Teacher hit me

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So my son just started nursery, he is 3 and this was his settling in week. Everything was going well until the last couple of days he done home and said his teacher and another senior member of staff hislt him and threw him. On those two days he came hone super angry and change in behaviour. I've withdrawn him from the school. Has anyone had such experience and reported to ofsted and safeguarding bodies? What was the outcome?

Not saying your child is lying but when my niece is told no, she will say she was hit by that person, even though she most definitely was not.

All children should be believed. There was a case near me of a teacher hitting a pupil and she was sacked, it does happen!

One can only assume that there was some evidence!

Sure, the odd bad apple teacher may hit students, same as the odd bad apple nurse will kill patients. But, there is usually evidence in an educational setting, cctv in younger settings, and corroboration by other pupils in older settings.

I have a friend whose child accused her, at nursery, of stabbing her really hard with a knife in a certain place on the body, with detail about how lots of blood spurted out. A report was made but with no action as child didn’t have a mark on them there or anywhere else. One of my own kids accused me of physically hurting one of their siblings in a very specific way. Apparently they it. Nope, never happened, and the sibling it supposedly happened to was gobsmacked and told them it never happened. To this day as an adult, they still believe ‘their truth’ and when told until blue in face by that sibling and other siblings (who supposedly were all there and saw it as well) that this never happened they claim they are being gaslit🤯. So, it is indeed ‘their truth’ but just never happened. I think we all know people like that 😝.

i work in a school - one of our reception children swore blind to her parents that my name is ‘Mrs Washing Machine’. To the point that the parent felt conpelled to double check with me. Needless to say, that is not my name.

My daughter always talked fondly of the Long Lady, the Curly Lady, the Brown Lady etc from Kindergarten. We were out shopping and she excitedly said There's the Brown Lady over there! She hadn't been in Kindergarten long and I didn't know all the staff's names but I had seen a West Indian member of staff so I looked round, expecting to see her when a stranger said Hello to her. Later I asked why she called her the Brown Lady, apparently she always wore a brown tabard, the Long Lady had long hair and the Curly lady was the West Indian as I gradually found out.

I love that Gif,

Sorry, no real interest in the thread, just saw that gif and thought, WOW!

We must be robots and only answer specifically to the ops perspectives

This thread is actually batshit from the perspective of the long-absent, victim OP!

It veery occasionally happen, in almost 20 years working in schools, I have not met a single case like that, but I had two colleagues accused of things by kids that turned out to be made up, but the false accusations had a devastating effect on both individuals, even despite being cleared.
All cases should be looked into and investigated, that does not mean you know of a ONE case where it turned out to be true that all 3yo are being chucked around the nursery.

Ive remembered another one. A school nursery parent accused the TA of locking her child in the outdoor toy cupboard. I showed her the cupboard which was covered by a curtain so couldn't possibly have been locked. I expect the child was imagining what it would be like and scared herself.

Unusual at 3? It really really isn't!

I'm assume you would check out the facts before resorting to aggression, let alone actual violence and assault.

but its completely different.

We are now a younger centric culture in most the UK etc... which means people focus on and protect the young not the old. Many elderly are in care homes because family have ditched out on the obligations to care for them themselves. Its not nice but the reason elder abuse happens is because people are 'too busy' living life to care or even notice.

With children however they almost all have a network of parents and caregivers that are watching over them. Some (like OP) with Precious First Baby Syndrome are looking for a fight to cement their 'protective mama bear' status. There a village that comes together to watch and lots of safeguards in place.

Compare it to elder centric cultures where young kids (sometimes starting in toddlerhood) are expected to be independent and often work/run the house. While there parents tend to their elderly family members and you won't see this kind of hyperbolic outrage at a clearly imaginative toddler story.

I don't know whether it happened or not, and it would have been wise to raise it. I do know that little one can lie-my son came home from nursery insistent he'd been to the moon, because he read a story about it. Apparently I was not to ask his teacher about it!

Zero-G travel definitely needs a signed parental permission slip 🤣

But it was a local trip within walking distance so the OP probably pre-agreed to it when they joined the nursery. 😁

Oh come on, you know what I'm saying. Do your own research instead of going with random people on the internet saying it couldn't have possibly happened that don't know your child 😶

When I look at the pittance that is paid to care for our most vulnerable people - babies and the elderly, it doesn’t surprise me at all that they are hit. If more education and a commensurate pay rate was required, this would improve things.

HappyMeal564
The chances of it being 1 member of staff is rare but to have two members of staff who both do this in the same setting while other staff members watch on and do nothing - the probability for that is way lower than rare.

This is possibly the most offensive post I have ever seen on any forum.
Are you really suggesting that just because someone is low paid or only has GCSE level or A level qualifications they will be an abuser!!!!

(And as an aside, many nursery staff have degrees in Early Yeaes and teaching, so they are not uneducated but still are low paid)

@NeunundneunzigHorseBallonz That is one of the most offensive posts I have ever read. I'd report it-but I think it should stay so you have to defend your views.

I didn’t explain that well at all. I meant that we leave our vulnerable people in the care of others who are paid only slightly above minimum wage. It’s super expensive for those who are paying for care for their loved ones, but the actual carers are being paid an absolute pittance for what is an extremely demanding job with much responsibility. MOST carers are lovely, but some are not. I keep hearing about elderly abuse and child abuse in care situations and it is cited that the abusers are often restentful, burnt out, cynical and feel entitled. In an ideal world, there would be more carers, who are paid a decent wage commensurate with their responsibilities and more checks to ensure that everyone’s safe. Obviously the costs would have to be pulled from government funding because it’s already unaffordable for a lot of people as it is.

But the amount of abuse reported in care homes happens. It has nothing to do with degree or education, but being in a position of power over someone who cannot report it and on top of that being paid pennies.

No, it's nothing to to with being paid pennies.

I agree that abuse happens, it is really and needs to be stopped. But you can't say it's due to the rate of pay.

People do not abuse others because their wages are low.

I'm not sure you understood what I wrote- it's mainly the being in a position of power, but you can't deny incredible stress and being underpaid that adds onto it are not a factor. You have to have a predisposition to be violent, but it's more likely to happen if you have opportunities (working with vulnerable) and if circumstances are exacerbated by tough conditions creating a feeling of being used/undervalued. I saw people treat each other (or talking about clients) much worse in minimum wage jobs than in an office. It's not an insult, I did both over the years. So yes, there is a correlation between pay, whether direct or indirect (creating a stressful cituation).

Wouldyouguess
Abuse is a choice behaviour and that alone. Nothing else causes it other than the person who does it chooses to do so.