Teacher hit me

[AdaUserName92]

So my son just started nursery, he is 3 and this was his settling in week. Everything was going well until the last couple of days he done home and said his teacher and another senior member of staff hislt him and threw him. On those two days he came hone super angry and change in behaviour. I've withdrawn him from the school. Has anyone had such experience and reported to ofsted and safeguarding bodies? What was the outcome?

If it's true that's terrible. However if it's not he now knows exactly what to do to get out of nursery. I really think you need to speak with nursery because if it's true you need to press charges. If it's not then you need to make him understand it won't be tolerated

I think the people insisting there is no possible way a child was ever harmed in nursery have their head in the sand.

Good for you for not taking him back. His fear and emotional response to returning are as much an indicator that something happened as the words he told you.

I await deletion any second now...

Ada, unfortunately you don’t get to control who replies or what they say when you post on a public forum. No-one is going to reply saying that their 3 yo said a teacher hit them and that they went straight to ofsted because that would be a very unusual course of action. Not immediately assuming that a 3 y olds words are accurate is wise, not unkind. He is clearly distressed and you need to find out why. Sometimes tiny children can’t explain why they are distressed so use something else that they know is bad, they are unable to articulate the problem. A 3 yo is very unlikely to say ‘I’m really tired after my first week at nursery and no one wanted to play with me today and I missed mummy’ or ‘I’m really unsettled with the change in routine and find it hard sharing’.

Why didn't you discuss it with the staff, and police if you think this happened?

Withdrawing him seems a very odd reaction. I would first if all speak to the nursery. Three year olds say all kinds of things! It is highly unlikely that one let alone two members of staff would have hit your child.

Yup.

You sound rather unbalanced with all your talk about toxicity. In any case this is not a government info site. People do tend to post their opinions on this kind of site!

Yes this happened to me. A teacher and a senior teacher hit and threw my child during settling in week. I reported to OFSTED and they said ‘this didn’t happen go and speak to the bloody nursery’

At about 3 my DD would say “mummy hit me” if she had hit me because she would get the person doing the action and the person the action was being done to the wrong way round in the sentence.

But specifically, you can report to Ofsted and they’ll give a single account relayed by a toddler to a parent who doesn’t even appear to have spoken to the nursery manager the appropriate level of credence.

One of my pupils ( 4, maybe still 3) went home and told his mum the police came to nursery and took me away in a police car. Nope, didn’t happen but mum seemed surprised her child would make this up…

I would investigate what happened first.

I was in a MAJOR life changing event at 3... I remember that day burned into my brain forever, but those memories have ZERO concept of time.

I could put it all in order but couldn't tell you if there was 10 minutes or 2 hours between the event happening and the police man carrying me away etc...

My DS is 5 and declared the barely 10 minutes we where in the supermarket was 'over 2 hours' to his dad yesterday.

@AdaUserName92
Have you followed the complaints procedure?
Have you spoken to the nursery?
What have they said?

I reported to nursery management. The cctv was reviews and the staff member was dismissed (it was much less significant than hitting or throwing btw).

I don't really understand what you are asking? How can you possibly report them to ofsted if you haven't spoken to them first?

You asked whether anyone has had a similar experience and reported to Ofsted. From the responses it seems as though no one has.

You’ve withdrawn him from the nursery. I think, if you were to report to Ofsted, they would want to hear from you and from the nursery, to get a balanced view. I don’t know whether they would speak to your child, or whether you would want them to.

You took the word of a 3yr old, who is only just learning the meaning of language! Christ my granddaughter comes out with all sorts, most not true ! You are going to have some challenging times ahead between now and him leaving school, if your first reaction is to remove him from nursery without any discussions with staff.

You reek far more of toxicity OP. Really.

All you ask is if anyone has had such an experience and what did they do about it. The answer from me is no. If I did I would ask at the nursery for their version of events. Surely that's common sense. Then if I decided there was something to be concerned about I would take it further.

I clicked on this as I assumed the teacher had hit YOU, the parent.
That's what your title says.

Do you want to get MNHQ to change the title ?

My DS blames his sister for things where shes not in the same room (or even building) ALL THE TIME. It's his go to panic lie when he thinks hes in trouble.

There zero point 'investigating' that my sleeping baby in the cot upstairs did not wake up, sneak down and pull out the kitchen draw trying to climb up to get a cookie when I literally caught him in the act.

What did the Nursey say? Presumably you've brought it up with them? Not just come into mumsnet as that would be odd!

You post a goady misleading title and then moan that you're not getting the answers you're looking for.

No one can answer you until you specify if you've been through the official channels first.

Talk about over egging an omelette.

If you did not want anyone to reply to your post as a whole . Maybe you should have just asked has anyone ever reported a member of staff for hitting their child if so what was the outcome?