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Moving, end of maternity leave. Emotional wreck. Is nursery beneficial?

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littlebopeep1991 · 20/07/2025 12:51

lol Not really sure why I’m writing this but just needed a bit of a vent and emotional support.

we are in the process of moving out of mine and my partner’s first home that we had together. It’s where our baby boy came home to. We are doing a slow move out into my mums house which was my childhood family home and she is only going to live there partially now and partially with my sister. The house is much bigger and gives us both a home office to work from and much larger garden etc for
our little boy so makes sense to move. We can’t afford somewhere bigger ourselves.

it’s odd as it’s the first place that has truly felt like my home (the house we are moving back to always had as it’s where I grew up and moved back and forwards many times) I think due to starting my family there. Moving back here doesn’t feel like my home now. It has lots of my mums things in and I can’t have things exactly as I’d like without upsetting her. We are living in chaos of
sorting and unpacking. Everytime I go to collect more things I burst into tears. I’m starting to feel like this was a big mistake.

On top of this my maternity leave finishes and I’m back to work this Tuesday. We had my little boys first settling in session last week and he was hysterical the whole time. It’s making me feel like I shouldn’t be going back to work and should be looking after him instead.

is there much evidence that nursery for 1 year olds is beneficial?

just a bit of an emotional wreck!

BeckyAMumsnet · 29/07/2025 12:08

Hello @littlebopeep1991 that sounds really tough with lots of change all at once, and it's totally understandable you're feeling overwhelmed. Moving house, going back to work, and starting childcare are all big things individually let alone happening together.

You’re definitely not alone in feeling this way, and there are some great threads running at the moment that we think might really help you. We’re working with the Department for Education to help parents navigate the changes to free childcare, and there’s a Q&A with an experienced Early Years teacher happening right now where you can ask questions or just read what others are saying about finding the right setting.There’s also this ongoing thread where posters are sharing their experiences of settling little ones into nursery - might be worth a look if you're after reassurance or ideas.

Anyway - we thought it might be helpful. Good luck.

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