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Yes, staying at home. Dryer bit of the machine is playing up so will go to the launderette tomorrow night or stupidly early Saturday morning.

SB has said he'd like to wear pants tomorrow when I asked. I've told him we'll have an at-home day we'll do some more Pp projects (we're doing activities/coloring/making things for each letter in the order of Jolly Phonics), we'll practice using scissors and cut & paste lots of things, do puzzles (he's really got into puzzles lately and has been doing a 36 piece cardboard one that goes on a board with no picture to look at he'll do it, tip it over and do it again), watch trains & Cbeebies and generally have a good day in with lots of sitting on the toilet. What he doesn't know is I'm armed with sparkly stickers and chocolate trains.

Stickers and chocolate treats are just what you need!

He got a chocolate train for his first swim class this term. I have two boxes less that one he ate after swimming of them.

Aw. If you keep up the constant reminders about the loo, it'll go fine, I'm sure. And then you can have a chocolate feast.

He likes climbing up and sitting on the toilet but seems to only want to do it fully clothed. Chocolate's ready. I need to dig out the stickers.

Oh, the train at the first swim was because I knew how nervous and excited he was to go into the pool with just his teacher & friends. He was very brave and listened well so I thought he deserved a surprise reward.

But maybe he will want to sit on the loo partially-undressed when his big boy pants are at stake? Fingers crossed.

That's what I'm hoping, especially since he said he wants to wear the red pair (red is his favorite color).

Oh, bless him. Have you got lots of spare pants ready?

It was a 7-pack. I think I also got a pack in the US but need to try to remember where I put them if I did get them.

If you run out of pants he can always go comando.

good luck Scout!

::waves at scout::
good luck with pants. I found Oxboy liked to stand to wee, that was the break through - ideally outside

Shame it's so cold or we'd go commando outside all day. If nothing else it would give my neighbor a chuckle. (She's a nurse on a ward at the YOUT hospital so naked bums wouldn't bother her.)

Good luck Scout and SB!

and pastries are on the side on this chilly Friday morning.

We have failed at the first hurdle. He sat bottomless but I didn't have to bribe him, oh no. Got the pants on him. Kept saying we're going to the toilet after breakfast. He was resisting. I went, was just going to get him and remind him again of the bribe and he did both in his pants and wasn't the least bit bothered by it. Got him on the loo bottomless and gave him the reward sticker for being bottomless on the toilet. (Sticker for sitting bottomless, chocolate train for something in the toilet.)

The fact he wasn't bothered by the wet pants isn't promising, is it?

He's currently bottomless playing with his car and lift track thing, oblivious to his half nakedness.

It's too soon to say, Scout. This is just a minor setback. Would it better to say "we're going to the toilet right now" rather than in so many minutes or after such and such a thing? He's probably too little to have that sense of time.

That's what I did but he made a huge fuss about "I don't want to!" that feared a huge meltdown to get on the loo.

Don't panic Scout! The first day Small Bean went to nursery in 'Big Boy Pants' I collected seven pairs of wet pants and trousers at pick-up. The next day it was down to just a couple and by the end of the week he was pretty much dry.

Keep popping him on the toilet every 30 mins of so, lots of stickers for just sitting on the toilet, lots and lots of praise every time he does something.

And just remember, it's not the final chance. If after a few days you decide that this isn't the right time you can always make a choice to put the pants away for a few weeks and try again.

But stay positive - it will be fine.

Oh, I know it's not a do-now-or-never sort of thing. I'm perfectly willing to put him back in diapers if needed. It was the lack of upset at wetting himself that made me as I thought he'd hate being wet (given things like he doesn't like picking up a lot of finger food, like fruit, preferring a fork).

We're now sitting watching videos on the computer. He's still naked from the waist down. He's having a cuddle, sitting on a towel that's been folded many times. I'm going to start going for the every half-hour on the loo, protests or not.

SmallBoy is loving this. I think we've now watched it a dozen times.

Any tips for getting him to stay on? He suddenly doesn't want to stay and he doesn't want a sticker. I've sung, counted (he lives counting, so it's not me being mean), offered to read a story....

Oh dear. I've just had sobbing of "I don't want to sit on toilet! I don't want to be big. I want a nappy.". I think that's us for the day the. . No point in stressing him out.

Yes, that's enough for one day. Try again tomorrow?

I told him we'd have a couple of nights sleep and try again next week. He said that was okay. He said he's happy to have his nappy back on.