Teacher hit me

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So my son just started nursery, he is 3 and this was his settling in week. Everything was going well until the last couple of days he done home and said his teacher and another senior member of staff hislt him and threw him. On those two days he came hone super angry and change in behaviour. I've withdrawn him from the school. Has anyone had such experience and reported to ofsted and safeguarding bodies? What was the outcome?

What did the nursery say about it?

My 3 year old says ridiculous things like this that obviously aren't true. You've withdrawn him already?!

What did they say when you spoke to them about it?

Why are they obviously not true? Unfortunately things do happen that shouldn't. Children shouldn't instantly be dismissed as lying.

I think you need to speak to the school OP to get to the bottom of things. Do you know any of the other parents?

He's been going for a few days and you've already made a choice to withdraw him? That's a huge overreaction!

Kids of 3 say all kinds of nonsense, you're putting a lot of stock into what he's said, did you even talk to the teachers?

I'd be more concerned if he had just said they hit him. That might have happened without anyone seeing but it is unlikely that the threw him or every child would have told their parents.

Also remember 3 year olds are still very new to language and often aren't as skilled with ot as they sound.

It doesn't mean you don't take it seriously or report it. Just be measured.

The odds that two separate members of staff both hit and threw a 3yo are negligible. You might have one bad member of staff, but two at once? And not just hitting, but throwing a child? Which would have been witnessed?

Never happened. Your 3yo may well be struggling with something, but 3yos also often have a great deal of difficulty telling the difference between something that actually happened and something they dreamed/imagined/heard in a story.

I'm not saying my 3 year old is lying, I'm saying he has a vivid imagination and makes up things. Which 3 year olds do. For instance, he told my parents that my husband broke his ankle falling down the stairs... He didn't. He just saw his daddy trip on a stair and made shit up because his language skills are incredible. My mum was really worried! 😂

In this situation I'd assume nursery have told the OP's son off for doing something naughty and he's hit an adult, not the other way around. Kids fabricate things and lie, it's developmental.

What have the nursery said about it?

Be very careful in how you speak to your ds about it. It may be worth contacting the NSPCC for advice on how to deal with it.

I'll bet your son threw something and got told off for it.

You really think members of staff hit him and threw him?

I would have checked with the nursery because it's likely that there was an explanation like an accidental bump (hit) and the child stumbling and knocked over (throw)

My son said his nursery teacher stepped on his fingers, threw a baby doll at him. He also tells porkies. It never happened, kids do say stuff. I bet something hapoens where he says you hit him or something.

You really should speak to the nursery. You're going to be in for a rough few years if you withdraw over everything your child says.

Does the nursery not have cctv. This is why when I managed a nursery we had cctv.

His mood may have changed because he was just starting nursery.

Terrible things happen but to be honest it's not that common

I think keeping child home from school/nursery is the right course of action until OP gets the bottom of everything.
OP, speak to the teachers. They need to be aware of what is happing and what is being said.

The odd accidental bump wouldn't be unheard of when little kids often stand super close to others as they haven't learned personal space issues. For example if a little child was walking behind me and I suddenly stopped, they might not have left big enough distance to react and stop before they reached me.

Ignore everyone who’s saying he’s making it up. I actually witnessed this happen at a nursery when I was collecting my child (my child wasn’t hit someone else’s was). I put in a complaint and they reviewed the cctv and we had a netting about it (assuming staff member was fired but I don’t know as I took my child out also). It does happen. I don’t know if the parent ever found out though as I didn’t know who she was to tell her

My little one screams blue murder and says "X hit me" when that person is nowhere to be seen. It's a phase. I can't believe you've withdrawn him already.

Much more likely your DC threw something that hit another child and got told off. Not a criticism because my DS also had a chucking phase and did it once at nursery when he was 2. But I definitely wouldn’t jump to conclusions and pull him out without talking to the nursery to get to the bottom of it. Chances are there’s an explanation.

My son said he was abandoned in the corridor "for hours" the truth was they counted them in from the garden and counted them when they were in the room realised they were one short opened the door to the corridor and there he was they changed policy after that so they counted them INTO the room but apart from that it was fine but to hear his story he was their most the day he just lagged behind

Does your child have Any bruises? Has he ever said anything similar?

I agree with pp about speaking to nursery, and sooner rather than later.

Many years ago a 3yr old told his mum that "nokids slapped his face everyday". She quite rightly came to talk to the nursery manager and I was more than mortified (and a little angry that she even asked me)of being accused of doing so. However, after some light questioning of the child with his mum by the deputy manager, it turned out that he was talking about me stroking his cheek at nap time.

All was well but it could have been a much different outcome handled differently. I'm very pleased that the mum came to talk to nursery before jumping to conclusions although I have to say, more than 30yrs later, I'm still hurt that anyone could even think that of me.

I'm not saying every instance will be above board or a mistake but, after more than 40yrs working with under 12s, nursery really should be your first communication.

Ignore the posters saying it didn't happen, they quite obviously weren't there. Does the nursery have cctv they can check for you?

Ignore the gif, heaven knows how i managed that!

I bumped into my grandma’s arm when I was 3 and her coffee was knocked over my arm. I told everyone in A&E that grandma had thrown coffee over me. From my perspective that’s what it looked like!