Welcome to the One-child families topic

[BigTech]

Enjoy

[arfishy]

Hello. How lovely to have our own topic. I have DD, nearly 6 and two grown up stepsons.

I wanted another baby but for various reasons didn't and now DD is nearly 6 I'm not sure I want to go back. Plus I'm overseas and non resident and it would all be too hard. And I'm 38.

Although I might get a sleeping one if I tried again .

[Mulanmum]

Hello Southcoaster (and arfishy too)

Sorry this topic has caused you some worries about your decision not to add to your family. I wonder if this topic isn't concentrating too much on the negative. I started a thread called Celebrating the One Child Family and only got a couple of replies .

[southcoaster]

Mulanmum don't worry, maybe it's good to be more aware of the potential issues so we can try and work against it if necessary.

I have one sister and our relationship isn't that great, DH has 4 siblings but 2 of them are not talking to the rest of the family. So we figure that even if DS has a sibling there is no guarantee that they'll actually get on or that it'll make his life any better iyswim.

We hope he'll get into sports (and that's a big point at the school we found) so finding friends should be easier. Also I am quite happy to get my life (and body) back a little now that he gets older and would love to either start my own business or do a degree or something similar. So I don't see myself turning into one of those mums that just sits at home waiting for her child to call her. My mum is very active with interests and hobbies and a very interesting person, my ideal would be to be something similar to DS one day.

Ok I am rambling, must get on with the day ....

[Mulanmum]

I'm 1 of 4 sibs. Three of us don't have any contact with our older brother and my sister doesn't speak to me so I also don't worry about my DD not having sibs!

[WhizzzingAroundOnABroomstick]

oo I can post in here too

[WhiteElefant]

Hi, I have been a lurker on mumsnet for a while now but have managed to resist posting, but having seen this topic I am giving in
I have a 10 (nearly 11) year old DD, an only because I didnt want any more. I was 19 when she was born and was always sure that I would never want another, but I think as I was so young others kept thinking I would have another for a lot longer that they would have had I been older. Its only been the last couple of years that people have mostly stopped asking if I am having another.

[teafortwo]

Thanks for being brave enough to post, whiteElefant...

Welcome to Mumsnet... I look forward to chatting about your lovey daughter with you.

Keep in touch!

[bodycolder]

Ooh hello!I have one ds who is 14 now and have had various times over the years where i have considered another but for various reasons it didn't happen,but I feel my family is as full complete and busy as if I had 10!We are definitely a bit of an open house for ds and his friends and ours and have a real family feel in the house even when its just the 3 of us.All the silly things that i woried about when he was little never happened and he is a lovely happy pita!

[maplesyrup]

my ds is nearly 11, I have never had the urge to have another baby, I'm happy with my one child family and my husband feels the same

[RamblingRosa]

Hello! Glad to have found this thread. I've got a beautiful DD aged 12 mo and she's everything I ever wanted. It's been a horrendous year and DP and I are usually teetering on the verge of breaking up I've had to do everything in last year (all childcare, paying bills, paying mortgage, housework etc) and feel really strongly that I wouldn't want to go through all that again.

DP wants more kids but I know I'd never want to have more kids with him because he has let me down so much in the last year. I don't think I'd want kids with anyone else if I split up with him. I love DD so much, I can't imagine wanting another baby...how could I love it as much as I love her?!

I do sometimes feel sad about it though. Just stopped breastfeeding last week and felt really sad because I knew I probably wouldn't ever breastfeed again. Lots of my friends who had babies around the same time as me are now pregnant for second time round and I do feel a bit left out!

I worry DD will be lonely as she grows older. Glad to have found this thread anyway

[Siegrun45]

How come all the topics about one child are from 2008? I suppose the people who wrote then are not here anymore?

[MaureenMLove]

I'm still here! Not MOticiaAdams, but I'm here and my 13 year old only, has become a 22 year old only!

[Siegrun45]

I'm glad you haven't regretted it. Mine is 42 with a 5 year-old and she enjoys her small family too .