Nursery asking us to come and change nappy

[fari2014]

Hi,

My son has place in nursery connected to school. The nursery saying they don't have nappy changing facilities and if child soils themselves or nappy needs changing. They will call parents to come and do it.

Is this normal? Do all nurseries connected to school do this?

Any SEN?

I've always found nursery IME (although 2 of my kids are long left school) likes them to be potty trained by then. I could imagine something like this happening.

How old is the child?

Nursery? As in 2 years up? Because if so, that's ridiculous.

Unless SEN I believe it’s a prerequisite for kids to be potty trained before attending a nursery attached to a school.
If they had an accident then I would assume they would clean them up.

Yes. By school nursery age, NT children are expected to be toilet trained. Many nurseries have neither the staff nor the facilities for changing nappies.

My son starts next week and I’m worried about this although they haven’t specifically said anything. What if he does it in his pants?

What age do they take children from? If it’s just the pre school year then I suppose it’s not totally unreasonable. So, children would be 3.
Younger than this is unreasonable IMO.

Have you just found this out or is the place for next year?

Have a look on the ERIC website, it’s illegal for educational establishments to withhold a place or provide personal care to an individual based on their continence.

The establishment must show that they are unable to provide accommodations for this need, not just that they are unwilling.

Oh. We have a nursery attached to the school but they start from 2.5, it goes through to preschool age but they start young like regular childcare provision.

If a school nursery where you can join only from after 3 then yabu

Just like if/when they have accidents at school, they will give them clean pants/trousers and ask them to change.

If it's a school nursery and the children are at least 3 then that's quite normal, unless there are SEN to take into account.

They will help out after an accident in pants, that happens with small children, but they won't take a child in nappies and regularly change them (unless the child has additional needs and help has been put in place).

@NancyJoan A large number of children are not even being assessed let alone diagnosed with SEN/ASN at nursery age. What you’ve said is just not true.

Children are usually 3 when they start nursery connected to schools so I assume most of the children will be out of nappies.

The odd accident in pants is dealt with.

At my childrens nursery ( could go from age 2.5yrs) if they soiled , You had to go in to change them, They v.rarely took on children still in nappies though.

I would question them on what they mean. The nappy thing is easily understandable, but do they mean that if a child wets themselves in pants, which does happen quite often even for 3yos, they will leave them wet until a parent comes? Or will they expect the child to change themselves (my DD could manage this with a bit of guidance at just 3 and can do it fine at 3.5)? Or will they change wet accidents but not do poo? It's a bit vague.

From the website.

www.eric.org.uk/help-at-school-faqs

What age? At nursery 3+, in preparation for school most will be in pants not nappies.

Yes, all the school nurseries near here ask the same. Although if they have an accident they’re happy if the child changes their own clothes for dry ones, they just don’t assist

Not on MN.

He is 3 but in nappies. He is non-verbal and not indicating his toilet needs. He will be SEN and waiting for diagnosis for autism. He will be going to nursery for 3 hours a day from next week.

Did you discuss it at all when you went to look around?

I've worked in nurseries for years. This is the first time I have ever heard of one without nappy changing facilities. Even if there is no SEN lots of pre school age children won't be toilet trained. This is not right. I'd find another one if I were you asap, this is crazy!

Is this a 2 or 3+ nursery?
A 3+ nursery shouldn't be expected to change nappies. I assume they have perfectly good toilets! It's a bit silly (unless there's SEN) for a 3 year old to be in nappies especially during the day. A 2+ nursery I'm on the fence. Mine weren't but it isn't uncommon for a 2-2,5 year old to still be in nappies.

OP I am the same as you. My DS is 3 and still in nappies, starting next week and it’s attached to a school, for 3 hours a day. I’m really unsure if to send him in nappies or pants.