Welcome to the One-child families topic

[BigTech]

Enjoy

[Siegrun45]

I'm glad you haven't regretted it. Mine is 42 with a 5 year-old and she enjoys her small family too .

[MaureenMLove]

I'm still here! Not MOticiaAdams, but I'm here and my 13 year old only, has become a 22 year old only!

[Siegrun45]

How come all the topics about one child are from 2008? I suppose the people who wrote then are not here anymore?

[RamblingRosa]

Hello! Glad to have found this thread. I've got a beautiful DD aged 12 mo and she's everything I ever wanted. It's been a horrendous year and DP and I are usually teetering on the verge of breaking up I've had to do everything in last year (all childcare, paying bills, paying mortgage, housework etc) and feel really strongly that I wouldn't want to go through all that again.

DP wants more kids but I know I'd never want to have more kids with him because he has let me down so much in the last year. I don't think I'd want kids with anyone else if I split up with him. I love DD so much, I can't imagine wanting another baby...how could I love it as much as I love her?!

I do sometimes feel sad about it though. Just stopped breastfeeding last week and felt really sad because I knew I probably wouldn't ever breastfeed again. Lots of my friends who had babies around the same time as me are now pregnant for second time round and I do feel a bit left out!

I worry DD will be lonely as she grows older. Glad to have found this thread anyway

[maplesyrup]

my ds is nearly 11, I have never had the urge to have another baby, I'm happy with my one child family and my husband feels the same

[bodycolder]

Ooh hello!I have one ds who is 14 now and have had various times over the years where i have considered another but for various reasons it didn't happen,but I feel my family is as full complete and busy as if I had 10!We are definitely a bit of an open house for ds and his friends and ours and have a real family feel in the house even when its just the 3 of us.All the silly things that i woried about when he was little never happened and he is a lovely happy pita!

[teafortwo]

Thanks for being brave enough to post, whiteElefant...

Welcome to Mumsnet... I look forward to chatting about your lovey daughter with you.

Keep in touch!

[WhiteElefant]

Hi, I have been a lurker on mumsnet for a while now but have managed to resist posting, but having seen this topic I am giving in
I have a 10 (nearly 11) year old DD, an only because I didnt want any more. I was 19 when she was born and was always sure that I would never want another, but I think as I was so young others kept thinking I would have another for a lot longer that they would have had I been older. Its only been the last couple of years that people have mostly stopped asking if I am having another.

[WhizzzingAroundOnABroomstick]

oo I can post in here too

[Mulanmum]

I'm 1 of 4 sibs. Three of us don't have any contact with our older brother and my sister doesn't speak to me so I also don't worry about my DD not having sibs!

[southcoaster]

Mulanmum don't worry, maybe it's good to be more aware of the potential issues so we can try and work against it if necessary.

I have one sister and our relationship isn't that great, DH has 4 siblings but 2 of them are not talking to the rest of the family. So we figure that even if DS has a sibling there is no guarantee that they'll actually get on or that it'll make his life any better iyswim.

We hope he'll get into sports (and that's a big point at the school we found) so finding friends should be easier. Also I am quite happy to get my life (and body) back a little now that he gets older and would love to either start my own business or do a degree or something similar. So I don't see myself turning into one of those mums that just sits at home waiting for her child to call her. My mum is very active with interests and hobbies and a very interesting person, my ideal would be to be something similar to DS one day.

Ok I am rambling, must get on with the day ....

[Mulanmum]

Hello Southcoaster (and arfishy too)

Sorry this topic has caused you some worries about your decision not to add to your family. I wonder if this topic isn't concentrating too much on the negative. I started a thread called Celebrating the One Child Family and only got a couple of replies .

[arfishy]

Hello. How lovely to have our own topic. I have DD, nearly 6 and two grown up stepsons.

I wanted another baby but for various reasons didn't and now DD is nearly 6 I'm not sure I want to go back. Plus I'm overseas and non resident and it would all be too hard. And I'm 38.

Although I might get a sleeping one if I tried again .

[southcoaster]

Hello here too from me and DS who is 18 months. DH and I have just decided that he will be our only one and until tonight I felt good about it .... then I read the other threads under this topic and so many questions and worries came up ... so I'm glad to have found this.

Families are abroad and we live in a rural area so not much of a chance for DS to have many friends in the road. Also two sets of closest friends have decided not to have children at all. But I'm all ready for toddler groups etc, also he's at nursery 3 mornings a week and i plan to increase it by the time he's 3. We have found a brilliant school not far away which will mean lots going on, sports and after-school activities so hopefully he won't feel lonely. And surely all he needs is me???

[LindzDelirium]

ooooh finally our own section hooray!

love from Lindz and DD 6.2 x

[teafortwo]

Thanks Rindercella too!

[teafortwo]

madmad - you are not mad or bad at all!!! Infact you are very sweet and kind!



Thanks

Lets talk about something different now!!!

[Rindercella]

Quite agree with you Madbad - Tf2, you did not make a fool of yourself on the other thread. Quite surprised that anyone could/would be so bothered about this topic to start an AIBU thread about it!

[MadBadandDangerousToKnow]

Teafortwo - your instruction came too late. I'd already looked.



For what it's worth now, I didn't think you had made a big big fool of yourself. At the time, I just thought you were being extra-specially sweet and gracious in order to disarm those who were flinging a surprising (to me, anyway) amount of vitriol in your/our/this topic's direction.

Anyway, we've got our topic. It can be used by those who want it and ignored by those who don't.

[Rindercella]

Wow Seabright! Many congratulations on your pregnancy. How fantastic that your baby is going to have a couple of big brothers to watch out for him/her. I know that my DSS will always there for DD. DH is serious jokes about his DS chaperoning DD to parties when she is older! DSS is 18, DD is 13 months.

[Bucharest]

Oooh brilliant! That was quick work!
One child, aged 5, I'm old and apart from that am a well-adjusted only daughter of an only son.....
Phew...a safe haven....

[Seabright]

OK, can't make strike-out work. Imagine "over the hill" was struck through.

[Seabright]

Hello, am also glad for this topic. DP & I expecting DC1 in 3 weeks. He already has 2 x DS who are 25 & 26, so a big gap! Their reaction was "Bloody Hell Dad!" but seem quite excited about it all now.

It'll be our only DC together as we are both over the hill older than average, but young at heart!

[teafortwo]

welcome elizabethsmum!!!!

[teafortwo]

No no no!!!! - Noone-else look at said thread- I made a big big fool of myself - the less people that read it the better. SO - madbad - stay away - stay away I say!!!!

Look at this one instead - this one is extremely, very, really nice....

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/living_overseas/613580-from-our-own-correspondent