up because he sheet had become untucked and that he should have just made-do Of course, its always me that gets a disturbed night's sleep - dh, even though he doesn't have a job at the mo, and gets up an hour later, doesn't ever sort things out

amberlight · 22/01/2010 12:23

MT, grr re the disturbed night's sleep - urk.

I never ever mind being asked any question at all about ASC, from the most mundane to the most

About the school thing - in theory I'm the autism consultant for around 250 schools at present, but luckily they haven't really found me yet!! Can't handle 250 schools full of children with an ASC all at once

The teachers were applying perfect practice in the classroom - for the other 29 pupils. But pretty much each of their classes has one child with an ASC in it (high IT industry area, on edges of area of social deprivation - and they have a reputation for being good with SEN so they get more anyway).

What makes it a challenge is that I'm having to be the equivalent of the canary down the mines - if the teachers get it wrong for the child, they're getting it wrong for me too, so it's hugely hard work to test-drive classes. I tend up end up zoning out/stimmming/needing a hug/needing to get away for half an hour in the quiet, so doing it more intensively would be really hard. I'm wondering if a video would work better for mass teaching, though. Might have a word with an ASC trainer colleague about it. Hmm.

CMOTdibbler · 22/01/2010 12:40

Have you thought about a video where the parts that are a problem are highlighted - so in the example of the blinking light, you show the raw video, then manipulate it so that the light is brighter, more intrusive. Sound is magnified and a real mishmash including the irritating 'tiny' noises at equal volume to the teacher ?

The only way I have ever been able to explain my visual problems to anyone is to point them to the RNIB examples of how the world looks with various vision modifiers, and then they get it straight away

mistlethrush · 22/01/2010 12:51

Amber I can imagine the problems with that - you're having to go through all the problem areas yourself, as well as trying to also process what the problems are so that you can report back.

I think that a video would be really helpful - you would need to work closely with a school - first to go in and work out where the main problem areas are for you (not good for you ) and then get someone to film these before anything was changed. Then work out what needs to be changed, and go back to film so that the difference can be seen (you would probably need to have a 2nd session in (sorry ) to check for glitches and make sure that new problems hadn't been created - indeed, if they had, this would be a good thing to have a note of anyway!). At least this way a lot of schools might be able to benefit from your advice and hands-on input without you having to actually visit all of them. I don't know whether it would be possibly to link this in with any of the existing training material that has already been provided, and perhaps supplement...???

From what you've said, I imagine that some of the worst times of day at mistlechick's school would be arriving in the morning and the assembly (at the end of the day) to being picked up time. Mornings, if we arrive early, we're asked to go into the school hall to wait quietly (books provided). Even mistlechick was about this on his first morning in reception - lots of big children he didn't know, echoy hall and lots of adults he didn't know... followed by mass exodus when the bell goes. End of the day the children file out of assembly and parents are waiting in the entrance area through which most classes have to pass - normally only single file room, people getting distracted by seeing their parents, certificates being waved etc. Again all a bit of a scramble/mad dash/lots of big people etc.

Jacksmama · 22/01/2010 17:06

Good morning (here) all you lovely ladies!

I wanted to post yesterday morning but then realized I was running late for work, so rushed off, thinking I might have time in what looked like it was going to be a very slow day --- which then rapidly filled up so I had no time to pop in...

I may not get up again.

We have had a few trying nights (and days) chez Jack. The Young Emperor is teething. It's the horrible two-year molars. I wish they would hurry up and break through already, he is very miserable and therefore, so are we. We forcefed him ibuprofen and paracetamol last night so he actually slept a little bit better than the nights before... thank God. The circles under my eyes are working their way down to my chin.

UniS · 22/01/2010 19:21

Evening, evening. Wouldn't you know it, I could just do with some strips of aluminium can for a bike fettling project and we have only bottled beer in teh house, none in tins. DRAT.
I took boy to the local BMX track this afternoon, he had a blast and is now very tired. and hopefully going to sleep .

Anyone care for a petit four and a cup of chocolate? Mellors has been very busy today preparing these beautifull little dainties.

StillCrazyAfterAllTheseYears · 22/01/2010 23:26

Oooh, yes please, UniS. I am always very pleased with Mellors' handiwork.

Commiserations to Jacksmama and her molar trauma.

Waddya think of my new look for the New Year, by the way?

Catitainahatita · 22/01/2010 23:42

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StillCrazyAfterAllTheseYears · 22/01/2010 23:49

Oh, Catita, that sounds horrible. Have a large scotch and one of Mellors' patent shoulder rubs.

for you.

Catitainahatita · 23/01/2010 00:04

Oops.
I'm not sure how important it is. I mean, my feeling has always been that I would rather not mention anyone by their actual name..., but perhaps the one time won`t matter...
hmm.

Catitainahatita · 23/01/2010 00:06

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Catitainahatita · 23/01/2010 00:09

Right, I've asked for the post to be deleted ... below is an amended version.

Jacksmama · 23/01/2010 15:03

Sorry, Catita, I missed the entire saga with Kittenito's canceled op - what a PITA!!! for you.

Good morning all. Must get going and get to work. Could I please have some very strong essential oil and cotton to shove up my nose? My horrible smelly patient is coming in this morning .

UniS · 23/01/2010 18:56

Poor ole kitten. and cat and Mr Cat, not a good day at all. Mellors is hotfooting it your way with teh shoulder rub and aroma.

Family uni went for a bike adventure today. we rode 6 miles along a cycle way to a pub for lunch and then back again, stopping off to find 5 geo caches on the way home. the pub had a letterbox as well with a realllly large stamp, much to boys joy. One of teh geo caches had treasure in, a little plastic ( cracker toy) bike, which boy is delighted with. We left treasure in the 3 caches that were large enough. I had selected very small treasures, but 2 caches were smaller than thimble size, so no room in them.
I'm very proud of boy for riding 12 miles on his bike. DH and I were on unis.

Catitainahatita · 23/01/2010 20:13

I see I managed to delete the amended post and not the original thing. Damn. I'm not doing very well here.

Update: K woke up at 9pm with a temperature. He started vomiting at 9.30. Finally got him to sleep at 2.30 am. I think it was provoked by stress, as he is fine today and has eaten well.

amberlight · 23/01/2010 20:27

Keeping you all in my thoughts, Catita...

Decent glass of Pinot Gigglio available for those in need

mistlethrush · 23/01/2010 20:49

Catita - sorry you've had such an awful time.

I will have to take mistlechick for an op when he's about 6 to have his perforated eardrum mended - not looking forward to it

We're having nightmare problems here - ended up putting the dog in mistlechick's room last night (small bleary child arrived in our room as we were going to bed complaining of bad dreams). His elephant had a mysteriously damp foot tonight, so has been put in the washing machine - so I have left his friendly monsters in charge (even reopened the wardrobe door slightly so one could get out) and subsequently been up and arranged strategic toys around the bed.... In hope! Its having a bad effect on his overall tiredness which of course affects his behaviour - and it's also affected my tiredness and that's affected my tolerance....

Been choosing company car. Tried out a second which we might well have gone for - but more expensive, so would cost more tax - so are going to stick with what we've already got but go one model up (so that we get dual climate control - dh likes arctic driving conditions, I like to be at a more average temperature as a passenger - which means I normally put on all my coats, make dh take all his jumpers and coats off - and use them over me!!! mistlechick is happy as he will get a 'toy store' (there's a large storage compartment in the drop down arm rest) and his own ventilator for the back.

MellorstheGardener · 23/01/2010 21:03

Ladies, I thought you might need my services. I am offering the usual range of massages, shoulder and foot rubs. Catita - would you like to go first?

mistlethrush · 23/01/2010 21:14
mistlethrush · 23/01/2010 21:34

CMOT just seen you on the property thread - I could pop in next time I was visiting my parents.... they live just up the road - and I'm there quite regularly for orchestral rehearsals and concerts (rehearsals based in Reading) - so let me know if you're ever going to see your parents for the weekend and we could have another tearoom meet up (less exciting location...but... )

StillCrazyAfterAllTheseYears · 23/01/2010 22:09

This pinot gigglio is lovely. Thank you, Amber.

CMOTdibbler · 23/01/2010 22:09

Oh, Catita, hope things improve soon

Would be lovely to meet up MT . I'll have to work out when I am going to see the parents again and let you know

Jacksmama · 24/01/2010 05:11

Gee, CMOT's going to meet all the Tea Room eventually! Cool!

Sympathy to Catita re Kitten. Poor little man.

The Jack Family has caught a bug. I have a sore throat, JB has been sneezing and coughing (and fell asleep at 7:20 pm, extremely unusual for my little night owl) and DH went to bed at 8 pm. He woke up with the man-flu a miserable cold this morning.

I think I burned the inside of my nose with very strong essential oil today [idiot emoticon]. The patient from my "things you wish you could say in your professional life" thread - yes, the smelly one made an appintment for today and I was completely desperate, not knowing how I would cope with her horrible smell, so I grabbed some essential oils that one of my co-workers has and soaked a cotton ball with them, and shoved it up my nostrils. Worked a treat but burned like fire a bit... and it took a few hours before I could smell anything but Palmarosa essential oil. Which, by the way, isn't all that nice a scent... but certainly strong enough to mask someone's unwashed smell.

amberlight · 24/01/2010 18:16

Dual climate control is nifty. We have that in the (t)rusty land rover, and given that dh likes things cold and I like to be tropical, it helps a lot.

JM, oh no re the oils and the colds and etc - what a day for you!

Been cameramwoman for the lads' rugby club today - great fun. Had to smile a bit at the New Mums To the Sport of Rugby who were teetering through the mud in their designer high heeled boots though. They'll learn